Rescuers are exactly what their names imply--they like to rescue people. Bring on the Damsel (or Gentleman) in distress because these guys love it.
These Victims seem to only be attracted to people with problems--the very sadness/ depression of those problems burden people with seems to attract a Rescuer. It appeals to the deep seeded desire to help someone, but it also makes them feel as though they're "in power" or superior because he/she has just solved your problem.They're a hero!
Recognizing them: Look for people with a lot of empathy, the kind that always seem to want you to open up and talk about your problems/ issues with them. Also, a Rescuer will usually have a string of relationships with dependent/ troubled/ needy people.
To catch one:
Do:
-Play Damsel In Distress (women)--let him be a Knight.
-Play a Boy that cannot deal with the Harsh World (men)--let her be the healing maternal influence.
-Have an air of sadness (it will draw them in). Pick anything to be your issue (strings of bad relationships with people who take advantage of you, you've had too little love in your life, whatever).
-Be vulnerable.
Don't:
-Be needy--having needs and being needy are different. (Needing constant reassurance of who you are and that you are worth something/ are good at something/etc. is completely separate than a periodic crisis. The former is NEEDY...and incredibly anti-seductive to anyone, even a Rescuer.)
-Suddenly start solving their problems for them in return. (They provide this service to you; if you reciprocate in kind, then you have taken from them what they give you, taken their pride and superiority. That will crush them.) Let them keep the high ground; you will get what you want.
On a personal note, Rescuers really are a joy to seduce and pleasurable to have around. They always want to help you deal with the harshness of life and make you feel better, or help you finish that tough project you're working one, or cheer you on from the sideline as you finish that race they "convinced" you to enter.
Whatever it is, they are happy to dig in and help you. They appreciate your appreciation too. Never a dull moment on this one, all the different ways you can find to say Thank You and they can find to help you, it never gets old. They care too much.
Again, enjoy the game. Choose your Victims, Seduce languidly, and Satisfy you BOTH in the process.
Wednesday, August 26, 2009
Tuesday, August 25, 2009
The Recap...a quick reference
Before beginning any seduction you must know the following:
A.What type of a seducer you are: what do you bring to the table?
B.What type of Victim are you: what are you susceptible to?
C.What type of Victims are attracted to you? Who is susceptible to your charms?
A.The following are the seducer types (9) that Robert Greene uses in The Art of Seduction. (It’s not an exhaustive list, but it gets you started.) Next to each is a quick introduction and list of the type’s possible strengths/abilities, i.e. the keys to the character. If I have written on the type in the past, you will see the date of the blog posting in parentheses.
1.The Siren: these women are the consummate male fantasy figures—the exude sex and allow the man to be as uninhibited as he likes, freeing him from imposed societal strictures. They use their voices, their bodies, the adornments they put on, their movements, and their demeanors. Everything calls the man to come to them. (JAN 2009)
2.The Rake: these men embody the female fantasy figure—The Rake wants you and will do anything he can to get you; they are extreme characters. These men offer pleasure for pleasures sake and do not offer the “mild, acceptable” ones, but many. They abandon themselves to the moment, never worry about a woman’s resistance (it’s temporary), have great depth in personality (wit, sarcasm, impudence), do not care what anyone thinks of them, have an aura of danger surrounding them, and have a tendency to make women want to reform him. They pull women into their world by mixing passion, danger, and intense attention. (SEP 2008)
3.The Ideal Lover: (either sex) these create the dream that you see for yourself, whatever the dream is. These people are quintessential observers, always seeing what you do not consciously show anyone. They will sacrifice whatever is necessary to produce what you want, perform dangerous acts to see you alone, be ambiguous. These may come in varieties like Casanovas, errant knights, Lady/whores (Lady in the front room/freak in the bedroom), etc. What you imagine, the provide enough to let you keep imagining. (JAN 2009)
4.The Dandy: (usually male) fluid and impossible to categorize, they play with masculine and feminine to create a startling image for themselves. And they do it well. Rudolph Valentino was marvelous at it. They play with style (people often imitate them), fuss with physical appearance for some time (maybe hours), are unconventional in nearly every way, are impudent, live for pleasure, are charming and outrageous. (JAN 2009)
