Tuesday, May 11, 2010
An Apology
Sorry, dear Readers, for my lack of posts. The internet has been spotty. I will begin posting again as soon as it improves. Look for more interesting information on influencing people in a few short weeks.
Wednesday, March 10, 2010
Step 2: Approach Indirectly
As a seducer, you need to create a false sense of security for your victim. They need to believe that they are safe...at first. To that end, disguise your Seducer Character in your manner at this stage. You want them comfortable; one of the best ways to do this is to make friends with your target. Go from friend to confidante to lover, arrange "chance" encounters, etc.
As a seducer, you must learn to move people in the direction you want them to go--without them knowing it:
1. Get their attention and stir their desire.
2. Friendly conversation gets information.
3. Spending time with your victim makes them comfortable with you.
***Once he/she starts to think of you, he/she will wonder why you never made a move. Then, he/she will make one, and they will think that they are seducing you.
Important Steps
1. Make them come to you: Remember that to do this you must (a) entice them, (b) give them "green light" signals, and (c) give them space to chase you.
2. Make friends--but still keep a distance that is appropriate for opposite sex friends: You don't want to be too chummy; you want your victim to feel secure but still think of you as a member of the opposite sex.
3. Play cat and mouse: You need to be actively drawing in your victim. If you don't keep them interested, they will go to someone else.
*****Special Notes:
ALWAYS avoid crowding your targets.
Try a few of these strategies:
-Banal conversation can be brilliant when it comes to hypnotizing your target. If you don't mention love or other emotions, their absence can speak volumes.
-Boring details followed by bold demands.
-Get to your target through other people.
-Disguise your feelings and let people guess at them (= Mystery). Overt emotion or ambition can frighten many people.
Ladies and Gentlemen, "friends first" may be somewhat cliche but it certainly puts your target at ease. Try it. But no matter what strategy you choose to employ, keep yourself within your target's view. They need to know that you are there without your presence being intrusive.
Best of luck with your targets. I have mine all picked out.
As a seducer, you must learn to move people in the direction you want them to go--without them knowing it:
1. Get their attention and stir their desire.
2. Friendly conversation gets information.
3. Spending time with your victim makes them comfortable with you.
***Once he/she starts to think of you, he/she will wonder why you never made a move. Then, he/she will make one, and they will think that they are seducing you.
Important Steps
1. Make them come to you: Remember that to do this you must (a) entice them, (b) give them "green light" signals, and (c) give them space to chase you.
2. Make friends--but still keep a distance that is appropriate for opposite sex friends: You don't want to be too chummy; you want your victim to feel secure but still think of you as a member of the opposite sex.
3. Play cat and mouse: You need to be actively drawing in your victim. If you don't keep them interested, they will go to someone else.
*****Special Notes:
ALWAYS avoid crowding your targets.
Try a few of these strategies:
-Banal conversation can be brilliant when it comes to hypnotizing your target. If you don't mention love or other emotions, their absence can speak volumes.
-Boring details followed by bold demands.
-Get to your target through other people.
-Disguise your feelings and let people guess at them (= Mystery). Overt emotion or ambition can frighten many people.
Ladies and Gentlemen, "friends first" may be somewhat cliche but it certainly puts your target at ease. Try it. But no matter what strategy you choose to employ, keep yourself within your target's view. They need to know that you are there without your presence being intrusive.
Best of luck with your targets. I have mine all picked out.
Monday, February 15, 2010
Starting Phase One: Stirring desire
There are 8 steps in phase one, but more often than not you will do many of them simultaneously. Since they cannot be taught that way, I'll take you through them one by one.
Step 1: Choosing the right Victim
This is THE most important step. Why? Because it does you absolutley no good to try to charm someone who is not susceptible to you. In fact, that is where most people get so frustrated in their relationships--one person far more involved than the other. Do yourself a favor and test your victim to see if they react to you before setting your plans in motion. Choose your victims carefully. Here's how:
1. Choose people who react to you: If they react, then they are susceptible. Reactions can be both good and bad. Men: If you make a pretty girl blush, she is susceptible. Ladies: If you can make a man angry, he is susceptible. And vice versa.
