My dear Readers,
My apologies for taking so very long to post again. Be assured that it was for a good cause. I was helping to stage a complete and total seduction which has now, with great satisfaction, nearly complete. Alas, this romantic seduction was not my own but the conquest of a friend and her chosen target.
In truth, when begun, I doubt that my friend knew that this would be such a grand seduction. She has since changed her mind about that.
At a distance, a very great distance, she has seduced a very choice target. She filled his mind with thoughts of her by both being within and out of reach. By letting him romanticize her persona for a few months, she has snared him. Never did she lie. She took care with what she said, revealing her character and quirks a few pieces at a time--and revealing the contradictions in that character. With a bit of encouragement in favor of the occasional bold maneuver, she has snared him. And he loves every minute of it.
Let this be a lesson, my friends. 1. Make yourself appealing to your victim by dancing on the line between being within and out of reach. 2. Fill your Victim's mind with thoughts of you (insinuation is key here). 3. Let them romanticize you. 4. Give them space to fall for you, and be there to have them fall into your arms.
These are the basic tenets of a successful seduction. Never rush them. Let your Victim snare themselves.
Remember, give both yourself and your victim time to enjoy the seduction.
Good luck in the chase. I am shortly to begin one of my own again. I have finally found a target who proves...interesting. Victims should always be interesting.
Tuesday, November 10, 2009
Wednesday, August 26, 2009
Here I come to save the day!...The Rescuer
Rescuers are exactly what their names imply--they like to rescue people. Bring on the Damsel (or Gentleman) in distress because these guys love it.
These Victims seem to only be attracted to people with problems--the very sadness/ depression of those problems burden people with seems to attract a Rescuer. It appeals to the deep seeded desire to help someone, but it also makes them feel as though they're "in power" or superior because he/she has just solved your problem.They're a hero!
Recognizing them: Look for people with a lot of empathy, the kind that always seem to want you to open up and talk about your problems/ issues with them. Also, a Rescuer will usually have a string of relationships with dependent/ troubled/ needy people.
To catch one:
Do:
-Play Damsel In Distress (women)--let him be a Knight.
-Play a Boy that cannot deal with the Harsh World (men)--let her be the healing maternal influence.
-Have an air of sadness (it will draw them in). Pick anything to be your issue (strings of bad relationships with people who take advantage of you, you've had too little love in your life, whatever).
-Be vulnerable.
Don't:
-Be needy--having needs and being needy are different. (Needing constant reassurance of who you are and that you are worth something/ are good at something/etc. is completely separate than a periodic crisis. The former is NEEDY...and incredibly anti-seductive to anyone, even a Rescuer.)
-Suddenly start solving their problems for them in return. (They provide this service to you; if you reciprocate in kind, then you have taken from them what they give you, taken their pride and superiority. That will crush them.) Let them keep the high ground; you will get what you want.
On a personal note, Rescuers really are a joy to seduce and pleasurable to have around. They always want to help you deal with the harshness of life and make you feel better, or help you finish that tough project you're working one, or cheer you on from the sideline as you finish that race they "convinced" you to enter.
Whatever it is, they are happy to dig in and help you. They appreciate your appreciation too. Never a dull moment on this one, all the different ways you can find to say Thank You and they can find to help you, it never gets old. They care too much.
Again, enjoy the game. Choose your Victims, Seduce languidly, and Satisfy you BOTH in the process.
These Victims seem to only be attracted to people with problems--the very sadness/ depression of those problems burden people with seems to attract a Rescuer. It appeals to the deep seeded desire to help someone, but it also makes them feel as though they're "in power" or superior because he/she has just solved your problem.They're a hero!
Recognizing them: Look for people with a lot of empathy, the kind that always seem to want you to open up and talk about your problems/ issues with them. Also, a Rescuer will usually have a string of relationships with dependent/ troubled/ needy people.
To catch one:
Do:
-Play Damsel In Distress (women)--let him be a Knight.
-Play a Boy that cannot deal with the Harsh World (men)--let her be the healing maternal influence.
-Have an air of sadness (it will draw them in). Pick anything to be your issue (strings of bad relationships with people who take advantage of you, you've had too little love in your life, whatever).
-Be vulnerable.
Don't:
-Be needy--having needs and being needy are different. (Needing constant reassurance of who you are and that you are worth something/ are good at something/etc. is completely separate than a periodic crisis. The former is NEEDY...and incredibly anti-seductive to anyone, even a Rescuer.)
-Suddenly start solving their problems for them in return. (They provide this service to you; if you reciprocate in kind, then you have taken from them what they give you, taken their pride and superiority. That will crush them.) Let them keep the high ground; you will get what you want.
On a personal note, Rescuers really are a joy to seduce and pleasurable to have around. They always want to help you deal with the harshness of life and make you feel better, or help you finish that tough project you're working one, or cheer you on from the sideline as you finish that race they "convinced" you to enter.
Whatever it is, they are happy to dig in and help you. They appreciate your appreciation too. Never a dull moment on this one, all the different ways you can find to say Thank You and they can find to help you, it never gets old. They care too much.
Again, enjoy the game. Choose your Victims, Seduce languidly, and Satisfy you BOTH in the process.
Tuesday, August 25, 2009
The Recap...a quick reference
Before beginning any seduction you must know the following:
A.What type of a seducer you are: what do you bring to the table?
B.What type of Victim are you: what are you susceptible to?
C.What type of Victims are attracted to you? Who is susceptible to your charms?
A.The following are the seducer types (9) that Robert Greene uses in The Art of Seduction. (It’s not an exhaustive list, but it gets you started.) Next to each is a quick introduction and list of the type’s possible strengths/abilities, i.e. the keys to the character. If I have written on the type in the past, you will see the date of the blog posting in parentheses.
1.The Siren: these women are the consummate male fantasy figures—the exude sex and allow the man to be as uninhibited as he likes, freeing him from imposed societal strictures. They use their voices, their bodies, the adornments they put on, their movements, and their demeanors. Everything calls the man to come to them. (JAN 2009)
2.The Rake: these men embody the female fantasy figure—The Rake wants you and will do anything he can to get you; they are extreme characters. These men offer pleasure for pleasures sake and do not offer the “mild, acceptable” ones, but many. They abandon themselves to the moment, never worry about a woman’s resistance (it’s temporary), have great depth in personality (wit, sarcasm, impudence), do not care what anyone thinks of them, have an aura of danger surrounding them, and have a tendency to make women want to reform him. They pull women into their world by mixing passion, danger, and intense attention. (SEP 2008)
3.The Ideal Lover: (either sex) these create the dream that you see for yourself, whatever the dream is. These people are quintessential observers, always seeing what you do not consciously show anyone. They will sacrifice whatever is necessary to produce what you want, perform dangerous acts to see you alone, be ambiguous. These may come in varieties like Casanovas, errant knights, Lady/whores (Lady in the front room/freak in the bedroom), etc. What you imagine, the provide enough to let you keep imagining. (JAN 2009)
4.The Dandy: (usually male) fluid and impossible to categorize, they play with masculine and feminine to create a startling image for themselves. And they do it well. Rudolph Valentino was marvelous at it. They play with style (people often imitate them), fuss with physical appearance for some time (maybe hours), are unconventional in nearly every way, are impudent, live for pleasure, are charming and outrageous. (JAN 2009)
5.The Natural: (either sex) these people keep the good qualities from childhood and enchant us with them, i.e. sincerity, imagination, playfulness, etc. They infect us with their own delight. They use innocence (or the illusion of it), fearlessness, wonder, and are non-defensive in love. They bring back the carefree days to the rest of us. (MAR 2009)
6.The Coquette: (usually female) blowing hot and cold, these are masters of hard-to-get. They delay pleasure, even while they promise it. They tease and then step back, keep their victims off balance, challenge victims with independence, are self-sufficient (or appear to be), are NEVER jealous, and never seem able to be caught—which is why so many want them. (SEP 2008)
7.The Charmer: (either sex) Charm = seduction without sex…but they could have it if they wanted. Charmers create pleasure for their targets and make them feel as if they, not the Charmer, are the greatest people in the world. They make the Victim the center of attention, are a source of pleasure when others are not (they listen to you, make you feel important, go out of their way for you), smooth away conflict, mirror you to make you easy in their presence, are calm in the face of adversity, and are always useful. Charmers strive to make their Victims’ lives easier—what is more seductive? (SEP 2008)
8.The Charismatic: these people excite us with their presence and some inner quality—confidence, purpose, vision, self-possession. This quality radiates to the public and seduces on a grand scale. It makes them seem extraordinary. They heighten this effect showing purpose, remaining mysterious, appearing saintly (they never compromise their morals), eloquence, theatricality, uninhibitedness (they do what others dream of and talk about), fervency in speech and action, vulnerability, adventurousness, and sheer magnetism. (OCT 2008)
9.The Star: these people seem vague, ethereal, dream-like, and fascinating. They keep their distance, while enticing you to come closer. They entice those who want an escape from the daily harshness of life. They insinuate and reach to tantalize the Victim’s unconscious desires, are uncanny, have a haunting effect on people, mix what is real and unreal, stand out from the crowd, unclear, ambiguous, full of dramatic flair, and make us want to know more about them. They are passive, though they seem so interactive because we have imagined them to be so. (JAN 2009)
B. The following are the victim types (18) that Robert Greene uses in The Art of Seduction. All are listed as the above seducer types are, except that instead of the strengths listed after it is the Victim’s dominant weakness. Use both as a quick reference guide.