5.The Natural: (either sex) these people keep the good qualities from childhood and enchant us with them, i.e. sincerity, imagination, playfulness, etc. They infect us with their own delight. They use innocence (or the illusion of it), fearlessness, wonder, and are non-defensive in love. They bring back the carefree days to the rest of us. (MAR 2009)
6.The Coquette: (usually female) blowing hot and cold, these are masters of hard-to-get. They delay pleasure, even while they promise it. They tease and then step back, keep their victims off balance, challenge victims with independence, are self-sufficient (or appear to be), are NEVER jealous, and never seem able to be caught—which is why so many want them. (SEP 2008)
7.The Charmer: (either sex) Charm = seduction without sex…but they could have it if they wanted. Charmers create pleasure for their targets and make them feel as if they, not the Charmer, are the greatest people in the world. They make the Victim the center of attention, are a source of pleasure when others are not (they listen to you, make you feel important, go out of their way for you), smooth away conflict, mirror you to make you easy in their presence, are calm in the face of adversity, and are always useful. Charmers strive to make their Victims’ lives easier—what is more seductive? (SEP 2008)
8.The Charismatic: these people excite us with their presence and some inner quality—confidence, purpose, vision, self-possession. This quality radiates to the public and seduces on a grand scale. It makes them seem extraordinary. They heighten this effect showing purpose, remaining mysterious, appearing saintly (they never compromise their morals), eloquence, theatricality, uninhibitedness (they do what others dream of and talk about), fervency in speech and action, vulnerability, adventurousness, and sheer magnetism. (OCT 2008)
9.The Star: these people seem vague, ethereal, dream-like, and fascinating. They keep their distance, while enticing you to come closer. They entice those who want an escape from the daily harshness of life. They insinuate and reach to tantalize the Victim’s unconscious desires, are uncanny, have a haunting effect on people, mix what is real and unreal, stand out from the crowd, unclear, ambiguous, full of dramatic flair, and make us want to know more about them. They are passive, though they seem so interactive because we have imagined them to be so. (JAN 2009)
B. The following are the victim types (18) that Robert Greene uses in The Art of Seduction. All are listed as the above seducer types are, except that instead of the strengths listed after it is the Victim’s dominant weakness. Use both as a quick reference guide.
1.The Reformed Rake/Siren: they miss the game of seduction and long to re-enter it. After all, they were so good at it before. (MAR 2009)
2.The Disappointed Dreamer: they’ve had many a dream shattered and want one that is not…and a lover to match the dream. (MAR 2009)
3.The Pampered Royal: these want to be entertained, distracted, and provided for—they’re spoiled and want to remain that way. (MAR 2009)
4.The New Prude: they’re oppressed by their own correctness and really do want to be released from society’s strict rules. They only need help to do it. (MAR 2009)
5.The Crushed Star: they were once the center of attention and want to be so again. Do this for them and they are yours. (MAR 2009)
6.The Novice: fatally curious and “innocent,” these people want to see the world and its “dark side,” sensuality, and decadence. The danger of it lures them. (APR 2009)
7.The Conqueror: these people want a challenge and obstacles to overcome to expend their excess energy. They want to chase you, and, yes, they want you to run. (APR 2009)
8.The Exotic Fetishist: they love whatever is unlike themselves. Be different socio-economically, culturally, ethnically, etc.—that is what they want. (JUL 2009)
9.The Drama Queen: they need their lives on a roller-coaster to keep them from becoming bored. They will create drama where there is none, if it does not come to them naturally. Give them rough treatment/pain; it is what they want. (JUL 2009)
10.The Professor: having huge intellectual strength, they want a release from it to something more physical. Make them feel like Don Juan/Cleopatra and they’re yours. (JUL 2009)
11.The Beauty: They want to be admired for more than their beauty—kindness, intellect, generosity, grace, wit, painting, anything will do. Then praise their beauty as well. (AUG 2009)
12.The Aging Baby: these don’t want to grow up. They want to be free to play and have someone else to handle the daily responsibilities. (AUG 2009)
13.The Rescuer: they want to be the knight in shining armor/loving matron. Let them save you, or solve your problems.