There are many ways to tell if a person is susceptible to you, but remember not to pay too much attention to what the person says. What they say has been thought about, edited, and filtered. They've made a few calculations too, whether they realize it or not. Pay more attention to what they can't control--body language, breathing, blushes, flashes of emotion on thir faces or in their eyes. These are much less controlled, much less calculated. They are the truth.
2. Choose a victim that you have feelings for, who intrigues you: If you have feelings for your victim, then those feelings will make your machinations seem less calculated, make all of your overtures more genuine...because they are. You actually want the person. Also, you will be more creative in getting what you want. And creativity is essential.
This person needs to stir you on some level, though what that level is depends on you. A Gentleman friend of mine is a quintessential Roue. He loves "Goody Two Shoe" women. They stir him. A Lady friend of mine is a Beatuty and has always wanted a man that can admire her for her mind, so she falls for men that do not begin a conversation by telling her than she is beautiful but that she is intelligent.
3. Study your Victim: Find out what you can about them, especially about what they want/lack. Then you know how to formulate your seduction (i.e. bored people can be tempted with seduction, people who believe that they are immune to seduction need a much more subtle approach, etc). You need to know what they need before you can provide it. Find what Victim Type they are.
Remember that your choice of target is critical. It determines everything that will follow. And test your target to see if they are susceptible to you: say something geared to get a response from them, dress a certain way to see if they take notice, play with them. This is a little game of cat and mouse to start with; you must see if they are willing to play. A few body language keys: mirroring your gestures, turning their bodies toward you, an unusual shyness, a flash of anger/resentment--these are all reactions to you. They are susceptible.
When your chosen target is indifferent to you, there is almost nothing that you can do about it. At that moment, you may as well move on. There is very little to gain aside from frustration at that point. Any reaction is better than no reaction at all.
A Special Note:
1. Appearances are important. You need to present yourself well. Men, be gentlemen. Ladies, be ladies. There are more than enough crass and vulgar people in this world. Mostly, we are used to them, but we do not want to be wooed by them.
2. Appearances are also superficial and deceiving. Don't be deceived by them. Many times, shy people want to be brought out of their shells and extroverts are insecure. Play on that. Don't be deceived by it.
Step 1: Choosing the right Victim
This is THE most important step. Why? Because it does you absolutley no good to try to charm someone who is not susceptible to you. In fact, that is where most people get so frustrated in their relationships--one person far more involved than the other. Do yourself a favor and test your victim to see if they react to you before setting your plans in motion. Choose your victims carefully. Here's how:
1. Choose people who react to you: If they react, then they are susceptible. Reactions can be both good and bad. Men: If you make a pretty girl blush, she is susceptible. Ladies: If you can make a man angry, he is susceptible. And vice versa.
There are many ways to tell if a person is susceptible to you, but remember not to pay too much attention to what the person says. What they say has been thought about, edited, and filtered. They've made a few calculations too, whether they realize it or not. Pay more attention to what they can't control--body language, breathing, blushes, flashes of emotion on thir faces or in their eyes. These are much less controlled, much less calculated. They are the truth.
2. Choose a victim that you have feelings for, who intrigues you: If you have feelings for your victim, then those feelings will make your machinations seem less calculated, make all of your overtures more genuine...because they are. You actually want the person. Also, you will be more creative in getting what you want. And creativity is essential.
This person needs to stir you on some level, though what that level is depends on you. A Gentleman friend of mine is a quintessential Roue. He loves "Goody Two Shoe" women. They stir him. A Lady friend of mine is a Beatuty and has always wanted a man that can admire her for her mind, so she falls for men that do not begin a conversation by telling her than she is beautiful but that she is intelligent.