1.The Reformed Rake/Siren: they miss the game of seduction and long to re-enter it. After all, they were so good at it before. (MAR 2009)
2.The Disappointed Dreamer: they’ve had many a dream shattered and want one that is not…and a lover to match the dream. (MAR 2009)
3.The Pampered Royal: these want to be entertained, distracted, and provided for—they’re spoiled and want to remain that way. (MAR 2009)
4.The New Prude: they’re oppressed by their own correctness and really do want to be released from society’s strict rules. They only need help to do it. (MAR 2009)
5.The Crushed Star: they were once the center of attention and want to be so again. Do this for them and they are yours. (MAR 2009)
6.The Novice: fatally curious and “innocent,” these people want to see the world and its “dark side,” sensuality, and decadence. The danger of it lures them. (APR 2009)
7.The Conqueror: these people want a challenge and obstacles to overcome to expend their excess energy. They want to chase you, and, yes, they want you to run. (APR 2009)
8.The Exotic Fetishist: they love whatever is unlike themselves. Be different socio-economically, culturally, ethnically, etc.—that is what they want. (JUL 2009)
9.The Drama Queen: they need their lives on a roller-coaster to keep them from becoming bored. They will create drama where there is none, if it does not come to them naturally. Give them rough treatment/pain; it is what they want. (JUL 2009)
10.The Professor: having huge intellectual strength, they want a release from it to something more physical. Make them feel like Don Juan/Cleopatra and they’re yours. (JUL 2009)
11.The Beauty: They want to be admired for more than their beauty—kindness, intellect, generosity, grace, wit, painting, anything will do. Then praise their beauty as well. (AUG 2009)
12.The Aging Baby: these don’t want to grow up. They want to be free to play and have someone else to handle the daily responsibilities. (AUG 2009)
13.The Rescuer: they want to be the knight in shining armor/loving matron. Let them save you, or solve your problems.
14.The Roue: these are the consummate seducer—having lived a hedonistic life of pleasure, they miss their own innocence. Therefore, they are seduced by youth and innocence.
15.The Idol Worshiper: unsatisfied with themselves, they wish to deflect thoughts of their own failings by adoring someone/something else. It pulls them away from their own lacks/weaknesses.
16.The Sensualist: With overactive senses, they respond with vigor to the slightest sensation—a grand vista, great food, amazing music, etc.)
17.The Lonely Leader: so used to being treated with deference because of the force of their personalities all their lives (no matter their station in life), in addition to having others fawn over them to advance their own goals or gain something from them, they are distrustful and suspicious. Be blunt and honest. You will seem genuine.
18.The Floating Gender: these mix masculine and feminine qualities, not because they’re homosexual but because they like it. They want another person to do it with. If you are not a Floating Gender, DON’T attempt to seduce them. You’ll make them uncomfortable.
C.You can be attracted to any type of victim and any type can be attracted to you…but here are a few things to remember:
1.No one can seduce everyone.
2.You must provide for your target’s dominant weakness. It is your opportunity. Take advantage of it.
3.NEVER try to seduce someone that is the same victim type as you are. You end up lacking the same things, not fulfilling each others needs, and in general annoying each other. The goal is to find one who compliments you, not one that is a carbon copy of you.
4.You cannot seduce anyone that is perfectly happy and content. They have to be lacking something. A happy person needs nothing from anyone else. (But do not fall for the mask that most people present to the world. Most everyone is unhappy in something, at some point. That is why they are called “moments of weakness.”)
And that is all for today, Ladies and Gentlemen. Remember our challenge: seduce someone new (or as many someones as you can) in the next six months. Find who you are and what you bring to the table. Now look around for a target. Tomorrow we re-enter the discussion of Victim Types. You must know your target.
Rule 1: Know yourself.
Rule 2: Know your target.
Happy seducing. I have chosen my target. Feel free to comment and tell me about yours.
A.What type of a seducer you are: what do you bring to the table?
B.What type of Victim are you: what are you susceptible to?
C.What type of Victims are attracted to you? Who is susceptible to your charms?
A.The following are the seducer types (9) that Robert Greene uses in The Art of Seduction. (It’s not an exhaustive list, but it gets you started.) Next to each is a quick introduction and list of the type’s possible strengths/abilities, i.e. the keys to the character. If I have written on the type in the past, you will see the date of the blog posting in parentheses.
1.The Siren: these women are the consummate male fantasy figures—the exude sex and allow the man to be as uninhibited as he likes, freeing him from imposed societal strictures. They use their voices, their bodies, the adornments they put on, their movements, and their demeanors. Everything calls the man to come to them. (JAN 2009)
2.The Rake: these men embody the female fantasy figure—The Rake wants you and will do anything he can to get you; they are extreme characters. These men offer pleasure for pleasures sake and do not offer the “mild, acceptable” ones, but many. They abandon themselves to the moment, never worry about a woman’s resistance (it’s temporary), have great depth in personality (wit, sarcasm, impudence), do not care what anyone thinks of them, have an aura of danger surrounding them, and have a tendency to make women want to reform him. They pull women into their world by mixing passion, danger, and intense attention. (SEP 2008)
3.The Ideal Lover: (either sex) these create the dream that you see for yourself, whatever the dream is. These people are quintessential observers, always seeing what you do not consciously show anyone. They will sacrifice whatever is necessary to produce what you want, perform dangerous acts to see you alone, be ambiguous. These may come in varieties like Casanovas, errant knights, Lady/whores (Lady in the front room/freak in the bedroom), etc. What you imagine, the provide enough to let you keep imagining. (JAN 2009)
4.The Dandy: (usually male) fluid and impossible to categorize, they play with masculine and feminine to create a startling image for themselves. And they do it well. Rudolph Valentino was marvelous at it. They play with style (people often imitate them), fuss with physical appearance for some time (maybe hours), are unconventional in nearly every way, are impudent, live for pleasure, are charming and outrageous. (JAN 2009)
5.The Natural: (either sex) these people keep the good qualities from childhood and enchant us with them, i.e. sincerity, imagination, playfulness, etc. They infect us with their own delight. They use innocence (or the illusion of it), fearlessness, wonder, and are non-defensive in love. They bring back the carefree days to the rest of us. (MAR 2009)
6.The Coquette: (usually female) blowing hot and cold, these are masters of hard-to-get. They delay pleasure, even while they promise it. They tease and then step back, keep their victims off balance, challenge victims with independence, are self-sufficient (or appear to be), are NEVER jealous, and never seem able to be caught—which is why so many want them. (SEP 2008)
7.The Charmer: (either sex) Charm = seduction without sex…but they could have it if they wanted. Charmers create pleasure for their targets and make them feel as if they, not the Charmer, are the greatest people in the world. They make the Victim the center of attention, are a source of pleasure when others are not (they listen to you, make you feel important, go out of their way for you), smooth away conflict, mirror you to make you easy in their presence, are calm in the face of adversity, and are always useful. Charmers strive to make their Victims’ lives easier—what is more seductive? (SEP 2008)
8.The Charismatic: these people excite us with their presence and some inner quality—confidence, purpose, vision, self-possession. This quality radiates to the public and seduces on a grand scale. It makes them seem extraordinary. They heighten this effect showing purpose, remaining mysterious, appearing saintly (they never compromise their morals), eloquence, theatricality, uninhibitedness (they do what others dream of and talk about), fervency in speech and action, vulnerability, adventurousness, and sheer magnetism. (OCT 2008)
9.The Star: these people seem vague, ethereal, dream-like, and fascinating. They keep their distance, while enticing you to come closer. They entice those who want an escape from the daily harshness of life. They insinuate and reach to tantalize the Victim’s unconscious desires, are uncanny, have a haunting effect on people, mix what is real and unreal, stand out from the crowd, unclear, ambiguous, full of dramatic flair, and make us want to know more about them. They are passive, though they seem so interactive because we have imagined them to be so. (JAN 2009)
B. The following are the victim types (18) that Robert Greene uses in The Art of Seduction. All are listed as the above seducer types are, except that instead of the strengths listed after it is the Victim’s dominant weakness. Use both as a quick reference guide.
1.The Reformed Rake/Siren: they miss the game of seduction and long to re-enter it. After all, they were so good at it before. (MAR 2009)
2.The Disappointed Dreamer: they’ve had many a dream shattered and want one that is not…and a lover to match the dream. (MAR 2009)
3.The Pampered Royal: these want to be entertained, distracted, and provided for—they’re spoiled and want to remain that way. (MAR 2009)
4.The New Prude: they’re oppressed by their own correctness and really do want to be released from society’s strict rules. They only need help to do it. (MAR 2009)
5.The Crushed Star: they were once the center of attention and want to be so again. Do this for them and they are yours. (MAR 2009)
6.The Novice: fatally curious and “innocent,” these people want to see the world and its “dark side,” sensuality, and decadence. The danger of it lures them. (APR 2009)
7.The Conqueror: these people want a challenge and obstacles to overcome to expend their excess energy. They want to chase you, and, yes, they want you to run. (APR 2009)
8.The Exotic Fetishist: they love whatever is unlike themselves. Be different socio-economically, culturally, ethnically, etc.—that is what they want. (JUL 2009)
9.The Drama Queen: they need their lives on a roller-coaster to keep them from becoming bored. They will create drama where there is none, if it does not come to them naturally. Give them rough treatment/pain; it is what they want. (JUL 2009)
10.The Professor: having huge intellectual strength, they want a release from it to something more physical. Make them feel like Don Juan/Cleopatra and they’re yours. (JUL 2009)
11.The Beauty: They want to be admired for more than their beauty—kindness, intellect, generosity, grace, wit, painting, anything will do. Then praise their beauty as well. (AUG 2009)
12.The Aging Baby: these don’t want to grow up. They want to be free to play and have someone else to handle the daily responsibilities. (AUG 2009)
13.The Rescuer: they want to be the knight in shining armor/loving matron. Let them save you, or solve your problems.
14.The Roue: these are the consummate seducer—having lived a hedonistic life of pleasure, they miss their own innocence. Therefore, they are seduced by youth and innocence.
15.The Idol Worshiper: unsatisfied with themselves, they wish to deflect thoughts of their own failings by adoring someone/something else. It pulls them away from their own lacks/weaknesses.