14.The Roue: these are the consummate seducer—having lived a hedonistic life of pleasure, they miss their own innocence. Therefore, they are seduced by youth and innocence.
15.The Idol Worshiper: unsatisfied with themselves, they wish to deflect thoughts of their own failings by adoring someone/something else. It pulls them away from their own lacks/weaknesses.
16.The Sensualist: With overactive senses, they respond with vigor to the slightest sensation—a grand vista, great food, amazing music, etc.)
17.The Lonely Leader: so used to being treated with deference because of the force of their personalities all their lives (no matter their station in life), in addition to having others fawn over them to advance their own goals or gain something from them, they are distrustful and suspicious. Be blunt and honest. You will seem genuine.
18.The Floating Gender: these mix masculine and feminine qualities, not because they’re homosexual but because they like it. They want another person to do it with. If you are not a Floating Gender, DON’T attempt to seduce them. You’ll make them uncomfortable.
C.You can be attracted to any type of victim and any type can be attracted to you…but here are a few things to remember:
1.No one can seduce everyone.
2.You must provide for your target’s dominant weakness. It is your opportunity. Take advantage of it.
3.NEVER try to seduce someone that is the same victim type as you are. You end up lacking the same things, not fulfilling each others needs, and in general annoying each other. The goal is to find one who compliments you, not one that is a carbon copy of you.
4.You cannot seduce anyone that is perfectly happy and content. They have to be lacking something. A happy person needs nothing from anyone else. (But do not fall for the mask that most people present to the world. Most everyone is unhappy in something, at some point. That is why they are called “moments of weakness.”)
And that is all for today, Ladies and Gentlemen. Remember our challenge: seduce someone new (or as many someones as you can) in the next six months. Find who you are and what you bring to the table. Now look around for a target. Tomorrow we re-enter the discussion of Victim Types. You must know your target.
Rule 1: Know yourself.
Rule 2: Know your target.
Happy seducing. I have chosen my target. Feel free to comment and tell me about yours.
A.What type of a seducer you are: what do you bring to the table?
B.What type of Victim are you: what are you susceptible to?
C.What type of Victims are attracted to you? Who is susceptible to your charms?
A.The following are the seducer types (9) that Robert Greene uses in The Art of Seduction. (It’s not an exhaustive list, but it gets you started.) Next to each is a quick introduction and list of the type’s possible strengths/abilities, i.e. the keys to the character. If I have written on the type in the past, you will see the date of the blog posting in parentheses.
1.The Siren: these women are the consummate male fantasy figures—the exude sex and allow the man to be as uninhibited as he likes, freeing him from imposed societal strictures. They use their voices, their bodies, the adornments they put on, their movements, and their demeanors. Everything calls the man to come to them. (JAN 2009)
2.The Rake: these men embody the female fantasy figure—The Rake wants you and will do anything he can to get you; they are extreme characters. These men offer pleasure for pleasures sake and do not offer the “mild, acceptable” ones, but many. They abandon themselves to the moment, never worry about a woman’s resistance (it’s temporary), have great depth in personality (wit, sarcasm, impudence), do not care what anyone thinks of them, have an aura of danger surrounding them, and have a tendency to make women want to reform him. They pull women into their world by mixing passion, danger, and intense attention. (SEP 2008)
3.The Ideal Lover: (either sex) these create the dream that you see for yourself, whatever the dream is. These people are quintessential observers, always seeing what you do not consciously show anyone. They will sacrifice whatever is necessary to produce what you want, perform dangerous acts to see you alone, be ambiguous. These may come in varieties like Casanovas, errant knights, Lady/whores (Lady in the front room/freak in the bedroom), etc. What you imagine, the provide enough to let you keep imagining. (JAN 2009)
4.The Dandy: (usually male) fluid and impossible to categorize, they play with masculine and feminine to create a startling image for themselves. And they do it well. Rudolph Valentino was marvelous at it. They play with style (people often imitate them), fuss with physical appearance for some time (maybe hours), are unconventional in nearly every way, are impudent, live for pleasure, are charming and outrageous. (JAN 2009)