3. Study your Victim: Find out what you can about them, especially about what they want/lack. Then you know how to formulate your seduction (i.e. bored people can be tempted with seduction, people who believe that they are immune to seduction need a much more subtle approach, etc). You need to know what they need before you can provide it. Find what Victim Type they are.
Remember that your choice of target is critical. It determines everything that will follow. And test your target to see if they are susceptible to you: say something geared to get a response from them, dress a certain way to see if they take notice, play with them. This is a little game of cat and mouse to start with; you must see if they are willing to play. A few body language keys: mirroring your gestures, turning their bodies toward you, an unusual shyness, a flash of anger/resentment--these are all reactions to you. They are susceptible.
When your chosen target is indifferent to you, there is almost nothing that you can do about it. At that moment, you may as well move on. There is very little to gain aside from frustration at that point. Any reaction is better than no reaction at all.
A Special Note:
1. Appearances are important. You need to present yourself well. Men, be gentlemen. Ladies, be ladies. There are more than enough crass and vulgar people in this world. Mostly, we are used to them, but we do not want to be wooed by them.
2. Appearances are also superficial and deceiving. Don't be deceived by them. Many times, shy people want to be brought out of their shells and extroverts are insecure. Play on that. Don't be deceived by it.
Wednesday, February 3, 2010
Before starting, You need to know....
Here's a few quick notes on the seduction process, things you need to do as a seducer, and problems that people cause themselves.
The Process:
As I have said many times, this is a game, and it's an enjoyable one. Seduction should bring pleasure to both parties, not only one. These can be quick Casanova-like seductions, but he left his victims loving him as well. This game is very much like chess, requiring time, patience, and thought.
Things you need to do:
1. Observation. You need to learn this skill and practice often. I can give you steps, advice, etc. but you must watch and learn things about your victim. You are the one that is there.
2. Imagination. Seduction should transport your victim from the every day to somewhere else; this is impossible to do without imagination. Where you go depends on you victim.
3. Patience. Don't try to rush your victim through the steps. It takes time to seduce .
4. Mystery. This is the center of seduction. If you get too familiar with people, they get too comfortable and the relationship gets boring and routine. Avoid this (i.e. Periodically, re-seduce the people in your life).
5. Focus and strategic thinking. You need to be one step ahead of your victim. I will teach you how.
Problems:
1. Don't be selfish. People tend to think only about their own issues/ anxieties/ concerns/ etc, but you are different. You are a seducer, and you think outside the box. So focus on your victim, not yourself.
2. Don't rush your seduction! The longer you take, the deeper the seduction gets. If you rush, you are being selfish. And, from an expert, the longer seductions are extremely satisfying.
3. Don't be self-absorbed. Most people think more about what they can get from others than what they can give. You shouldn't. Your victims love you because you give them pleasure, not the other way around.
4. Don't be merciful. You need to draw the victim out of his/her daily life. This can be uncomfortable or painful for some, but it's necessary.
5. Don't be timid. You may play at shyness, but you are not timid. Shynes is bashfulness (maybe you blush and draw back a bit). Timidity means that you lack self-assurance, courage, bravery. Seducers cannot be timid.
Also, romantic seductions require a more physical form of foreplay, which we will go into later. For social/political seductions, foreplay is psychological and emotional. The only difference between these and a romantic seduction is adding the physical component. If you have questions before we get to the physical discussion, ask and I will answer.
Now, we begin.
The Process:
As I have said many times, this is a game, and it's an enjoyable one. Seduction should bring pleasure to both parties, not only one. These can be quick Casanova-like seductions, but he left his victims loving him as well. This game is very much like chess, requiring time, patience, and thought.
Things you need to do:
1. Observation. You need to learn this skill and practice often. I can give you steps, advice, etc. but you must watch and learn things about your victim. You are the one that is there.
2. Imagination. Seduction should transport your victim from the every day to somewhere else; this is impossible to do without imagination. Where you go depends on you victim.
3. Patience. Don't try to rush your victim through the steps. It takes time to seduce .
4. Mystery. This is the center of seduction. If you get too familiar with people, they get too comfortable and the relationship gets boring and routine. Avoid this (i.e. Periodically, re-seduce the people in your life).
