Don't tip your hand.
At some point in a relationship you may be able to tip your hand to the other person and tell them that you went out of your way to cultivate that relationship (whether you seduced them into friendship, a romantic liaison, or marriage doesn't really matter). But, this really depends on the person's personality, victim type, and seducer type.
Some people want to believe that the relationship was his/ her idea. Some people want to believe that the two of you naturally slipped together like the relationship was always meant to be. For others, it won't mattered how it started--your relationship is what it is, however it got that way.
NO ONE wants to feel like they were coerced into a relationship. They always want to feel that they had some say in it and not all people will reach a level of understanding that makes them realize that they always had a choice--even if you do everything in your power to make someone take the bait, they do NOT have to take it.
So until you know for sure how the person will react, don't tip your hand. If you are at all unsure of how he/ she will react, keep it to yourself. It's uncommon to get in trouble for things that you do not say. You'll almost always get in trouble for what you do say.
Until you're sure, don't tip your hand.
Saturday, April 25, 2009
The Conqueror
These are some of my favorite victims because they have a ton of energy! They can and will play the game for a long time. These people are always looking for another obstacle to overcome.
Don't trust their outward appearance to tell you who they are on this one. Conquerors may be shy and quiet or loud and obnoxious, you can never tell--so look at their actions in work and relationships. They love power, so they work to get it any way they can.
Conquerors are emotional sporadically, prone to outburst, otherwise they hold it in. So, don't worry if they don't seem like you are affecting them at first; they will show you eventually.
Do:
1. Make your Conqueror emotional. It keepts them off balance.
2. Give them something to chase--put obstacles inthe way for them.
3. Play the Coquette (this works best with this type of victim).
4. Make them work for the relationship.
Don't:
1. Lie down and be easy pray. (They will wlak away when they are done or not take the bait.)
2. Be intimidated by their moodiness. They get over it, so should you.
3. Make the mistake of thinking all Conquerors are men.
Many Conquerors are men, but not all. A female friend of mine is an active Conqueror. If a man does not put up some kind of resistence for her to overcome, ends a relationship first, or threatens to end a relationship first, she goes crazy trying to find ways around it. She works so hard for the relationship that she usually gets it. But, if the man doesn't continue to play the Coquette, she gets bored and moves on to the next man.
One day she will get pinned down by a male Coquette. For now, she charges back and forth as all Conquerors do. So make them charge back and forth until they get worn down (it may take a while), but don't ever completely leave the game. Periodically, they need a challenge, even after they've become "docile."
Happy seductions.
Don't trust their outward appearance to tell you who they are on this one. Conquerors may be shy and quiet or loud and obnoxious, you can never tell--so look at their actions in work and relationships. They love power, so they work to get it any way they can.
Conquerors are emotional sporadically, prone to outburst, otherwise they hold it in. So, don't worry if they don't seem like you are affecting them at first; they will show you eventually.
Do:
1. Make your Conqueror emotional. It keepts them off balance.
2. Give them something to chase--put obstacles inthe way for them.
3. Play the Coquette (this works best with this type of victim).
4. Make them work for the relationship.
Don't:
1. Lie down and be easy pray. (They will wlak away when they are done or not take the bait.)
2. Be intimidated by their moodiness. They get over it, so should you.
3. Make the mistake of thinking all Conquerors are men.
Many Conquerors are men, but not all. A female friend of mine is an active Conqueror. If a man does not put up some kind of resistence for her to overcome, ends a relationship first, or threatens to end a relationship first, she goes crazy trying to find ways around it. She works so hard for the relationship that she usually gets it. But, if the man doesn't continue to play the Coquette, she gets bored and moves on to the next man.
One day she will get pinned down by a male Coquette. For now, she charges back and forth as all Conquerors do. So make them charge back and forth until they get worn down (it may take a while), but don't ever completely leave the game. Periodically, they need a challenge, even after they've become "docile."
Happy seductions.
Friday, April 24, 2009
The Novice
These are ordinary people with fatal curious streaks. When they say "Curiosity killed the cat" they meant the Novice.
People may think that the Novice is angelic and sweet (not always true, but looks that way), but they really want to experience more of the world--not be left in the bubble he or she may live in. This makes seducing them easy. But it takes workd to do well.