5.The Natural: (either sex) these people keep the good qualities from childhood and enchant us with them, i.e. sincerity, imagination, playfulness, etc. They infect us with their own delight. They use innocence (or the illusion of it), fearlessness, wonder, and are non-defensive in love. They bring back the carefree days to the rest of us. (MAR 2009)
6.The Coquette: (usually female) blowing hot and cold, these are masters of hard-to-get. They delay pleasure, even while they promise it. They tease and then step back, keep their victims off balance, challenge victims with independence, are self-sufficient (or appear to be), are NEVER jealous, and never seem able to be caught—which is why so many want them. (SEP 2008)
7.The Charmer: (either sex) Charm = seduction without sex…but they could have it if they wanted. Charmers create pleasure for their targets and make them feel as if they, not the Charmer, are the greatest people in the world. They make the Victim the center of attention, are a source of pleasure when others are not (they listen to you, make you feel important, go out of their way for you), smooth away conflict, mirror you to make you easy in their presence, are calm in the face of adversity, and are always useful. Charmers strive to make their Victims’ lives easier—what is more seductive? (SEP 2008)
8.The Charismatic: these people excite us with their presence and some inner quality—confidence, purpose, vision, self-possession. This quality radiates to the public and seduces on a grand scale. It makes them seem extraordinary. They heighten this effect showing purpose, remaining mysterious, appearing saintly (they never compromise their morals), eloquence, theatricality, uninhibitedness (they do what others dream of and talk about), fervency in speech and action, vulnerability, adventurousness, and sheer magnetism. (OCT 2008)
9.The Star: these people seem vague, ethereal, dream-like, and fascinating. They keep their distance, while enticing you to come closer. They entice those who want an escape from the daily harshness of life. They insinuate and reach to tantalize the Victim’s unconscious desires, are uncanny, have a haunting effect on people, mix what is real and unreal, stand out from the crowd, unclear, ambiguous, full of dramatic flair, and make us want to know more about them. They are passive, though they seem so interactive because we have imagined them to be so. (JAN 2009)
B. The following are the victim types (18) that Robert Greene uses in The Art of Seduction. All are listed as the above seducer types are, except that instead of the strengths listed after it is the Victim’s dominant weakness. Use both as a quick reference guide.
1.The Reformed Rake/Siren: they miss the game of seduction and long to re-enter it. After all, they were so good at it before. (MAR 2009)
2.The Disappointed Dreamer: they’ve had many a dream shattered and want one that is not…and a lover to match the dream. (MAR 2009)
3.The Pampered Royal: these want to be entertained, distracted, and provided for—they’re spoiled and want to remain that way. (MAR 2009)
4.The New Prude: they’re oppressed by their own correctness and really do want to be released from society’s strict rules. They only need help to do it. (MAR 2009)
5.The Crushed Star: they were once the center of attention and want to be so again. Do this for them and they are yours. (MAR 2009)
6.The Novice: fatally curious and “innocent,” these people want to see the world and its “dark side,” sensuality, and decadence. The danger of it lures them. (APR 2009)
7.The Conqueror: these people want a challenge and obstacles to overcome to expend their excess energy. They want to chase you, and, yes, they want you to run. (APR 2009)
8.The Exotic Fetishist: they love whatever is unlike themselves. Be different socio-economically, culturally, ethnically, etc.—that is what they want. (JUL 2009)
9.The Drama Queen: they need their lives on a roller-coaster to keep them from becoming bored. They will create drama where there is none, if it does not come to them naturally. Give them rough treatment/pain; it is what they want. (JUL 2009)
10.The Professor: having huge intellectual strength, they want a release from it to something more physical. Make them feel like Don Juan/Cleopatra and they’re yours. (JUL 2009)
11.The Beauty: They want to be admired for more than their beauty—kindness, intellect, generosity, grace, wit, painting, anything will do. Then praise their beauty as well. (AUG 2009)
12.The Aging Baby: these don’t want to grow up. They want to be free to play and have someone else to handle the daily responsibilities. (AUG 2009)
13.The Rescuer: they want to be the knight in shining armor/loving matron. Let them save you, or solve your problems.