16.The Sensualist: With overactive senses, they respond with vigor to the slightest sensation—a grand vista, great food, amazing music, etc.)
17.The Lonely Leader: so used to being treated with deference because of the force of their personalities all their lives (no matter their station in life), in addition to having others fawn over them to advance their own goals or gain something from them, they are distrustful and suspicious. Be blunt and honest. You will seem genuine.
18.The Floating Gender: these mix masculine and feminine qualities, not because they’re homosexual but because they like it. They want another person to do it with. If you are not a Floating Gender, DON’T attempt to seduce them. You’ll make them uncomfortable.
C.You can be attracted to any type of victim and any type can be attracted to you…but here are a few things to remember:
1.No one can seduce everyone.
2.You must provide for your target’s dominant weakness. It is your opportunity. Take advantage of it.
3.NEVER try to seduce someone that is the same victim type as you are. You end up lacking the same things, not fulfilling each others needs, and in general annoying each other. The goal is to find one who compliments you, not one that is a carbon copy of you.
4.You cannot seduce anyone that is perfectly happy and content. They have to be lacking something. A happy person needs nothing from anyone else. (But do not fall for the mask that most people present to the world. Most everyone is unhappy in something, at some point. That is why they are called “moments of weakness.”)
And that is all for today, Ladies and Gentlemen. Remember our challenge: seduce someone new (or as many someones as you can) in the next six months. Find who you are and what you bring to the table. Now look around for a target. Tomorrow we re-enter the discussion of Victim Types. You must know your target.
Rule 1: Know yourself.
Rule 2: Know your target.
Happy seducing. I have chosen my target. Feel free to comment and tell me about yours.
Monday, August 24, 2009
A Grand Challenge
My dearest Readers,
Yesterday, a gentleman of my acquaintance told me that seduction was all about sex. How very Freudian of him...and how very misguided. And yes, I made the faux pas of trying to persuade him and we ended up arguing just a bit. Not loudly or violently, mind you, but publicly. WE obviously disagreed and were unable to come to terms on the subject.
With him being a businessman, I tried to reason that marketing, advertising, and sales are all examples of seduction--one person/ entity tries to entice another into a type of relationship (limited though it may be to purchasing an object).
His response: "No it is not the same. Seducers try to push themselves on you, don't leave you alone, and try to take what you do not want to give. And no one profits but the person seducing. The other person only gets hurt."
Me: "A bad one perhaps. Bad salespeople do the same thing. They try to take your money."
Him: "And seducers try to take your virtue, and you don't want to part with it. Seduction is nothing but sex."
The conversation turned and ended shortly after. I was actually somewhat shocked that I had personally become so animated myself. Then, I came to a decision: I will prove him wrong...pleasantly. I had tried to be reasonable but see that there is nothing for it now. I must show him. He will be happy I did, when he realizes what I have done.
No, I am not going to seduce him--I will seduce everyone around him. I will turn acquaintances into friends--perhaps one or two into amours--and friends into better friends. I will enchant and enthrall...and be myself the entire time. (Someone will always see through you if you try to be what you are not.)
How does this involve you? I wish you do perform the experiment with me.
From the fledgling beginners to the old hands of the game, let us conduct the experiment with gusto. Let us each seduce someone new by March 21. For "rules" let's use these:
1. Your Victim can be anyone you like of either sex
2. You may seduce for any reason you like (i.e. passion, friendship, companionship, leveraging business, etc.)
3. Do this by March 21 (approx. 6 months from now)
4. There must be pleasure for BOTH of you--that is the point of the game.
For the beginners, let us more tried hands be fair--any seduction that a beginner has initiated within the past 4-6 weeks may count for this experiment. For the more practiced hands, begin another (not one to interfere with your current one, of course--just a separate one, with a separate purpose if you like).
My dear Readers, while we conduct this experiment, let's all blog about it. Comment on mine. Ask questions, admit the shame of faux pas, share anecdotes and vignettes. Share the conquests, problems, successes, pains, and pleasures involved with each other. And most of all, let us bring pleasure and joy to those we seduce.
F0r my part in this, I will be diligent in completing my part--teaching/re-teaching/advising/coaching all of you. Shortly, I will quickly recap what we have covered thus far, so that it will be fresh in our minds and to give quick references for anyone who may have just joined our group. Then, I will be diligent in continuing.
Be diligent in your seductions. You and your victim will be edified together in the end. Besides how much more fun can you have with another person or multiple people than you can alone. Help me prove the hardened businessman wrong.
Let us seduce.
Yesterday, a gentleman of my acquaintance told me that seduction was all about sex. How very Freudian of him...and how very misguided. And yes, I made the faux pas of trying to persuade him and we ended up arguing just a bit. Not loudly or violently, mind you, but publicly. WE obviously disagreed and were unable to come to terms on the subject.
With him being a businessman, I tried to reason that marketing, advertising, and sales are all examples of seduction--one person/ entity tries to entice another into a type of relationship (limited though it may be to purchasing an object).
His response: "No it is not the same. Seducers try to push themselves on you, don't leave you alone, and try to take what you do not want to give. And no one profits but the person seducing. The other person only gets hurt."
Me: "A bad one perhaps. Bad salespeople do the same thing. They try to take your money."
Him: "And seducers try to take your virtue, and you don't want to part with it. Seduction is nothing but sex."
The conversation turned and ended shortly after. I was actually somewhat shocked that I had personally become so animated myself. Then, I came to a decision: I will prove him wrong...pleasantly. I had tried to be reasonable but see that there is nothing for it now. I must show him. He will be happy I did, when he realizes what I have done.
No, I am not going to seduce him--I will seduce everyone around him. I will turn acquaintances into friends--perhaps one or two into amours--and friends into better friends. I will enchant and enthrall...and be myself the entire time. (Someone will always see through you if you try to be what you are not.)
How does this involve you? I wish you do perform the experiment with me.
From the fledgling beginners to the old hands of the game, let us conduct the experiment with gusto. Let us each seduce someone new by March 21. For "rules" let's use these:
1. Your Victim can be anyone you like of either sex
2. You may seduce for any reason you like (i.e. passion, friendship, companionship, leveraging business, etc.)
3. Do this by March 21 (approx. 6 months from now)
4. There must be pleasure for BOTH of you--that is the point of the game.
For the beginners, let us more tried hands be fair--any seduction that a beginner has initiated within the past 4-6 weeks may count for this experiment. For the more practiced hands, begin another (not one to interfere with your current one, of course--just a separate one, with a separate purpose if you like).
My dear Readers, while we conduct this experiment, let's all blog about it. Comment on mine. Ask questions, admit the shame of faux pas, share anecdotes and vignettes. Share the conquests, problems, successes, pains, and pleasures involved with each other. And most of all, let us bring pleasure and joy to those we seduce.
F0r my part in this, I will be diligent in completing my part--teaching/re-teaching/advising/coaching all of you. Shortly, I will quickly recap what we have covered thus far, so that it will be fresh in our minds and to give quick references for anyone who may have just joined our group. Then, I will be diligent in continuing.
Be diligent in your seductions. You and your victim will be edified together in the end. Besides how much more fun can you have with another person or multiple people than you can alone. Help me prove the hardened businessman wrong.
Let us seduce.
Friday, August 21, 2009
Here I come to save the day!....The Rescuer
Rescuers are exactly what their names imply--they like to rescue people. Bring on the Damsel (or Gentleman) in distress because these guys love it.
These Victims seem to only be attracted to people with problems--the very sadness/ depression of those problems burden people with seems to attract a Rescuer. It appeals to the deep seeded desire to help someone, but it also makes them feel as though they're "in power" or superior because he/she has just solved your problem.They're a hero!
Recognizing them: Look for people with a lot of empathy, the kind that always seem to want you to open up and talk about your problems/ issues with them. Also, a Rescuer will usually have a string of relationships with dependent/ troubled/ needy people.
To catch one:
Do:
-Play Damsel In Distress (women)--let him be a Knight.
-Play a Boy that cannot deal with the Harsh World (men)--let her be the healing maternal influence.
-Have an air of sadness (it will draw them in). Pick anything to be your issue (strings of bad relationships with people who take advantage of you, you've had too little love in your life, whatever).
-Be vulnerable.
Don't:
-Be needy--having needs and being needy are different. (Needing constant reassurance of who you are and that you are worth something/ are good at something/etc. is completely separate than a periodic crisis. The former is NEEDY...and incredibly anti-seductive to anyone, even a Rescuer.)
-Suddenly start solving their problems for them in return. (They provide this service to you; if you reciprocate in kind, then you have taken from them what they give you, taken their pride and superiority. That will crush them.) Let them keep the high ground; you will get what you want.
On a personal note, Rescuers really are a joy to seduce and pleasurable to have around. They always want to help you deal with the harshness of life and make you feel better, or help you finish that tough project you're working one, or cheer you on from the sideline as you finish that race they "convinced" you to enter.
Whatever it is, they are happy to dig in and help you. They appreciate your appreciation too. Never a dull moment on this one, all the different ways you can find to say Thank You and they can find to help you, it never gets old. They care too much.
Again, enjoy the game. Choose your Victims, Seduce languidly, and Satisfy you BOTH in the process.
These Victims seem to only be attracted to people with problems--the very sadness/ depression of those problems burden people with seems to attract a Rescuer. It appeals to the deep seeded desire to help someone, but it also makes them feel as though they're "in power" or superior because he/she has just solved your problem.They're a hero!
Recognizing them: Look for people with a lot of empathy, the kind that always seem to want you to open up and talk about your problems/ issues with them. Also, a Rescuer will usually have a string of relationships with dependent/ troubled/ needy people.
To catch one:
Do:
-Play Damsel In Distress (women)--let him be a Knight.
-Play a Boy that cannot deal with the Harsh World (men)--let her be the healing maternal influence.