5. Focus and strategic thinking. You need to be one step ahead of your victim. I will teach you how.
Problems:
1. Don't be selfish. People tend to think only about their own issues/ anxieties/ concerns/ etc, but you are different. You are a seducer, and you think outside the box. So focus on your victim, not yourself.
2. Don't rush your seduction! The longer you take, the deeper the seduction gets. If you rush, you are being selfish. And, from an expert, the longer seductions are extremely satisfying.
3. Don't be self-absorbed. Most people think more about what they can get from others than what they can give. You shouldn't. Your victims love you because you give them pleasure, not the other way around.
4. Don't be merciful. You need to draw the victim out of his/her daily life. This can be uncomfortable or painful for some, but it's necessary.
5. Don't be timid. You may play at shyness, but you are not timid. Shynes is bashfulness (maybe you blush and draw back a bit). Timidity means that you lack self-assurance, courage, bravery. Seducers cannot be timid.
Also, romantic seductions require a more physical form of foreplay, which we will go into later. For social/political seductions, foreplay is psychological and emotional. The only difference between these and a romantic seduction is adding the physical component. If you have questions before we get to the physical discussion, ask and I will answer.
Now, we begin.
Monday, February 1, 2010
The Seduction Process
Now, Ladies and Gentlemen, we have concluded the Seducer Types and Victim Types. By now, you should have figured out which of each you are. Next, we learn to use them.
Robert Greene breaks this up into four phases. Remember though, that these borders are more fluid than they look. A seducer can take her victim from phase one to phase two without even realizing it.
The easiest way to explain the steps of seduction is to take you through one. Therefore, in the next couple of days, choose a person to seduce (whether romantically or socially).
I have already chosen another target and will begin blogging in the seduction process with my next post. In the meantime, happy hunting and good luck finding someone worth seducing.
Robert Greene breaks this up into four phases. Remember though, that these borders are more fluid than they look. A seducer can take her victim from phase one to phase two without even realizing it.
The easiest way to explain the steps of seduction is to take you through one. Therefore, in the next couple of days, choose a person to seduce (whether romantically or socially).
I have already chosen another target and will begin blogging in the seduction process with my next post. In the meantime, happy hunting and good luck finding someone worth seducing.
They could go either way...Floating Gender
While all of us have some masculine and feminine qualities in us, most people only show the socially acceptable ones. Floating Genders, on the other hand, feel extremely repressed if they have to do this.
Recognizing them:
-You may think that these people are repressed homosexuals, but it's not necessarily the case.
-They want to be able to play with their gender.
-They aren't obvious about this (it can be a social faux pas), a woman may have a very masculine energy or a man may have a nicely developed sensitive side. In general, the term "Metro-sexual" often applies to these people.
To Seduce them:
Do:
1. Play with your gender. (They really want someone that they can play with.)
2. Show them that they can relax with you and show whatever side of their character that they choose.
Don't:
1. Try to keep them repressed. They want to free up parts of their personality--you need to help them do this.
2. Mistake this for homosexuality. These people want their counterpart from the opposite gender.
Remember: This is the only time where it is a good idea to seduce your own victim type. If you are a Floating Gender and seduce another, then you give each other license to play and explore. This is a great thing for both of you. You can both let loose without the fear of judgment or repression.
If you are not a Floating Gender, do not bother to seduce this type. You will inhibit them and make both of you uncomfortable.
Recognizing them:
-You may think that these people are repressed homosexuals, but it's not necessarily the case.
-They want to be able to play with their gender.
-They aren't obvious about this (it can be a social faux pas), a woman may have a very masculine energy or a man may have a nicely developed sensitive side. In general, the term "Metro-sexual" often applies to these people.