14.The Roue: these are the consummate seducer—having lived a hedonistic life of pleasure, they miss their own innocence. Therefore, they are seduced by youth and innocence.
15.The Idol Worshiper: unsatisfied with themselves, they wish to deflect thoughts of their own failings by adoring someone/something else. It pulls them away from their own lacks/weaknesses.
16.The Sensualist: With overactive senses, they respond with vigor to the slightest sensation—a grand vista, great food, amazing music, etc.)
17.The Lonely Leader: so used to being treated with deference because of the force of their personalities all their lives (no matter their station in life), in addition to having others fawn over them to advance their own goals or gain something from them, they are distrustful and suspicious. Be blunt and honest. You will seem genuine.
18.The Floating Gender: these mix masculine and feminine qualities, not because they’re homosexual but because they like it. They want another person to do it with. If you are not a Floating Gender, DON’T attempt to seduce them. You’ll make them uncomfortable.
C.You can be attracted to any type of victim and any type can be attracted to you…but here are a few things to remember:
1.No one can seduce everyone.
2.You must provide for your target’s dominant weakness. It is your opportunity. Take advantage of it.
3.NEVER try to seduce someone that is the same victim type as you are. You end up lacking the same things, not fulfilling each others needs, and in general annoying each other. The goal is to find one who compliments you, not one that is a carbon copy of you.
4.You cannot seduce anyone that is perfectly happy and content. They have to be lacking something. A happy person needs nothing from anyone else. (But do not fall for the mask that most people present to the world. Most everyone is unhappy in something, at some point. That is why they are called “moments of weakness.”)
And that is all for today, Ladies and Gentlemen. Remember our challenge: seduce someone new (or as many someones as you can) in the next six months. Find who you are and what you bring to the table. Now look around for a target. Tomorrow we re-enter the discussion of Victim Types. You must know your target.
Rule 1: Know yourself.
Rule 2: Know your target.
Happy seducing. I have chosen my target. Feel free to comment and tell me about yours.
Monday, August 24, 2009
A Grand Challenge
My dearest Readers,
Yesterday, a gentleman of my acquaintance told me that seduction was all about sex. How very Freudian of him...and how very misguided. And yes, I made the faux pas of trying to persuade him and we ended up arguing just a bit. Not loudly or violently, mind you, but publicly. WE obviously disagreed and were unable to come to terms on the subject.
With him being a businessman, I tried to reason that marketing, advertising, and sales are all examples of seduction--one person/ entity tries to entice another into a type of relationship (limited though it may be to purchasing an object).
His response: "No it is not the same. Seducers try to push themselves on you, don't leave you alone, and try to take what you do not want to give. And no one profits but the person seducing. The other person only gets hurt."
Me: "A bad one perhaps. Bad salespeople do the same thing. They try to take your money."
Him: "And seducers try to take your virtue, and you don't want to part with it. Seduction is nothing but sex."
The conversation turned and ended shortly after. I was actually somewhat shocked that I had personally become so animated myself. Then, I came to a decision: I will prove him wrong...pleasantly. I had tried to be reasonable but see that there is nothing for it now. I must show him. He will be happy I did, when he realizes what I have done.
No, I am not going to seduce him--I will seduce everyone around him. I will turn acquaintances into friends--perhaps one or two into amours--and friends into better friends. I will enchant and enthrall...and be myself the entire time. (Someone will always see through you if you try to be what you are not.)
How does this involve you? I wish you do perform the experiment with me.
From the fledgling beginners to the old hands of the game, let us conduct the experiment with gusto. Let us each seduce someone new by March 21. For "rules" let's use these:
1. Your Victim can be anyone you like of either sex
2. You may seduce for any reason you like (i.e. passion, friendship, companionship, leveraging business, etc.)
3. Do this by March 21 (approx. 6 months from now)
4. There must be pleasure for BOTH of you--that is the point of the game.
For the beginners, let us more tried hands be fair--any seduction that a beginner has initiated within the past 4-6 weeks may count for this experiment. For the more practiced hands, begin another (not one to interfere with your current one, of course--just a separate one, with a separate purpose if you like).