-Have an air of sadness (it will draw them in). Pick anything to be your issue (strings of bad relationships with people who take advantage of you, you've had too little love in your life, whatever).
-Be vulnerable.
Don't:
-Be needy--having needs and being needy are different. (Needing constant reassurance of who you are and that you are worth something/ are good at something/etc. is completely separate than a periodic crisis. The former is NEEDY...and incredibly anti-seductive to anyone, even a Rescuer.)
-Suddenly start solving their problems for them in return. (They provide this service to you; if you reciprocate in kind, then you have taken from them what they give you, taken their pride and superiority. That will crush them.) Let them keep the high ground; you will get what you want.
On a personal note, Rescuers really are a joy to seduce and pleasurable to have around. They always want to help you deal with the harshness of life and make you feel better, or help you finish that tough project you're working one, or cheer you on from the sideline as you finish that race they "convinced" you to enter.
Whatever it is, they are happy to dig in and help you. They appreciate your appreciation too. Never a dull moment on this one, all the different ways you can find to say Thank You and they can find to help you, it never gets old. They care too much.
Again, enjoy the game. Choose your Victims, Seduce languidly, and Satisfy you BOTH in the process.
Do they EVER grow up? Not Aging Babies
"I don't wanna grow up, 'cause if I did..." I couldn't be an Aging Baby.
These Babes dislike responsibility and all those "grown up" ideas. If you are one, people have probably asked you when you're going to grow up a lot. It's not that an Aging Baby can't take care of himself, or that she's unable to take responsibility for anything. They just love the carefree passion of childhood and want to keep it. For the rest of us, it's charming at first, then interesting (we wonder how you can keep it up for so long).
No matter what they say, an Aging Baby doesn't want to be involved with another of its own kind. It might be fun at first, but it always ends in competition (the last thing they want). This type wants a parental-type figure.
Do:
-Be the responsible, grown up one. (This lets the Baby play, and that's what they want.)
-Like the Baby's spirit and energy (while staying the indulgent parent figure).
Don't:
-Judge and criticize their behavior.
-Tell them to grow up.
Remember though, like the Beauty's insecurities, the Baby's inherent narcissism limits the real pleasure that you might have with them. They're naturally (and like children) a bit selfish. It can be irritating. Unless you like always being the responsible one, keep the seductions short and satisfying.
Enjoy the Game. Seduce and be seduced.
These Babes dislike responsibility and all those "grown up" ideas. If you are one, people have probably asked you when you're going to grow up a lot. It's not that an Aging Baby can't take care of himself, or that she's unable to take responsibility for anything. They just love the carefree passion of childhood and want to keep it. For the rest of us, it's charming at first, then interesting (we wonder how you can keep it up for so long).
No matter what they say, an Aging Baby doesn't want to be involved with another of its own kind. It might be fun at first, but it always ends in competition (the last thing they want). This type wants a parental-type figure.
Do:
-Be the responsible, grown up one. (This lets the Baby play, and that's what they want.)
-Like the Baby's spirit and energy (while staying the indulgent parent figure).
Don't:
-Judge and criticize their behavior.
-Tell them to grow up.
Remember though, like the Beauty's insecurities, the Baby's inherent narcissism limits the real pleasure that you might have with them. They're naturally (and like children) a bit selfish. It can be irritating. Unless you like always being the responsible one, keep the seductions short and satisfying.
Enjoy the Game. Seduce and be seduced.
Thursday, August 13, 2009
Admiring the Beauty from Afar
Stare. Admire. Adore. The Beauty loves to be thought irresistible but resents you for it...if they think that their beauty is the reason that you are attracted to them. Unlike the Siren, she worries that her powers of attraction are or will soon wane. She also believes that beauty intimidates men and hates being worshiped from afar. She "suffers from isolation."
To seduce her is easy, since she seems to lack so much. And it will be fairly satisfying as she will be dependent on you. Here's a few ways:
Don't approach by complimenting her beauty.
Don't make her insecure by ignoring her beauty either--treat it like one part of a much larger, wonderfully attractive woman.
Do validate/ point out other qualities that others seem to miss--intelligence, wisdom, skills, talents, characters, etc.
Do worship her beauty as well (Don't make her more insecure about the one thing that she is confident about).
Do worship her mind and soul with her body.
Do train her out of her natural passivity: use coquettishness to do this. Go a little cold occasionally and let her do a but of chasing to you. She will be happier (less frustrated by being so passive) and you will have a better victim.
Downside: The Beauty's incessant and many insecurities need constant care. You must attend to these if you want any type of lasting seduction.
If you want this type go for it. Their dependence on you at the end will be wonderfully fulfilling, if that is what you want.
As always, enjoy the game. It is a joy and should be one for both parties.
To seduce her is easy, since she seems to lack so much. And it will be fairly satisfying as she will be dependent on you. Here's a few ways:
Don't approach by complimenting her beauty.
Don't make her insecure by ignoring her beauty either--treat it like one part of a much larger, wonderfully attractive woman.
Do validate/ point out other qualities that others seem to miss--intelligence, wisdom, skills, talents, characters, etc.
Do worship her beauty as well (Don't make her more insecure about the one thing that she is confident about).
Do worship her mind and soul with her body.
Do train her out of her natural passivity: use coquettishness to do this. Go a little cold occasionally and let her do a but of chasing to you. She will be happier (less frustrated by being so passive) and you will have a better victim.
Downside: The Beauty's incessant and many insecurities need constant care. You must attend to these if you want any type of lasting seduction.
If you want this type go for it. Their dependence on you at the end will be wonderfully fulfilling, if that is what you want.
As always, enjoy the game. It is a joy and should be one for both parties.
Saturday, July 25, 2009
Professors...to teach or to be taught, that is the question
Professors are interesting creatures. They have a problem getting out of their own head--analyzing and criticizing everything in their minds. Even when they talk about the game, love, sex...they always seem to put way too much thought into it and forget that the game is to be relaxed in and enjoyed.
Recognizing them:
They tend to be very wry, ironic, many times quit witty--you might not even understand what they're saying, but feel that they're looking down on you. They may feel physically and tend to make up for it. Believe it or not, with all their bluster, they really just want to get physical.
To seduce:
1. Overwhelm them with your physical presence (Sirens and Rakes are perfect for this, but that doesn't mean that others couldn't manage it as well).
2. Then, make them feel like they are Don Juan or Cleopatra and they're yours.
3. Don't show much of your intellectual side. They are the intellectual one, not you, and you have to let them be. (Note: this doesn't mean that you are or should act like a moron or bimbo. Simply let them believe in their own superiority, let them judge you if they choose (you know that you are really in control).
Do these things and the teacher will be yours to teach. All you must do is keep that fact to yourself. Let him/her believe that they are in control, even though it is you who is--because you give them the stimulation that they don't get from anyone else.
Recognizing them:
They tend to be very wry, ironic, many times quit witty--you might not even understand what they're saying, but feel that they're looking down on you. They may feel physically and tend to make up for it. Believe it or not, with all their bluster, they really just want to get physical.
To seduce:
1. Overwhelm them with your physical presence (Sirens and Rakes are perfect for this, but that doesn't mean that others couldn't manage it as well).
2. Then, make them feel like they are Don Juan or Cleopatra and they're yours.
3. Don't show much of your intellectual side. They are the intellectual one, not you, and you have to let them be. (Note: this doesn't mean that you are or should act like a moron or bimbo. Simply let them believe in their own superiority, let them judge you if they choose (you know that you are really in control).
Do these things and the teacher will be yours to teach. All you must do is keep that fact to yourself. Let him/her believe that they are in control, even though it is you who is--because you give them the stimulation that they don't get from anyone else.
All hail the Drama Queen
Ladies and Gentlemen, don't let the name fool you. There are both male and female Drama Queens, and all of you know someone who is one.
We've all met the person that something just has to be going on in their lives. Good or bad, horrific is the best. They want pain--believe it or not, this is their way of deflecting boredom.
Recognize them by the number of people who have hurt them, the tragedies that have befallen them, the horrors that they've witnessed. They play the victim...and like it.
Seducing them:
1. Dont' fix their problems.
2. Dont' offer security. (Remember, these people enjoy pain.)
3. Since they enjoy pain, you have to be able to give them rough mental treatment. No matter how much they may say or look otherwise, they really enjoy this. It's the only way to seduce them for any length of time.
4. Don't be too nice. They'll find a reason to quarrel and get rid of you.
Note: These people can be selfish and anti-seductive if they are extreme. Mostly, they're harmless and make good victims.
Personally, I would go with a short-term relationship to mix things up a bit, enliven life. If you really want to enter a long-term relationship, then be ready to interject drama into your relationship periodically. They need it and will find it exciting, sort of a way to constantly renew the relationship. On a personal level, I don't enjoy this. But to each his/her own. If you like it, go for it.
You MUST enjoy the constant pull of the game if you want to play with the Queen. They never stop playing.
We've all met the person that something just has to be going on in their lives. Good or bad, horrific is the best. They want pain--believe it or not, this is their way of deflecting boredom.
Recognize them by the number of people who have hurt them, the tragedies that have befallen them, the horrors that they've witnessed. They play the victim...and like it.
Seducing them:
1. Dont' fix their problems.
2. Dont' offer security. (Remember, these people enjoy pain.)
3. Since they enjoy pain, you have to be able to give them rough mental treatment. No matter how much they may say or look otherwise, they really enjoy this. It's the only way to seduce them for any length of time.
4. Don't be too nice. They'll find a reason to quarrel and get rid of you.
Note: These people can be selfish and anti-seductive if they are extreme. Mostly, they're harmless and make good victims.
Personally, I would go with a short-term relationship to mix things up a bit, enliven life. If you really want to enter a long-term relationship, then be ready to interject drama into your relationship periodically. They need it and will find it exciting, sort of a way to constantly renew the relationship. On a personal level, I don't enjoy this. But to each his/her own. If you like it, go for it.