To Seduce them:
Do:
1. Play with your gender. (They really want someone that they can play with.)
2. Show them that they can relax with you and show whatever side of their character that they choose.
Don't:
1. Try to keep them repressed. They want to free up parts of their personality--you need to help them do this.
2. Mistake this for homosexuality. These people want their counterpart from the opposite gender.
Remember: This is the only time where it is a good idea to seduce your own victim type. If you are a Floating Gender and seduce another, then you give each other license to play and explore. This is a great thing for both of you. You can both let loose without the fear of judgment or repression.
If you are not a Floating Gender, do not bother to seduce this type. You will inhibit them and make both of you uncomfortable.
Friday, January 29, 2010
Take a risk and try to seduce this one....The Lonely Leader
"Powerful people are not necessarily different from everyone else, but they are treated differently, and this has a big effect on their personalities." (The Art of Seduction, p. 159). Mr. Greene is right. People of this personality type are treated differently. This shapes some of their habits, thoughts, actions and breeds suspicion in their minds. They're used to people wanting things from them. This means that they will be harder to seduce...but not impossible.
Recognizing them:
-The people around them treat them differently, defer to them. This is not because of money, power, fame, prestige, or position, but because of the sheer force of their personalities.
-They may be introverted, extroverted, young, old, etc. but all those of this type like genuine people. They are constantly surrounded by those who are angling for something.
Seducing them:
Do:
1. Be honest, even blunt. You will seem genuine and they will appreciate the risk you took in being so honest. (It can be dangerous to be honest with those in power.)
2. Act as their equal or superior. There are many people who fawn around them, telling them how great they are. You need to be set apart from them. Acting your Victim's equal may well be a new experience for them.
3. Be patient and clever. This seduction will take time.
Don't:
1. Use the usual tactics of charm and flattery. They will see through it and disdain you for using them.
2. Don't idolize them. As said before, many fawn over these people, they do not want a lover who constantly does so as well.
Special Considerations:
-These people are so difficult to seduce because they have less mental space for seduction. Their minds are almost constantly laden with cares and responsibilities.
-They are suspicious. You must find a way to help them lay this aside.
-No matter how they appear, these people really do long to be seduced/swept off their feet by love. They long to forget their cares and have fun. Help them do this; they will love you for it.
Though this may be one of the hardest seductions, it will likely be one of the most rewarding. As you seduce them, they will come to depend on you. You will have to be ingenious and nimble of mind, but you will have a powerful ally who relies on you.
Remember that, in this game, the reward always equals the risk. Go after the one you want. Happy hunting.
Recognizing them:
-The people around them treat them differently, defer to them. This is not because of money, power, fame, prestige, or position, but because of the sheer force of their personalities.
-They may be introverted, extroverted, young, old, etc. but all those of this type like genuine people. They are constantly surrounded by those who are angling for something.
Seducing them:
Do:
1. Be honest, even blunt. You will seem genuine and they will appreciate the risk you took in being so honest. (It can be dangerous to be honest with those in power.)
2. Act as their equal or superior. There are many people who fawn around them, telling them how great they are. You need to be set apart from them. Acting your Victim's equal may well be a new experience for them.
3. Be patient and clever. This seduction will take time.
Don't:
1. Use the usual tactics of charm and flattery. They will see through it and disdain you for using them.
2. Don't idolize them. As said before, many fawn over these people, they do not want a lover who constantly does so as well.
Special Considerations:
-These people are so difficult to seduce because they have less mental space for seduction. Their minds are almost constantly laden with cares and responsibilities.
-They are suspicious. You must find a way to help them lay this aside.
-No matter how they appear, these people really do long to be seduced/swept off their feet by love. They long to forget their cares and have fun. Help them do this; they will love you for it.
Though this may be one of the hardest seductions, it will likely be one of the most rewarding. As you seduce them, they will come to depend on you. You will have to be ingenious and nimble of mind, but you will have a powerful ally who relies on you.
Remember that, in this game, the reward always equals the risk. Go after the one you want. Happy hunting.