My dear Readers, while we conduct this experiment, let's all blog about it. Comment on mine. Ask questions, admit the shame of faux pas, share anecdotes and vignettes. Share the conquests, problems, successes, pains, and pleasures involved with each other. And most of all, let us bring pleasure and joy to those we seduce.
F0r my part in this, I will be diligent in completing my part--teaching/re-teaching/advising/coaching all of you. Shortly, I will quickly recap what we have covered thus far, so that it will be fresh in our minds and to give quick references for anyone who may have just joined our group. Then, I will be diligent in continuing.
Be diligent in your seductions. You and your victim will be edified together in the end. Besides how much more fun can you have with another person or multiple people than you can alone. Help me prove the hardened businessman wrong.
Let us seduce.
Yesterday, a gentleman of my acquaintance told me that seduction was all about sex. How very Freudian of him...and how very misguided. And yes, I made the faux pas of trying to persuade him and we ended up arguing just a bit. Not loudly or violently, mind you, but publicly. WE obviously disagreed and were unable to come to terms on the subject.
With him being a businessman, I tried to reason that marketing, advertising, and sales are all examples of seduction--one person/ entity tries to entice another into a type of relationship (limited though it may be to purchasing an object).
His response: "No it is not the same. Seducers try to push themselves on you, don't leave you alone, and try to take what you do not want to give. And no one profits but the person seducing. The other person only gets hurt."
Me: "A bad one perhaps. Bad salespeople do the same thing. They try to take your money."
Him: "And seducers try to take your virtue, and you don't want to part with it. Seduction is nothing but sex."
The conversation turned and ended shortly after. I was actually somewhat shocked that I had personally become so animated myself. Then, I came to a decision: I will prove him wrong...pleasantly. I had tried to be reasonable but see that there is nothing for it now. I must show him. He will be happy I did, when he realizes what I have done.
No, I am not going to seduce him--I will seduce everyone around him. I will turn acquaintances into friends--perhaps one or two into amours--and friends into better friends. I will enchant and enthrall...and be myself the entire time. (Someone will always see through you if you try to be what you are not.)
How does this involve you? I wish you do perform the experiment with me.
From the fledgling beginners to the old hands of the game, let us conduct the experiment with gusto. Let us each seduce someone new by March 21. For "rules" let's use these:
1. Your Victim can be anyone you like of either sex
2. You may seduce for any reason you like (i.e. passion, friendship, companionship, leveraging business, etc.)
3. Do this by March 21 (approx. 6 months from now)
4. There must be pleasure for BOTH of you--that is the point of the game.
For the beginners, let us more tried hands be fair--any seduction that a beginner has initiated within the past 4-6 weeks may count for this experiment. For the more practiced hands, begin another (not one to interfere with your current one, of course--just a separate one, with a separate purpose if you like).
My dear Readers, while we conduct this experiment, let's all blog about it. Comment on mine. Ask questions, admit the shame of faux pas, share anecdotes and vignettes. Share the conquests, problems, successes, pains, and pleasures involved with each other. And most of all, let us bring pleasure and joy to those we seduce.
F0r my part in this, I will be diligent in completing my part--teaching/re-teaching/advising/coaching all of you. Shortly, I will quickly recap what we have covered thus far, so that it will be fresh in our minds and to give quick references for anyone who may have just joined our group. Then, I will be diligent in continuing.
Be diligent in your seductions. You and your victim will be edified together in the end. Besides how much more fun can you have with another person or multiple people than you can alone. Help me prove the hardened businessman wrong.
Let us seduce.
Friday, August 21, 2009
Here I come to save the day!....The Rescuer
Rescuers are exactly what their names imply--they like to rescue people. Bring on the Damsel (or Gentleman) in distress because these guys love it.