You MUST enjoy the constant pull of the game if you want to play with the Queen. They never stop playing.
Exotic Fetishists...not what you think they are
These people are intrigued by whatever they see as exotic. They are utterly fascinated by it. They may not like the society or social class they come from and so like things/people that aren't part of it.
Recognizing them:
These people like to travel and keep many objects from those far away places. Usually they have a rebellious streak a mile wide too.
To seduce them:
Easy--make yourself exotic. If you are from a different race or social class, this will be easy. If you are not different from them in some easily defined way, don't bother with these. But, it's easy to play up your exotic-ness, if you have it. Show them just a bit and they imagine the rest to fill in all the blanks.
Troubles:
These easily turn away to something else when they start to find what was exotic to them commonplace. But don't despair. They also tend to be very insecure, so you can play on this and extend a bit.
If you decide to seduce this type, enjoy. In my personal experience, they tend to be marvelous lovers for as long as you both want to play the game. Enjoy the game, Ladies and Gentlemen.
Recognizing them:
These people like to travel and keep many objects from those far away places. Usually they have a rebellious streak a mile wide too.
To seduce them:
Easy--make yourself exotic. If you are from a different race or social class, this will be easy. If you are not different from them in some easily defined way, don't bother with these. But, it's easy to play up your exotic-ness, if you have it. Show them just a bit and they imagine the rest to fill in all the blanks.
Troubles:
These easily turn away to something else when they start to find what was exotic to them commonplace. But don't despair. They also tend to be very insecure, so you can play on this and extend a bit.
If you decide to seduce this type, enjoy. In my personal experience, they tend to be marvelous lovers for as long as you both want to play the game. Enjoy the game, Ladies and Gentlemen.
Saturday, June 27, 2009
Entering a Seduction
Ladies and Gentlemen,
I apologize once again for a...prolonged absence. Now, let's continue.
In considering how to re-enter our discussion, I was speaking with my friend, Madam Artemis. She has now found someone worthy to seduce who is obviously susceptible to her. Bravo, Artemis! And now to the case study.
Artemis has been wondering what move to make when--so even we practiced in the art of seduction still aren't exactly sure what to do all of the time. What do you say when? How much do you tell? How do you know what the other person is thinking? How do you know what to do? How do you make them want you?
In short, we're all just that much insecure when we see something (or someone) that we want. So here's a few tips to keep yourself in line.
1. At first, say less rather than more:
Why? Because the less you say, the more they will fill in the spaces for you. A few facts, delivered with a hint of emotion that is appropriate for the fact being delivered, and they will fill in all the blanks for you. In case you're squeamish, this is not deceit. Remember, you don't walk up to just anyone and tell them your life story when you meet them. The fact that you want to seduce THIS person doesn't make them any different--it makes you different. You want them to love you--as lover, friend, coworker, or whatever, but it's love. Love doesn't happen all at once.
2. Master your emotions:
Why? Being emotional makes you do stupid things at the wrong times. Being emotional and Having emotions are not the same thing. When you're emotional, your emotions control you. When you have emotions, you control them--you feel them, ride them out, tell your best friend, eat cookies and milk, go running, or whatever else you need to do to deal--but you NEVER let them rule you.
In Seduction, being emotional is selfish. You are letting what you think, feel, or want be more important than your target's. We all hate people that only use others to fulfill their own needs and then walk away; that is why we are not those people. We have relationships. They may be long or short, but they are relationships. Aside from this, remember that focusing on yourself so much takes your attention away from your target. This is counter-productive. If you want them to fill your needs, fill theirs first. Then, they will fall over themselves to fill yours. They will be dependent on you to fill theirs and do everything they can to keep you around.
3. Master the art of Silence:
Why? There are many kinds of silences. Some make you feel comforted, contented. Others make one feel insecure, uncomfortable. Still others are the simple relaxed silences that you get when you are with your best friend, relaxed and chilling out with no need to say anything.
Believe it or not, you can create the silence that you want. You can influence people's emotions. To do this, silence is at least as important as the words you use, more actually. Words can be taken badly, you may slip up and say something the wrong way or in the wrong tone. You can make this up but why even cause yourself the problem.
When you leave an appropriate silence, you give your target the opportunity to use their imagination, fill in the blanks in you. Don't worry if they assume something that was incorrect--you never told them that what they inferred was true--and don't worry if you end up contradicting whatever they have assumed later. It actually makes you more interesting to them.
Remember that in your seduction the needs of both you and your target are equal. You want both fulfilled but they need to fulfill yours of their own free will and believing that it was their own idea.
Never fully satisfy your target however. People that are fully content are intensely difficult to seduce, because they have no needs for you to fill. Remember also, that once you have seduced your target you must continue the seduction. They have to continue to have needs for you to fill and you must continue to fill the important ones (not all of them)--or they can leave you to go find someone else who will.
Ladies and Gentlemen, no matter what anyone tells you, Love doesn't happen by accident. It is something that can be cajoled, prompted, or whatever other word you prefer. Meeting the person that you wish to Seduce may be chance, but Love never is. It always represents a concerted effort on someone's part. If you want love, take control. It doesn't mean that everyone, or even everyone that you want to, will love you, but not doing anything means that you'll have much less than you would if you took action.
Every joy to your Seductions. And special luck to Artemis in this newest endeavor.
I apologize once again for a...prolonged absence. Now, let's continue.
In considering how to re-enter our discussion, I was speaking with my friend, Madam Artemis. She has now found someone worthy to seduce who is obviously susceptible to her. Bravo, Artemis! And now to the case study.
Artemis has been wondering what move to make when--so even we practiced in the art of seduction still aren't exactly sure what to do all of the time. What do you say when? How much do you tell? How do you know what the other person is thinking? How do you know what to do? How do you make them want you?
In short, we're all just that much insecure when we see something (or someone) that we want. So here's a few tips to keep yourself in line.
1. At first, say less rather than more:
Why? Because the less you say, the more they will fill in the spaces for you. A few facts, delivered with a hint of emotion that is appropriate for the fact being delivered, and they will fill in all the blanks for you. In case you're squeamish, this is not deceit. Remember, you don't walk up to just anyone and tell them your life story when you meet them. The fact that you want to seduce THIS person doesn't make them any different--it makes you different. You want them to love you--as lover, friend, coworker, or whatever, but it's love. Love doesn't happen all at once.
2. Master your emotions:
Why? Being emotional makes you do stupid things at the wrong times. Being emotional and Having emotions are not the same thing. When you're emotional, your emotions control you. When you have emotions, you control them--you feel them, ride them out, tell your best friend, eat cookies and milk, go running, or whatever else you need to do to deal--but you NEVER let them rule you.
In Seduction, being emotional is selfish. You are letting what you think, feel, or want be more important than your target's. We all hate people that only use others to fulfill their own needs and then walk away; that is why we are not those people. We have relationships. They may be long or short, but they are relationships. Aside from this, remember that focusing on yourself so much takes your attention away from your target. This is counter-productive. If you want them to fill your needs, fill theirs first. Then, they will fall over themselves to fill yours. They will be dependent on you to fill theirs and do everything they can to keep you around.
3. Master the art of Silence:
Why? There are many kinds of silences. Some make you feel comforted, contented. Others make one feel insecure, uncomfortable. Still others are the simple relaxed silences that you get when you are with your best friend, relaxed and chilling out with no need to say anything.
Believe it or not, you can create the silence that you want. You can influence people's emotions. To do this, silence is at least as important as the words you use, more actually. Words can be taken badly, you may slip up and say something the wrong way or in the wrong tone. You can make this up but why even cause yourself the problem.
When you leave an appropriate silence, you give your target the opportunity to use their imagination, fill in the blanks in you. Don't worry if they assume something that was incorrect--you never told them that what they inferred was true--and don't worry if you end up contradicting whatever they have assumed later. It actually makes you more interesting to them.
Remember that in your seduction the needs of both you and your target are equal. You want both fulfilled but they need to fulfill yours of their own free will and believing that it was their own idea.
Never fully satisfy your target however. People that are fully content are intensely difficult to seduce, because they have no needs for you to fill. Remember also, that once you have seduced your target you must continue the seduction. They have to continue to have needs for you to fill and you must continue to fill the important ones (not all of them)--or they can leave you to go find someone else who will.
Ladies and Gentlemen, no matter what anyone tells you, Love doesn't happen by accident. It is something that can be cajoled, prompted, or whatever other word you prefer. Meeting the person that you wish to Seduce may be chance, but Love never is. It always represents a concerted effort on someone's part. If you want love, take control. It doesn't mean that everyone, or even everyone that you want to, will love you, but not doing anything means that you'll have much less than you would if you took action.
Every joy to your Seductions. And special luck to Artemis in this newest endeavor.
Saturday, May 9, 2009
Be a Person Worth Loving
Ladies and Gentlemen,
After a short sabatical, I am back with another piece of advice before returning to the Victim Types outlined by Robert Greene. Here is the advice:
If you want someone to fall in love with you, be a person worth loving.
This does NOT mean that you should change yourself for everyone (or even one person) to make them love you. Remember that you should only try to seduce those that are susceptible to you--otherwise, you are wasting your time and energy on someone who may never reciprocate (or worse, that you will both be intensely dissatisified in the seduction). I mean that you must believe that you are worthy of love and wooing, and you must love and woo back.
Case in point: I knew a girl that had had chronic self worth issues. She never believed that she was good enough, needed constant reassurance, and (because she never believed that she was good enough) would be very easily offended by innocent comments that others make.
Ladies and Gentlemen, this is NOT seductive by any means. Sure, it might be gratifying for a time that someone else needs your constant approval, but it wears thin quickly.
*****As always, Confidence is key.
Women are not the only ones prone to this. I knew and extremely attractive, intelligent, fun, and witty man with a good job that had trouble hanging on to his relationships. To this day, his longest relationship has been two months. That is how long it took the women he dated to see that he needed constant reassurance in his manhood, his job, his life choices, etc. The poor man had everything a woman could want and lacked confidence to believe it.