Monday, January 25, 2010
Dazzle their senses...The Sensualist
The most famous of these was Marc Antony. Cleopatra dazzled him with her theatricality; she considered every sense--sight, sound, touch, smell--and titillated them. That is what you must do to seduce this type.
Recognizing them:
This Victim type can be very shy and shrink away from standing out. But they all have "overactive senses." They may show this in clothing (fashion, color, style) or much more subtly. One that I knew loved good food and would moan with nearly every bite he took. No matter what it is, they are very responsive to their environment. Maybe they're depressed when it rains or excited by certain smells. In societies that de-emphasize sensual experiences, you have to look a little closer to find them, but they can be wonderful to seduce.
Keys:
Do:
1. Aim for their senses...ALL of them. Take them beautiful places, put on spectacles (Cleopatra), use physical lures, and PAY ATTENTION TO DETAIL.
2. Pay attention to detail: "the devil is in the details" and that is where you will win your victim. Take the time to plan your attack.
3. Stimulate as many senses as possible.
The great thing about Sensualists is that you can use the same tactics and they will fall for them again and again. That doesn't mean that you shouldn't vary your attacks. Use spectacle one moment and commune with nature the next (for instance, a parade may be a good spectacle, followed by a luscious picnic lunch by a quiet point in a river for your next encounter...whatever you can think of to involve their senses).
However you do it, keep it up, and they are yours. Happy Hunting.
Recognizing them:
This Victim type can be very shy and shrink away from standing out. But they all have "overactive senses." They may show this in clothing (fashion, color, style) or much more subtly. One that I knew loved good food and would moan with nearly every bite he took. No matter what it is, they are very responsive to their environment. Maybe they're depressed when it rains or excited by certain smells. In societies that de-emphasize sensual experiences, you have to look a little closer to find them, but they can be wonderful to seduce.
Keys:
Do:
1. Aim for their senses...ALL of them. Take them beautiful places, put on spectacles (Cleopatra), use physical lures, and PAY ATTENTION TO DETAIL.
2. Pay attention to detail: "the devil is in the details" and that is where you will win your victim. Take the time to plan your attack.
3. Stimulate as many senses as possible.
The great thing about Sensualists is that you can use the same tactics and they will fall for them again and again. That doesn't mean that you shouldn't vary your attacks. Use spectacle one moment and commune with nature the next (for instance, a parade may be a good spectacle, followed by a luscious picnic lunch by a quiet point in a river for your next encounter...whatever you can think of to involve their senses).
However you do it, keep it up, and they are yours. Happy Hunting.
Thursday, January 21, 2010
They need you to fill their lives...The Idol Worshippers
Never satisfied with themselves or their own lives, they seek others to fill it for them--something to worship. They're always looking for something else.
Recognizing them:
-These people are almost always pouring themselves into some cause or religion so deeply that it consumes their lives. Don't mistake this for being a work-aholic. Work-aholics like work, but they do have other interests, other things that they do or are interested in. And they tend to stick to the one or two kinds of work that they love.
-Idol Worshippers tend to shift around from one cause to another over the years. These causes may even be conflicting. That is not an issue for the Victim because they were never really looking for the cause, they were looking for something to fill their life.
Seducing them:
Do:
1. Let them worship you. You simply replace their cause/religion/etc.
2. At first, appear to share their spiritual interest, join them in worshipping it, or introduce them to a new cause. After a time, you replace them.
3. HIDE YOUR FLAWS (or cover them, make them seem not so much like flaws).
4. Be/ mirror the qualities that your victim aspires to or worships.
5. Let romance and religion seem to be the same.
Don't:
1. Burst your victim's bubble. If they wish to think that you are super human, let them think so. Do everything you can to keep them thinking that and they will overlook anything that may countermand their perception.
2. NEVER try to elevate them to your level. They want to be below you, worshipping you on the pedestal. Being on the pedestal themselves makes them intensely uncomfortable.
3. NEVER seem like you worship them, for any reason.
Keys to remember about this type:
1. They have overactive minds, making them suspicious on some levels. This is partly because they lack physical stimulation. Give them some, and it will distract them (hiking, boating, sex, anything with a large physical component will do).