These Victims seem to only be attracted to people with problems--the very sadness/ depression of those problems burden people with seems to attract a Rescuer. It appeals to the deep seeded desire to help someone, but it also makes them feel as though they're "in power" or superior because he/she has just solved your problem.They're a hero!
Recognizing them: Look for people with a lot of empathy, the kind that always seem to want you to open up and talk about your problems/ issues with them. Also, a Rescuer will usually have a string of relationships with dependent/ troubled/ needy people.
To catch one:
Do:
-Play Damsel In Distress (women)--let him be a Knight.
-Play a Boy that cannot deal with the Harsh World (men)--let her be the healing maternal influence.
-Have an air of sadness (it will draw them in). Pick anything to be your issue (strings of bad relationships with people who take advantage of you, you've had too little love in your life, whatever).
-Be vulnerable.
Don't:
-Be needy--having needs and being needy are different. (Needing constant reassurance of who you are and that you are worth something/ are good at something/etc. is completely separate than a periodic crisis. The former is NEEDY...and incredibly anti-seductive to anyone, even a Rescuer.)
-Suddenly start solving their problems for them in return. (They provide this service to you; if you reciprocate in kind, then you have taken from them what they give you, taken their pride and superiority. That will crush them.) Let them keep the high ground; you will get what you want.
On a personal note, Rescuers really are a joy to seduce and pleasurable to have around. They always want to help you deal with the harshness of life and make you feel better, or help you finish that tough project you're working one, or cheer you on from the sideline as you finish that race they "convinced" you to enter.
Whatever it is, they are happy to dig in and help you. They appreciate your appreciation too. Never a dull moment on this one, all the different ways you can find to say Thank You and they can find to help you, it never gets old. They care too much.
Again, enjoy the game. Choose your Victims, Seduce languidly, and Satisfy you BOTH in the process.
These Victims seem to only be attracted to people with problems--the very sadness/ depression of those problems burden people with seems to attract a Rescuer. It appeals to the deep seeded desire to help someone, but it also makes them feel as though they're "in power" or superior because he/she has just solved your problem.They're a hero!
Recognizing them: Look for people with a lot of empathy, the kind that always seem to want you to open up and talk about your problems/ issues with them. Also, a Rescuer will usually have a string of relationships with dependent/ troubled/ needy people.
To catch one:
Do:
-Play Damsel In Distress (women)--let him be a Knight.
-Play a Boy that cannot deal with the Harsh World (men)--let her be the healing maternal influence.
-Have an air of sadness (it will draw them in). Pick anything to be your issue (strings of bad relationships with people who take advantage of you, you've had too little love in your life, whatever).
-Be vulnerable.
Don't:
-Be needy--having needs and being needy are different. (Needing constant reassurance of who you are and that you are worth something/ are good at something/etc. is completely separate than a periodic crisis. The former is NEEDY...and incredibly anti-seductive to anyone, even a Rescuer.)
-Suddenly start solving their problems for them in return. (They provide this service to you; if you reciprocate in kind, then you have taken from them what they give you, taken their pride and superiority. That will crush them.) Let them keep the high ground; you will get what you want.
On a personal note, Rescuers really are a joy to seduce and pleasurable to have around. They always want to help you deal with the harshness of life and make you feel better, or help you finish that tough project you're working one, or cheer you on from the sideline as you finish that race they "convinced" you to enter.
Whatever it is, they are happy to dig in and help you. They appreciate your appreciation too. Never a dull moment on this one, all the different ways you can find to say Thank You and they can find to help you, it never gets old. They care too much.
Again, enjoy the game. Choose your Victims, Seduce languidly, and Satisfy you BOTH in the process.
Do they EVER grow up? Not Aging Babies
"I don't wanna grow up, 'cause if I did..." I couldn't be an Aging Baby.
These Babes dislike responsibility and all those "grown up" ideas. If you are one, people have probably asked you when you're going to grow up a lot. It's not that an Aging Baby can't take care of himself, or that she's unable to take responsibility for anything. They just love the carefree passion of childhood and want to keep it. For the rest of us, it's charming at first, then interesting (we wonder how you can keep it up for so long).
