Starting Phase One: Stirring desire

There are 8 steps in phase one, but more often than not you will do many of them simultaneously. Since they cannot be taught that way, I'll take you through them one by one.

Step 1: Choosing the right Victim

This is THE most important step. Why? Because it does you absolutley no good to try to charm someone who is not susceptible to you. In fact, that is where most people get so frustrated in their relationships--one person far more involved than the other. Do yourself a favor and test your victim to see if they react to you before setting your plans in motion. Choose your victims carefully. Here's how:

1. Choose people who react to you: If they react, then they are susceptible. Reactions can be both good and bad. Men: If you make a pretty girl blush, she is susceptible. Ladies: If you can make a man angry, he is susceptible. And vice versa.
There are many ways to tell if a person is susceptible to you, but remember not to pay too much attention to what the person says. What they say has been thought about, edited, and filtered. They've made a few calculations too, whether they realize it or not. Pay more attention to what they can't control--body language, breathing, blushes, flashes of emotion on thir faces or in their eyes. These are much less controlled, much less calculated. They are the truth.

2. Choose a victim that you have feelings for, who intrigues you: If you have feelings for your victim, then those feelings will make your machinations seem less calculated, make all of your overtures more genuine...because they are. You actually want the person. Also, you will be more creative in getting what you want. And creativity is essential.
This person needs to stir you on some level, though what that level is depends on you. A Gentleman friend of mine is a quintessential Roue. He loves "Goody Two Shoe" women. They stir him. A Lady friend of mine is a Beatuty and has always wanted a man that can admire her for her mind, so she falls for men that do not begin a conversation by telling her than she is beautiful but that she is intelligent.

3. Study your Victim: Find out what you can about them, especially about what they want/lack. Then you know how to formulate your seduction (i.e. bored people can be tempted with seduction, people who believe that they are immune to seduction need a much more subtle approach, etc). You need to know what they need before you can provide it. Find what Victim Type they are.

Remember that your choice of target is critical. It determines everything that will follow. And test your target to see if they are susceptible to you: say something geared to get a response from them, dress a certain way to see if they take notice, play with them. This is a little game of cat and mouse to start with; you must see if they are willing to play. A few body language keys: mirroring your gestures, turning their bodies toward you, an unusual shyness, a flash of anger/resentment--these are all reactions to you. They are susceptible.

When your chosen target is indifferent to you, there is almost nothing that you can do about it. At that moment, you may as well move on. There is very little to gain aside from frustration at that point. Any reaction is better than no reaction at all.

A Special Note:
1. Appearances are important. You need to present yourself well. Men, be gentlemen. Ladies, be ladies. There are more than enough crass and vulgar people in this world. Mostly, we are used to them, but we do not want to be wooed by them.
2. Appearances are also superficial and deceiving. Don't be deceived by them. Many times, shy people want to be brought out of their shells and extroverts are insecure. Play on that. Don't be deceived by it.

Before starting, You need to know....

Here's a few quick notes on the seduction process, things you need to do as a seducer, and problems that people cause themselves.

The Process:
As I have said many times, this is a game, and it's an enjoyable one. Seduction should bring pleasure to both parties, not only one. These can be quick Casanova-like seductions, but he left his victims loving him as well. This game is very much like chess, requiring time, patience, and thought.

Things you need to do:
1. Observation. You need to learn this skill and practice often. I can give you steps, advice, etc. but you must watch and learn things about your victim. You are the one that is there.
2. Imagination. Seduction should transport your victim from the every day to somewhere else; this is impossible to do without imagination. Where you go depends on you victim.
3. Patience. Don't try to rush your victim through the steps. It takes time to seduce .
4. Mystery. This is the center of seduction. If you get too familiar with people, they get too comfortable and the relationship gets boring and routine. Avoid this (i.e. Periodically, re-seduce the people in your life).
5. Focus and strategic thinking. You need to be one step ahead of your victim. I will teach you how.

Problems:
1. Don't be selfish. People tend to think only about their own issues/ anxieties/ concerns/ etc, but you are different. You are a seducer, and you think outside the box. So focus on your victim, not yourself.
2. Don't rush your seduction! The longer you take, the deeper the seduction gets. If you rush, you are being selfish. And, from an expert, the longer seductions are extremely satisfying.
3. Don't be self-absorbed. Most people think more about what they can get from others than what they can give. You shouldn't. Your victims love you because you give them pleasure, not the other way around.
4. Don't be merciful. You need to draw the victim out of his/her daily life. This can be uncomfortable or painful for some, but it's necessary.
5. Don't be timid. You may play at shyness, but you are not timid. Shynes is bashfulness (maybe you blush and draw back a bit). Timidity means that you lack self-assurance, courage, bravery. Seducers cannot be timid.


Also, romantic seductions require a more physical form of foreplay, which we will go into later. For social/political seductions, foreplay is psychological and emotional. The only difference between these and a romantic seduction is adding the physical component. If you have questions before we get to the physical discussion, ask and I will answer.

Now, we begin.

The Seduction Process

Now, Ladies and Gentlemen, we have concluded the Seducer Types and Victim Types. By now, you should have figured out which of each you are. Next, we learn to use them.

Robert Greene breaks this up into four phases. Remember though, that these borders are more fluid than they look. A seducer can take her victim from phase one to phase two without even realizing it.

The easiest way to explain the steps of seduction is to take you through one. Therefore, in the next couple of days, choose a person to seduce (whether romantically or socially).

I have already chosen another target and will begin blogging in the seduction process with my next post. In the meantime, happy hunting and good luck finding someone worth seducing.

They could go either way...Floating Gender

While all of us have some masculine and feminine qualities in us, most people only show the socially acceptable ones. Floating Genders, on the other hand, feel extremely repressed if they have to do this.

Recognizing them:
-You may think that these people are repressed homosexuals, but it's not necessarily the case.
-They want to be able to play with their gender.
-They aren't obvious about this (it can be a social faux pas), a woman may have a very masculine energy or a man may have a nicely developed sensitive side. In general, the term "Metro-sexual" often applies to these people.

To Seduce them:

Do:
1. Play with your gender. (They really want someone that they can play with.)
2. Show them that they can relax with you and show whatever side of their character that they choose.

Don't:
1. Try to keep them repressed. They want to free up parts of their personality--you need to help them do this.
2. Mistake this for homosexuality. These people want their counterpart from the opposite gender.

Remember: This is the only time where it is a good idea to seduce your own victim type. If you are a Floating Gender and seduce another, then you give each other license to play and explore. This is a great thing for both of you. You can both let loose without the fear of judgment or repression.

If you are not a Floating Gender, do not bother to seduce this type. You will inhibit them and make both of you uncomfortable.