2. This type often has low self-esteem, but DO NOT try to raise it. They are comfortable as they are and really wish to stay that way.
Also, this type can make wonderful short term victims, but the need to always find some new cause will eventually lead them away to something else.
Enjoy the game.
Recognizing them:
-These people are almost always pouring themselves into some cause or religion so deeply that it consumes their lives. Don't mistake this for being a work-aholic. Work-aholics like work, but they do have other interests, other things that they do or are interested in. And they tend to stick to the one or two kinds of work that they love.
-Idol Worshippers tend to shift around from one cause to another over the years. These causes may even be conflicting. That is not an issue for the Victim because they were never really looking for the cause, they were looking for something to fill their life.
Seducing them:
Do:
1. Let them worship you. You simply replace their cause/religion/etc.
2. At first, appear to share their spiritual interest, join them in worshipping it, or introduce them to a new cause. After a time, you replace them.
3. HIDE YOUR FLAWS (or cover them, make them seem not so much like flaws).
4. Be/ mirror the qualities that your victim aspires to or worships.
5. Let romance and religion seem to be the same.
Don't:
1. Burst your victim's bubble. If they wish to think that you are super human, let them think so. Do everything you can to keep them thinking that and they will overlook anything that may countermand their perception.
2. NEVER try to elevate them to your level. They want to be below you, worshipping you on the pedestal. Being on the pedestal themselves makes them intensely uncomfortable.
3. NEVER seem like you worship them, for any reason.
Keys to remember about this type:
1. They have overactive minds, making them suspicious on some levels. This is partly because they lack physical stimulation. Give them some, and it will distract them (hiking, boating, sex, anything with a large physical component will do).
2. This type often has low self-esteem, but DO NOT try to raise it. They are comfortable as they are and really wish to stay that way.
Also, this type can make wonderful short term victims, but the need to always find some new cause will eventually lead them away to something else.
Enjoy the game.
Wednesday, January 20, 2010
A Quick story
Ladies and Gentleman,
Appearances are how we are fist judged. Superficial and possibly completely wrong, it doesn't matter. Therefore, appearances are important. Remember this when reading the story:
I recently moved to a new area. It is near an area I had lived in some time before, but I did not know anyone in this area. Having lived nearby, however, I knew the type of people who lived there and the general type of clothing the people wore, how they spoke, how they interacted. I used all of this information to my distinct advantage at a gathering a few days ago.
The gathering was a Casual after 6 affair (meaning that men wore suits or sport coats and women dresses or skirt ensembles--more on this later). Knowing that most of the women would be dressed in a shirt dress with an accessory belt or a nice wool skirt and blouse, I took a calculated risk.
I dressed in Goth attire.
Now, to be completely candid, it was not complete Goth attire. There were strappy black heels instead of the regular boots and a knee length black denim skirt. But the lacey black, mandarin collared shirt framed my neck as though I were a vampire. And the dice/handcuff earrings were standard. The makeup was a toned down version of standard Goth.
It was a startling contrast in the crowd.
Even though I had arrived somewhat early to the affair, those who walked through the door began staring not long after. And many people sought to make my acquaintance that evening.
What is the lesson to be learned from this?
1. The lesson of Pauline Bonaparte. She was an startling sight at many gatherings becuase she put the effort into her wardrobe to make sure that the pieces were striking on her and, still, harmonious hen placed together. Never was their one accessory, dress, shoe, or hairstyle that anyone could pick out to say "that object made that look." It all worked well together, and looked perfect on her.
NOTE: This is not only a lesson for women. MEN, women notice how you present yourselves as well. You can startle us as simply as we startle you. Even the manliest of men should take a little time and put some effort in here.
2. The other attendees sought me out. It was not the other way around. The look, combined with an air of confidence, was enough to attract them.
