Starting Phase One: Stirring desire

There are 8 steps in phase one, but more often than not you will do many of them simultaneously. Since they cannot be taught that way, I'll take you through them one by one.

Step 1: Choosing the right Victim

This is THE most important step. Why? Because it does you absolutley no good to try to charm someone who is not susceptible to you. In fact, that is where most people get so frustrated in their relationships--one person far more involved than the other. Do yourself a favor and test your victim to see if they react to you before setting your plans in motion. Choose your victims carefully. Here's how:

1. Choose people who react to you: If they react, then they are susceptible. Reactions can be both good and bad. Men: If you make a pretty girl blush, she is susceptible. Ladies: If you can make a man angry, he is susceptible. And vice versa.
There are many ways to tell if a person is susceptible to you, but remember not to pay too much attention to what the person says. What they say has been thought about, edited, and filtered. They've made a few calculations too, whether they realize it or not. Pay more attention to what they can't control--body language, breathing, blushes, flashes of emotion on thir faces or in their eyes. These are much less controlled, much less calculated. They are the truth.

2. Choose a victim that you have feelings for, who intrigues you: If you have feelings for your victim, then those feelings will make your machinations seem less calculated, make all of your overtures more genuine...because they are. You actually want the person. Also, you will be more creative in getting what you want. And creativity is essential.
This person needs to stir you on some level, though what that level is depends on you. A Gentleman friend of mine is a quintessential Roue. He loves "Goody Two Shoe" women. They stir him. A Lady friend of mine is a Beatuty and has always wanted a man that can admire her for her mind, so she falls for men that do not begin a conversation by telling her than she is beautiful but that she is intelligent.

3. Study your Victim: Find out what you can about them, especially about what they want/lack. Then you know how to formulate your seduction (i.e. bored people can be tempted with seduction, people who believe that they are immune to seduction need a much more subtle approach, etc). You need to know what they need before you can provide it. Find what Victim Type they are.

Remember that your choice of target is critical. It determines everything that will follow. And test your target to see if they are susceptible to you: say something geared to get a response from them, dress a certain way to see if they take notice, play with them. This is a little game of cat and mouse to start with; you must see if they are willing to play. A few body language keys: mirroring your gestures, turning their bodies toward you, an unusual shyness, a flash of anger/resentment--these are all reactions to you. They are susceptible.

When your chosen target is indifferent to you, there is almost nothing that you can do about it. At that moment, you may as well move on. There is very little to gain aside from frustration at that point. Any reaction is better than no reaction at all.

A Special Note:
1. Appearances are important. You need to present yourself well. Men, be gentlemen. Ladies, be ladies. There are more than enough crass and vulgar people in this world. Mostly, we are used to them, but we do not want to be wooed by them.
2. Appearances are also superficial and deceiving. Don't be deceived by them. Many times, shy people want to be brought out of their shells and extroverts are insecure. Play on that. Don't be deceived by it.