In fact, insecurity is amazingly anti-seductive. It turns people off quickly.
Every person I have ever met has at least one amazing quality to recommend him or her. It is up to the individual to see it. If you don't believe that you have one, look harder. I guarantee that you do. And when you find it, it will give you confidence. That will make you feel more worthy of someone else's love. Remember, if you don't think that you are good enough without another person, you will never be enough with them. You don't have to be completely independent of your lover in every way--in fact, don't be--but insecurity makes you clingy and unappealing.
Once you believe that you are worth loving, remember to let your lover believe that they are wooing you, even as you woo them. This is that careful game that has been played between men and women for centuries. In short, make your lover work for you and show your lover that you are working for them. The effort shows them (and you) that you care for eachother in the seduction.
Don't forget this one. It is key.
Enjoy your seductions.
After a short sabatical, I am back with another piece of advice before returning to the Victim Types outlined by Robert Greene. Here is the advice:
If you want someone to fall in love with you, be a person worth loving.
This does NOT mean that you should change yourself for everyone (or even one person) to make them love you. Remember that you should only try to seduce those that are susceptible to you--otherwise, you are wasting your time and energy on someone who may never reciprocate (or worse, that you will both be intensely dissatisified in the seduction). I mean that you must believe that you are worthy of love and wooing, and you must love and woo back.
Case in point: I knew a girl that had had chronic self worth issues. She never believed that she was good enough, needed constant reassurance, and (because she never believed that she was good enough) would be very easily offended by innocent comments that others make.
Ladies and Gentlemen, this is NOT seductive by any means. Sure, it might be gratifying for a time that someone else needs your constant approval, but it wears thin quickly.
*****As always, Confidence is key.
Women are not the only ones prone to this. I knew and extremely attractive, intelligent, fun, and witty man with a good job that had trouble hanging on to his relationships. To this day, his longest relationship has been two months. That is how long it took the women he dated to see that he needed constant reassurance in his manhood, his job, his life choices, etc. The poor man had everything a woman could want and lacked confidence to believe it.
In fact, insecurity is amazingly anti-seductive. It turns people off quickly.
Every person I have ever met has at least one amazing quality to recommend him or her. It is up to the individual to see it. If you don't believe that you have one, look harder. I guarantee that you do. And when you find it, it will give you confidence. That will make you feel more worthy of someone else's love. Remember, if you don't think that you are good enough without another person, you will never be enough with them. You don't have to be completely independent of your lover in every way--in fact, don't be--but insecurity makes you clingy and unappealing.
Once you believe that you are worth loving, remember to let your lover believe that they are wooing you, even as you woo them. This is that careful game that has been played between men and women for centuries. In short, make your lover work for you and show your lover that you are working for them. The effort shows them (and you) that you care for eachother in the seduction.
Don't forget this one. It is key.
Enjoy your seductions.
Saturday, April 25, 2009
An IMPORTANT note:
Don't tip your hand.
At some point in a relationship you may be able to tip your hand to the other person and tell them that you went out of your way to cultivate that relationship (whether you seduced them into friendship, a romantic liaison, or marriage doesn't really matter). But, this really depends on the person's personality, victim type, and seducer type.
Some people want to believe that the relationship was his/ her idea. Some people want to believe that the two of you naturally slipped together like the relationship was always meant to be. For others, it won't mattered how it started--your relationship is what it is, however it got that way.
NO ONE wants to feel like they were coerced into a relationship. They always want to feel that they had some say in it and not all people will reach a level of understanding that makes them realize that they always had a choice--even if you do everything in your power to make someone take the bait, they do NOT have to take it.
So until you know for sure how the person will react, don't tip your hand. If you are at all unsure of how he/ she will react, keep it to yourself. It's uncommon to get in trouble for things that you do not say. You'll almost always get in trouble for what you do say.
Until you're sure, don't tip your hand.
At some point in a relationship you may be able to tip your hand to the other person and tell them that you went out of your way to cultivate that relationship (whether you seduced them into friendship, a romantic liaison, or marriage doesn't really matter). But, this really depends on the person's personality, victim type, and seducer type.
Some people want to believe that the relationship was his/ her idea. Some people want to believe that the two of you naturally slipped together like the relationship was always meant to be. For others, it won't mattered how it started--your relationship is what it is, however it got that way.
NO ONE wants to feel like they were coerced into a relationship. They always want to feel that they had some say in it and not all people will reach a level of understanding that makes them realize that they always had a choice--even if you do everything in your power to make someone take the bait, they do NOT have to take it.
So until you know for sure how the person will react, don't tip your hand. If you are at all unsure of how he/ she will react, keep it to yourself. It's uncommon to get in trouble for things that you do not say. You'll almost always get in trouble for what you do say.
Until you're sure, don't tip your hand.
The Conqueror
These are some of my favorite victims because they have a ton of energy! They can and will play the game for a long time. These people are always looking for another obstacle to overcome.
Don't trust their outward appearance to tell you who they are on this one. Conquerors may be shy and quiet or loud and obnoxious, you can never tell--so look at their actions in work and relationships. They love power, so they work to get it any way they can.
Conquerors are emotional sporadically, prone to outburst, otherwise they hold it in. So, don't worry if they don't seem like you are affecting them at first; they will show you eventually.
Do:
1. Make your Conqueror emotional. It keepts them off balance.
2. Give them something to chase--put obstacles inthe way for them.
3. Play the Coquette (this works best with this type of victim).
4. Make them work for the relationship.
Don't:
1. Lie down and be easy pray. (They will wlak away when they are done or not take the bait.)
2. Be intimidated by their moodiness. They get over it, so should you.
3. Make the mistake of thinking all Conquerors are men.
Many Conquerors are men, but not all. A female friend of mine is an active Conqueror. If a man does not put up some kind of resistence for her to overcome, ends a relationship first, or threatens to end a relationship first, she goes crazy trying to find ways around it. She works so hard for the relationship that she usually gets it. But, if the man doesn't continue to play the Coquette, she gets bored and moves on to the next man.
One day she will get pinned down by a male Coquette. For now, she charges back and forth as all Conquerors do. So make them charge back and forth until they get worn down (it may take a while), but don't ever completely leave the game. Periodically, they need a challenge, even after they've become "docile."
Happy seductions.
Don't trust their outward appearance to tell you who they are on this one. Conquerors may be shy and quiet or loud and obnoxious, you can never tell--so look at their actions in work and relationships. They love power, so they work to get it any way they can.
Conquerors are emotional sporadically, prone to outburst, otherwise they hold it in. So, don't worry if they don't seem like you are affecting them at first; they will show you eventually.
Do:
1. Make your Conqueror emotional. It keepts them off balance.
2. Give them something to chase--put obstacles inthe way for them.
3. Play the Coquette (this works best with this type of victim).
4. Make them work for the relationship.
Don't:
1. Lie down and be easy pray. (They will wlak away when they are done or not take the bait.)
2. Be intimidated by their moodiness. They get over it, so should you.
3. Make the mistake of thinking all Conquerors are men.
Many Conquerors are men, but not all. A female friend of mine is an active Conqueror. If a man does not put up some kind of resistence for her to overcome, ends a relationship first, or threatens to end a relationship first, she goes crazy trying to find ways around it. She works so hard for the relationship that she usually gets it. But, if the man doesn't continue to play the Coquette, she gets bored and moves on to the next man.
One day she will get pinned down by a male Coquette. For now, she charges back and forth as all Conquerors do. So make them charge back and forth until they get worn down (it may take a while), but don't ever completely leave the game. Periodically, they need a challenge, even after they've become "docile."
Happy seductions.
Friday, April 24, 2009
The Novice
These are ordinary people with fatal curious streaks. When they say "Curiosity killed the cat" they meant the Novice.
People may think that the Novice is angelic and sweet (not always true, but looks that way), but they really want to experience more of the world--not be left in the bubble he or she may live in. This makes seducing them easy. But it takes workd to do well.
Do:
Be playful
Mix a bit of innocence with a bit of corruption
Show (subtly) that you have hidden depths, even dangerous ones
Be romantic, pay attention to the details
Use colorful, vibrant, and different events to keep them interested and off guard
Note: some of these people may be a little older and aware o the game they're playing, but put on the show of innocence. They may be harder to mislead, but the tactics for it are the same. And they still fall for it.
Happy seducing.
People may think that the Novice is angelic and sweet (not always true, but looks that way), but they really want to experience more of the world--not be left in the bubble he or she may live in. This makes seducing them easy. But it takes workd to do well.
Do:
Be playful
Mix a bit of innocence with a bit of corruption
Show (subtly) that you have hidden depths, even dangerous ones
Be romantic, pay attention to the details
Use colorful, vibrant, and different events to keep them interested and off guard
Note: some of these people may be a little older and aware o the game they're playing, but put on the show of innocence. They may be harder to mislead, but the tactics for it are the same. And they still fall for it.
Happy seducing.
Thursday, April 16, 2009
A note:
Sorry about the delay, ladies and gentlemen. Back to the game.
Remember, All, that seduction is a language of signals. Signals given and signals received--sometimes it is good to intentionally send mixed signals; it keeps your object unsure and thinking about you. But there are a few things to remember.
1. Men and women do not speak the same language:
Many people that I know (and you know many too, no doubt) somehow end up saying things like "How could he not know that?!" or "Why doesn't she just get that I need Saturday with my guys?" or "How could he/she not know that I like him/her?" This is a problem in communication. Either they do like you and aren't picking up on your signals, are genuinely uninterested (and you should pick a new Victim), or you are just trying to rush things. A good seduction takes time.