3. My calculated risk paid off because I appeared different. I'd done the research and knew what I was walking into, so I capitalized on the situation. This is what you must do in seduction. Use what you know, root out what you don't know, and use the calculated guess/risk to make up the difference.
Notes:
-They did not know me before this. I have met many of them now. Will I be walking around in Goth attire everyday? No, because it is not appropriate for everything I do. But it got their attention.
-Now that I have their attention, seduction is much easier. The people are already intrigued (proven by their seeking me out).
The next step is to keep their attention. Will I use such a tactic again? Not anytime soon. I do not need it yet. Save the surprise/shock moments for when you need them. Will I blend into the rest of them now? No. NEVER do this. You must be noticed by others--not constantly so, but remembered. Also, you do not want everyone thinking that you used a shock maneuver simply to get attention.
Public attention is fleeting, momentary. And you are easily forgotten afterward. No, this was a tactic to quickly enter the minds/spirits of the people, to make them be just enough intrigued with me to learn more. Now, I can slowly make other contradictions and give myself depth of character.
We will go more into all that, once the victim summaries are finished and we begin the real seduction process, soon.
Appearances are how we are fist judged. Superficial and possibly completely wrong, it doesn't matter. Therefore, appearances are important. Remember this when reading the story:
I recently moved to a new area. It is near an area I had lived in some time before, but I did not know anyone in this area. Having lived nearby, however, I knew the type of people who lived there and the general type of clothing the people wore, how they spoke, how they interacted. I used all of this information to my distinct advantage at a gathering a few days ago.
The gathering was a Casual after 6 affair (meaning that men wore suits or sport coats and women dresses or skirt ensembles--more on this later). Knowing that most of the women would be dressed in a shirt dress with an accessory belt or a nice wool skirt and blouse, I took a calculated risk.
I dressed in Goth attire.
Now, to be completely candid, it was not complete Goth attire. There were strappy black heels instead of the regular boots and a knee length black denim skirt. But the lacey black, mandarin collared shirt framed my neck as though I were a vampire. And the dice/handcuff earrings were standard. The makeup was a toned down version of standard Goth.
It was a startling contrast in the crowd.
Even though I had arrived somewhat early to the affair, those who walked through the door began staring not long after. And many people sought to make my acquaintance that evening.
What is the lesson to be learned from this?
1. The lesson of Pauline Bonaparte. She was an startling sight at many gatherings becuase she put the effort into her wardrobe to make sure that the pieces were striking on her and, still, harmonious hen placed together. Never was their one accessory, dress, shoe, or hairstyle that anyone could pick out to say "that object made that look." It all worked well together, and looked perfect on her.
NOTE: This is not only a lesson for women. MEN, women notice how you present yourselves as well. You can startle us as simply as we startle you. Even the manliest of men should take a little time and put some effort in here.
2. The other attendees sought me out. It was not the other way around. The look, combined with an air of confidence, was enough to attract them.
3. My calculated risk paid off because I appeared different. I'd done the research and knew what I was walking into, so I capitalized on the situation. This is what you must do in seduction. Use what you know, root out what you don't know, and use the calculated guess/risk to make up the difference.
Notes:
-They did not know me before this. I have met many of them now. Will I be walking around in Goth attire everyday? No, because it is not appropriate for everything I do. But it got their attention.
-Now that I have their attention, seduction is much easier. The people are already intrigued (proven by their seeking me out).
The next step is to keep their attention. Will I use such a tactic again? Not anytime soon. I do not need it yet. Save the surprise/shock moments for when you need them. Will I blend into the rest of them now? No. NEVER do this. You must be noticed by others--not constantly so, but remembered. Also, you do not want everyone thinking that you used a shock maneuver simply to get attention.
Public attention is fleeting, momentary. And you are easily forgotten afterward. No, this was a tactic to quickly enter the minds/spirits of the people, to make them be just enough intrigued with me to learn more. Now, I can slowly make other contradictions and give myself depth of character.
We will go more into all that, once the victim summaries are finished and we begin the real seduction process, soon.
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