Do:
Be playful
Mix a bit of innocence with a bit of corruption
Show (subtly) that you have hidden depths, even dangerous ones
Be romantic, pay attention to the details
Use colorful, vibrant, and different events to keep them interested and off guard
Note: some of these people may be a little older and aware o the game they're playing, but put on the show of innocence. They may be harder to mislead, but the tactics for it are the same. And they still fall for it.
Happy seducing.
People may think that the Novice is angelic and sweet (not always true, but looks that way), but they really want to experience more of the world--not be left in the bubble he or she may live in. This makes seducing them easy. But it takes workd to do well.
Do:
Be playful
Mix a bit of innocence with a bit of corruption
Show (subtly) that you have hidden depths, even dangerous ones
Be romantic, pay attention to the details
Use colorful, vibrant, and different events to keep them interested and off guard
Note: some of these people may be a little older and aware o the game they're playing, but put on the show of innocence. They may be harder to mislead, but the tactics for it are the same. And they still fall for it.
Happy seducing.
Thursday, April 16, 2009
A note:
Sorry about the delay, ladies and gentlemen. Back to the game.
Remember, All, that seduction is a language of signals. Signals given and signals received--sometimes it is good to intentionally send mixed signals; it keeps your object unsure and thinking about you. But there are a few things to remember.
1. Men and women do not speak the same language:
Many people that I know (and you know many too, no doubt) somehow end up saying things like "How could he not know that?!" or "Why doesn't she just get that I need Saturday with my guys?" or "How could he/she not know that I like him/her?" This is a problem in communication. Either they do like you and aren't picking up on your signals, are genuinely uninterested (and you should pick a new Victim), or you are just trying to rush things. A good seduction takes time.
In addition, different things have different levels of meaning for different people; i.e. a touch at the right time and in the right way may mean more to a person than even "I love you," or a small gift (a $1.00 card from Wal-Mart) may mean more to this person than spending time with them on Friday night because it shows that you were thinking of them.
Also, if your intended Victim wants a night out with his/her friends, so what? They should have it. You can have the night out with your friends too. Like Aesop said "Familiarity breeds contempt." Keep an appropriate distance while showing interest and you will hook your desire and theirs.
2. Be unavailable occasionally:
Your life does not and should not revolve around your Victim. If you need to be somewhere else, be somewhere else. The absence makes your presence more desirable. Others want your company and attention too, not just your Victim--you want your victim to see and know this. Don't be overbearing with it though, be nonchalant.
3. Say no occasionally:
You are not there to fulfill your Victim's EVERY need, just the one you are exploiting. Not everyone wants their problems solved either, some people need it to keep their lives interesting. Sometimes, denying things for a short period will make the experience more pleasurable in the end.
Now, Ladies and Gentlemen, enjoy your seductions...and may your Victims enjoy them too.
Remember, All, that seduction is a language of signals. Signals given and signals received--sometimes it is good to intentionally send mixed signals; it keeps your object unsure and thinking about you. But there are a few things to remember.
1. Men and women do not speak the same language:
Many people that I know (and you know many too, no doubt) somehow end up saying things like "How could he not know that?!" or "Why doesn't she just get that I need Saturday with my guys?" or "How could he/she not know that I like him/her?" This is a problem in communication. Either they do like you and aren't picking up on your signals, are genuinely uninterested (and you should pick a new Victim), or you are just trying to rush things. A good seduction takes time.
In addition, different things have different levels of meaning for different people; i.e. a touch at the right time and in the right way may mean more to a person than even "I love you," or a small gift (a $1.00 card from Wal-Mart) may mean more to this person than spending time with them on Friday night because it shows that you were thinking of them.
Also, if your intended Victim wants a night out with his/her friends, so what? They should have it. You can have the night out with your friends too. Like Aesop said "Familiarity breeds contempt." Keep an appropriate distance while showing interest and you will hook your desire and theirs.
2. Be unavailable occasionally:
Your life does not and should not revolve around your Victim. If you need to be somewhere else, be somewhere else. The absence makes your presence more desirable. Others want your company and attention too, not just your Victim--you want your victim to see and know this. Don't be overbearing with it though, be nonchalant.
3. Say no occasionally:
You are not there to fulfill your Victim's EVERY need, just the one you are exploiting. Not everyone wants their problems solved either, some people need it to keep their lives interesting. Sometimes, denying things for a short period will make the experience more pleasurable in the end.
Now, Ladies and Gentlemen, enjoy your seductions...and may your Victims enjoy them too.
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