In addition, different things have different levels of meaning for different people; i.e. a touch at the right time and in the right way may mean more to a person than even "I love you," or a small gift (a $1.00 card from Wal-Mart) may mean more to this person than spending time with them on Friday night because it shows that you were thinking of them.
Also, if your intended Victim wants a night out with his/her friends, so what? They should have it. You can have the night out with your friends too. Like Aesop said "Familiarity breeds contempt." Keep an appropriate distance while showing interest and you will hook your desire and theirs.
2. Be unavailable occasionally:
Your life does not and should not revolve around your Victim. If you need to be somewhere else, be somewhere else. The absence makes your presence more desirable. Others want your company and attention too, not just your Victim--you want your victim to see and know this. Don't be overbearing with it though, be nonchalant.
3. Say no occasionally:
You are not there to fulfill your Victim's EVERY need, just the one you are exploiting. Not everyone wants their problems solved either, some people need it to keep their lives interesting. Sometimes, denying things for a short period will make the experience more pleasurable in the end.
Now, Ladies and Gentlemen, enjoy your seductions...and may your Victims enjoy them too.
Remember, All, that seduction is a language of signals. Signals given and signals received--sometimes it is good to intentionally send mixed signals; it keeps your object unsure and thinking about you. But there are a few things to remember.
1. Men and women do not speak the same language:
Many people that I know (and you know many too, no doubt) somehow end up saying things like "How could he not know that?!" or "Why doesn't she just get that I need Saturday with my guys?" or "How could he/she not know that I like him/her?" This is a problem in communication. Either they do like you and aren't picking up on your signals, are genuinely uninterested (and you should pick a new Victim), or you are just trying to rush things. A good seduction takes time.
In addition, different things have different levels of meaning for different people; i.e. a touch at the right time and in the right way may mean more to a person than even "I love you," or a small gift (a $1.00 card from Wal-Mart) may mean more to this person than spending time with them on Friday night because it shows that you were thinking of them.
Also, if your intended Victim wants a night out with his/her friends, so what? They should have it. You can have the night out with your friends too. Like Aesop said "Familiarity breeds contempt." Keep an appropriate distance while showing interest and you will hook your desire and theirs.
2. Be unavailable occasionally:
Your life does not and should not revolve around your Victim. If you need to be somewhere else, be somewhere else. The absence makes your presence more desirable. Others want your company and attention too, not just your Victim--you want your victim to see and know this. Don't be overbearing with it though, be nonchalant.
3. Say no occasionally:
You are not there to fulfill your Victim's EVERY need, just the one you are exploiting. Not everyone wants their problems solved either, some people need it to keep their lives interesting. Sometimes, denying things for a short period will make the experience more pleasurable in the end.
Now, Ladies and Gentlemen, enjoy your seductions...and may your Victims enjoy them too.
Monday, March 23, 2009
The Crushed Star
This Victim type can be very easy to seduce...if you want to do it. Everyone wants to shine for something at some point, but Crushed Stars want it more and more often than the rest of us. Why? Because they are/ were Stars.
They got used to the attention and, now that they no longer have it, they long for it. They were the center of attention, liked it, but are no longer in the midst of the action. They no longer make a party a success simply by showing up. People no longer get excited at the mere mention of their name. Fans no longer throng them.
Crushed Stars are not necessarily a huge name that you may have heard before (a movie star, athlete, or politician that was paid millions for what they did). He or she might have been a hometown hero, a small time football star, a leader in a local community, or whatever--but everyone knew them. The point is that those days are gone, and the Crushed Star wants them back.
To Recognize:
1. When they receive attention, socially, they will begin to glow (they are Stars after all, just dimmed a little over time).
2. They will speak of Glory Days, and there will be a happy glint in their eye.
3. Get them to loosen up and they will become bubbly and charm those around them.
To Seduce:
1. Make them the center of attention: For the Crushed Star this may as well be the only rule. Your victim lacks attention. Give it to them. If you don't know how, think of what they loved or did. To begin, keep reading.
2. Act as if they are the sun and you are basking in their radiance.
3. Get them to talk (especially about themselves).
4. Socially, mute yourself and make them look amazing.
In seducing a Crushed Star, those that seduce by charm will shine. Charmers, enter into the seduction of a Crushed Star and you may have found the perfect Victim. Charm them and they will become grateful to you (you let them shine, made them feel as if they could), release their pent up intensity, and fall in love with you.
If you are a Star or Dandy, do NOT seduce a Crushed Star. Eventually, you will want the limelight as well and you will lose your victim. And the competition for the limelight can get ugly.
Happy Seducing.
They got used to the attention and, now that they no longer have it, they long for it. They were the center of attention, liked it, but are no longer in the midst of the action. They no longer make a party a success simply by showing up. People no longer get excited at the mere mention of their name. Fans no longer throng them.
Crushed Stars are not necessarily a huge name that you may have heard before (a movie star, athlete, or politician that was paid millions for what they did). He or she might have been a hometown hero, a small time football star, a leader in a local community, or whatever--but everyone knew them. The point is that those days are gone, and the Crushed Star wants them back.
To Recognize:
1. When they receive attention, socially, they will begin to glow (they are Stars after all, just dimmed a little over time).
2. They will speak of Glory Days, and there will be a happy glint in their eye.
3. Get them to loosen up and they will become bubbly and charm those around them.
To Seduce:
1. Make them the center of attention: For the Crushed Star this may as well be the only rule. Your victim lacks attention. Give it to them. If you don't know how, think of what they loved or did. To begin, keep reading.
2. Act as if they are the sun and you are basking in their radiance.
3. Get them to talk (especially about themselves).
4. Socially, mute yourself and make them look amazing.
In seducing a Crushed Star, those that seduce by charm will shine. Charmers, enter into the seduction of a Crushed Star and you may have found the perfect Victim. Charm them and they will become grateful to you (you let them shine, made them feel as if they could), release their pent up intensity, and fall in love with you.
If you are a Star or Dandy, do NOT seduce a Crushed Star. Eventually, you will want the limelight as well and you will lose your victim. And the competition for the limelight can get ugly.
Happy Seducing.
Thursday, March 19, 2009
A quick note for beginners
Ladies and Gentlemen,
I was having a conversation with a friend last night and realized that not everyone can tell when a man likes a woman, or when a woman likes a man. Therefore, I will give a very brief introduction to the first step of seduction:
Step #1: Choose the right victim!
You must choose someone who responds to you in some way. If they do not seem interested in you, then they will not react to you when you try to seduce them.
How to choose the right victim (short list):
1. They need to have a void that you can fill: this doesn't mean that you should find people that have to lean on "someone" emotionally, physically, or in any other way. Those people don't have a need, they are Needy--and it doesn't matter if it's you they cling to or someone else.
2. Your victim should be attractive to you in some way: he's handsome, she's witty, he's romantic, she's ambitious--whatever it is that attracts you to them. If you don't find someone at least a little attractive, it will be more work than play to seduce them. The Game of Seduction should always feel like play, even though a little work is mixed in.
"It is a stroke of good fortune to find one who is worth seducing.... Most people rush ahead, become engaged or do other stupid things, and in a turn of the hand everything is over, and they know neither what they have won nor what they have lost."
-Soren Kierkegaard
3. Study them: find out as much as you can about your victim before proceeding with the actual seduction. There is no need to let them know you are doing this. In fact, if you are not talking to them about themselves, DON'T mention this. People are by turns flattered, offended, or put off by the fact that you may be researching them. Don't tell them. If you talk to their family/ friends/ associates, let them find out about this indirectly and as the questions of those associates as indirectly as possible. Try to let the conversations happen in passing.
*****You must do this to find what their needs are.
4. The perfect victim for you, depends on you.
No one's perfect victim is the same as another's. Look at your friends and associates--not all of you date the same type of people (let alone the same people) because you do not want the same things. Also, everyone does not respond to you the same way. So the next time your friend has a date or a chosen victim and you don't, don't worry about it. You're just waiting for someone worth seducing.
Also, remember this: The person needs to react to you. They have to be interested in you in some way as well. If they aren't, you are wasting your time. Only seduce those who are reactive to you--these are the seduceable ones. If they never seek your presence, don't enjoy your presence, never smile or joke or ask you about how things are going for you (in a more personal way than just politeness), they are not interested.
You could probably get them that way, but it takes so much more work than seducing someone already susceptible. As a beginner, stay away from this. Learn to play the game before moving onto expert levels.
Enjoy your game.
I was having a conversation with a friend last night and realized that not everyone can tell when a man likes a woman, or when a woman likes a man. Therefore, I will give a very brief introduction to the first step of seduction:
Step #1: Choose the right victim!
You must choose someone who responds to you in some way. If they do not seem interested in you, then they will not react to you when you try to seduce them.
How to choose the right victim (short list):
1. They need to have a void that you can fill: this doesn't mean that you should find people that have to lean on "someone" emotionally, physically, or in any other way. Those people don't have a need, they are Needy--and it doesn't matter if it's you they cling to or someone else.
2. Your victim should be attractive to you in some way: he's handsome, she's witty, he's romantic, she's ambitious--whatever it is that attracts you to them. If you don't find someone at least a little attractive, it will be more work than play to seduce them. The Game of Seduction should always feel like play, even though a little work is mixed in.
"It is a stroke of good fortune to find one who is worth seducing.... Most people rush ahead, become engaged or do other stupid things, and in a turn of the hand everything is over, and they know neither what they have won nor what they have lost."
-Soren Kierkegaard
3. Study them: find out as much as you can about your victim before proceeding with the actual seduction. There is no need to let them know you are doing this. In fact, if you are not talking to them about themselves, DON'T mention this. People are by turns flattered, offended, or put off by the fact that you may be researching them. Don't tell them. If you talk to their family/ friends/ associates, let them find out about this indirectly and as the questions of those associates as indirectly as possible. Try to let the conversations happen in passing.