No matter what they say, an Aging Baby doesn't want to be involved with another of its own kind. It might be fun at first, but it always ends in competition (the last thing they want). This type wants a parental-type figure.
Do:
-Be the responsible, grown up one. (This lets the Baby play, and that's what they want.)
-Like the Baby's spirit and energy (while staying the indulgent parent figure).
Don't:
-Judge and criticize their behavior.
-Tell them to grow up.
Remember though, like the Beauty's insecurities, the Baby's inherent narcissism limits the real pleasure that you might have with them. They're naturally (and like children) a bit selfish. It can be irritating. Unless you like always being the responsible one, keep the seductions short and satisfying.
Enjoy the Game. Seduce and be seduced.
These Babes dislike responsibility and all those "grown up" ideas. If you are one, people have probably asked you when you're going to grow up a lot. It's not that an Aging Baby can't take care of himself, or that she's unable to take responsibility for anything. They just love the carefree passion of childhood and want to keep it. For the rest of us, it's charming at first, then interesting (we wonder how you can keep it up for so long).
No matter what they say, an Aging Baby doesn't want to be involved with another of its own kind. It might be fun at first, but it always ends in competition (the last thing they want). This type wants a parental-type figure.
Do:
-Be the responsible, grown up one. (This lets the Baby play, and that's what they want.)
-Like the Baby's spirit and energy (while staying the indulgent parent figure).
Don't:
-Judge and criticize their behavior.
-Tell them to grow up.
Remember though, like the Beauty's insecurities, the Baby's inherent narcissism limits the real pleasure that you might have with them. They're naturally (and like children) a bit selfish. It can be irritating. Unless you like always being the responsible one, keep the seductions short and satisfying.
Enjoy the Game. Seduce and be seduced.
Thursday, August 13, 2009
Admiring the Beauty from Afar
Stare. Admire. Adore. The Beauty loves to be thought irresistible but resents you for it...if they think that their beauty is the reason that you are attracted to them. Unlike the Siren, she worries that her powers of attraction are or will soon wane. She also believes that beauty intimidates men and hates being worshiped from afar. She "suffers from isolation."
To seduce her is easy, since she seems to lack so much. And it will be fairly satisfying as she will be dependent on you. Here's a few ways:
Don't approach by complimenting her beauty.
Don't make her insecure by ignoring her beauty either--treat it like one part of a much larger, wonderfully attractive woman.
Do validate/ point out other qualities that others seem to miss--intelligence, wisdom, skills, talents, characters, etc.
Do worship her beauty as well (Don't make her more insecure about the one thing that she is confident about).
Do worship her mind and soul with her body.
Do train her out of her natural passivity: use coquettishness to do this. Go a little cold occasionally and let her do a but of chasing to you. She will be happier (less frustrated by being so passive) and you will have a better victim.
Downside: The Beauty's incessant and many insecurities need constant care. You must attend to these if you want any type of lasting seduction.
If you want this type go for it. Their dependence on you at the end will be wonderfully fulfilling, if that is what you want.
As always, enjoy the game. It is a joy and should be one for both parties.
To seduce her is easy, since she seems to lack so much. And it will be fairly satisfying as she will be dependent on you. Here's a few ways:
Don't approach by complimenting her beauty.
Don't make her insecure by ignoring her beauty either--treat it like one part of a much larger, wonderfully attractive woman.
Do validate/ point out other qualities that others seem to miss--intelligence, wisdom, skills, talents, characters, etc.
Do worship her beauty as well (Don't make her more insecure about the one thing that she is confident about).
Do worship her mind and soul with her body.
Do train her out of her natural passivity: use coquettishness to do this. Go a little cold occasionally and let her do a but of chasing to you. She will be happier (less frustrated by being so passive) and you will have a better victim.
Downside: The Beauty's incessant and many insecurities need constant care. You must attend to these if you want any type of lasting seduction.
If you want this type go for it. Their dependence on you at the end will be wonderfully fulfilling, if that is what you want.
As always, enjoy the game. It is a joy and should be one for both parties.
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