*****You must do this to find what their needs are.
4. The perfect victim for you, depends on you.
No one's perfect victim is the same as another's. Look at your friends and associates--not all of you date the same type of people (let alone the same people) because you do not want the same things. Also, everyone does not respond to you the same way. So the next time your friend has a date or a chosen victim and you don't, don't worry about it. You're just waiting for someone worth seducing.
Also, remember this: The person needs to react to you. They have to be interested in you in some way as well. If they aren't, you are wasting your time. Only seduce those who are reactive to you--these are the seduceable ones. If they never seek your presence, don't enjoy your presence, never smile or joke or ask you about how things are going for you (in a more personal way than just politeness), they are not interested.
You could probably get them that way, but it takes so much more work than seducing someone already susceptible. As a beginner, stay away from this. Learn to play the game before moving onto expert levels.
Enjoy your game.
The New Prude
Prudery isn't what you think...well, it is and it's not. It's not really about sex. It's about appearances.
Prudes are so ultra focused on what others (usually society) deems correct that they are unwilling to take risks, and they don't like others doing so either. Or so you may think. Yes, Prudes criticize--perhaps even try to enforce their standards on you--but they don't really want you to abide them.
Recognize them:
1. Recognize them by the clothes they wear (drab colors, no fashion risks ever).
2. They are critical, talking about those risk-takers and less correct people.
3. They're addicted to routine.
Seduce them:
1. They're excited by the naughtier pleasures, but frightenened by them at the same time.
2. They are secretly oppressed by their own correctness.
3.They're strongly tempted by anything with a dangerous/ naughty side.
Don't be put off by judgements or criticism--it only proves how much you are on their mind. They think of you, even when you aren't there. You need this to seduce anyone. Also, remember that once they open up, their feelings pour out to you. They are only waiting for someone to seduce them.
Prudes are so ultra focused on what others (usually society) deems correct that they are unwilling to take risks, and they don't like others doing so either. Or so you may think. Yes, Prudes criticize--perhaps even try to enforce their standards on you--but they don't really want you to abide them.
Recognize them:
1. Recognize them by the clothes they wear (drab colors, no fashion risks ever).
2. They are critical, talking about those risk-takers and less correct people.
3. They're addicted to routine.
Seduce them:
1. They're excited by the naughtier pleasures, but frightenened by them at the same time.
2. They are secretly oppressed by their own correctness.
3.They're strongly tempted by anything with a dangerous/ naughty side.
Don't be put off by judgements or criticism--it only proves how much you are on their mind. They think of you, even when you aren't there. You need this to seduce anyone. Also, remember that once they open up, their feelings pour out to you. They are only waiting for someone to seduce them.
Monday, March 16, 2009
The Pampered Royal
These Victims were likely spoiled as children; thus they grew a bit lazy in their lives. When they grow up and their parents are no longer there to pamper them and provide distraction, they must look to others to provide it. That is where you, as Seducer, come in.
To seduce them:
1. Be ready to provide distraction--travel, spectacle, new experiences, especially places they've never been or things they've never done.
2. Variety: vary what you do, what you provide them with, and when. They'll grow bored otherwise.
3. Maintain an air of mystery; keep yourself interesting to them.
4. If you want a long-term relationship, hide it. You'll panic them. (And you'll be doing most of the work in the relationship anyway.)
Recognizing them: they have great turmoil in thier past--job changes, travel, numerous short-term relationships, etc.
Once you have done these things and hooked your Pampered Royal, they will become dependent on you. Then, things get easier. Still provide what you have before, but not necessarily as often. They still are dependent on you for their happiness.
To seduce them:
1. Be ready to provide distraction--travel, spectacle, new experiences, especially places they've never been or things they've never done.
2. Variety: vary what you do, what you provide them with, and when. They'll grow bored otherwise.
3. Maintain an air of mystery; keep yourself interesting to them.
4. If you want a long-term relationship, hide it. You'll panic them. (And you'll be doing most of the work in the relationship anyway.)
Recognizing them: they have great turmoil in thier past--job changes, travel, numerous short-term relationships, etc.
Once you have done these things and hooked your Pampered Royal, they will become dependent on you. Then, things get easier. Still provide what you have before, but not necessarily as often. They still are dependent on you for their happiness.
Saturday, March 14, 2009
The Disappointed Dreamer
These people are very idealistic. They tend to fantasize quite a bit about what they want their lives to be like, what they will do, who they will meet and how. So, when they get let down by life, they really get let down. Dreams shatter, hearts break, and they're forced to begin again.
To seduce these people:
1. They want their fantasy. Your job is to give it to them. Find out what it is.
2. Human frailties put them off. Hide yours as much as you can.
3. Concerns bogging down every day life put them off. Hide your own and help them forget theirs.
Recognizing this type isn't so very hard--look at the books they read, movies they watch, etc. And watch for reactions when others talk about adventure, real life adventure. If they perk up and become animated for you when you tell the story of one of your own real-life adventures, they may be a disappointed dreamer.
To seduce these people:
1. They want their fantasy. Your job is to give it to them. Find out what it is.
2. Human frailties put them off. Hide yours as much as you can.
3. Concerns bogging down every day life put them off. Hide your own and help them forget theirs.
Recognizing this type isn't so very hard--look at the books they read, movies they watch, etc. And watch for reactions when others talk about adventure, real life adventure. If they perk up and become animated for you when you tell the story of one of your own real-life adventures, they may be a disappointed dreamer.
Thursday, March 12, 2009
The Reformed Rake/Siren
These Victims are used to having their way with the opposite but, for whatever reason, they gave up their rakish ways. Deep down, they long to have them back.
If you want to seduce this type, do the following:
1. Spark them indirectly, DON't approach them. Give them a little come hither look.
2. Provide them with opportunities to seduce you--that is what they want. (They used to do it all the time.)
3. DON'T offer them another relationship. OFFER fun, a chase.
4. If you do want a relationship with them, hide it. They will run if you don't.
Remember, this type can be inherently unfaithful. They like the challenge, the chase. If you offer another relationship, they feel bogged down and will move on as soon as they can.
If you want to seduce this type, do the following:
1. Spark them indirectly, DON't approach them. Give them a little come hither look.
2. Provide them with opportunities to seduce you--that is what they want. (They used to do it all the time.)
3. DON'T offer them another relationship. OFFER fun, a chase.
4. If you do want a relationship with them, hide it. They will run if you don't.
Remember, this type can be inherently unfaithful. They like the challenge, the chase. If you offer another relationship, they feel bogged down and will move on as soon as they can.
Wednesday, March 11, 2009
Targets
We call our targets Victims but, in reality, they are nearly always willing victims. They play the game just as you do. Don't forget this. There are some that will try to deny this if a romance ends. It is untrue. Both they and you knew the risks when you started the game.
The game should be fun. Do not take it too seriously. Knowing that, continue to read.
Everyone is lacking something in their lives that they are unable (or seemingly unable) to provide for themselves. This lack is what we seek in others, the void that we want them to fill for us. Look for what your victim lacks. That is what you need to provide for them.
To find what your Vicitm lacks, look at a number of things: clothing, gestures, offhand comments, things they keep in their house, looks in their eyes, and get them to talk about their past (especially romance and relationships). People are constantly broadcasting signals as to what thye lack in hopes that someone will pick up on it and provide it for them. Pay attention and you'll see it. Remember to look beyond the appearance that people put forward. They will say many things; find the reality of what they lack, not what they say they lack.
DO NOT assume that everyone lacks what you do. They don't. You may crave security, others will despise it. You may dream of forever, others only want now--forever frightens them.
And remember this cardinal principle (DON'T break it): NEVER SEDUCE YOUR OWN KIND.
You lack the same things and can never fulfill one another.
The game should be fun. Do not take it too seriously. Knowing that, continue to read.
Everyone is lacking something in their lives that they are unable (or seemingly unable) to provide for themselves. This lack is what we seek in others, the void that we want them to fill for us. Look for what your victim lacks. That is what you need to provide for them.
To find what your Vicitm lacks, look at a number of things: clothing, gestures, offhand comments, things they keep in their house, looks in their eyes, and get them to talk about their past (especially romance and relationships). People are constantly broadcasting signals as to what thye lack in hopes that someone will pick up on it and provide it for them. Pay attention and you'll see it. Remember to look beyond the appearance that people put forward. They will say many things; find the reality of what they lack, not what they say they lack.
DO NOT assume that everyone lacks what you do. They don't. You may crave security, others will despise it. You may dream of forever, others only want now--forever frightens them.
And remember this cardinal principle (DON'T break it): NEVER SEDUCE YOUR OWN KIND.
You lack the same things and can never fulfill one another.
In Awe of the Natural
As our final Seducer type, The Natural causes awe in us because he/ she has actually managed to maintained child-like qualities that charm, fascinate, woo us. They're unpretentious, sincere, spontaneous, playful, and make us think of our own childhoods when we were that carefree too. That is how they woo us.
Adult life is full of boredom, compromise, and disillusionment. The Natural seems unaffected by all this, maintaining whatever traits they have protected sicne childhood. There are many different types and they can blur with one another, but here are some basic types:
1. the innocent: They seem weak because we all know that innocence can only really last for so long before it gets beaten into the ground. They also misunderstand many things in the world, seeming to be uncorrupted. The possible loss of innocence saddens us and we find the misunderstandings humorous.
2. the imp: They're brazen, fearless. They don't seem to see the consequences of their actions--they won't see if they offend someone or if what they do may cause injury to themselves. If they do, they do it anyway and don't worry about the consquences. These Naturals are always on full throttle, don't take anything seriously, and the only thought for offending others is that they will be forgiven eventually. =)
3. the wonder: These people were prodigies as children. They have some kind of skill that they make look easy to every one else. In truth they have to work at it like the rest of us (even if the aptitude is natural), they just hide it much better. The qualities they need to help them with the skill come naturally. It fascinates because so many wish that they could be like this, talented beyond their years and experience. Taking this strategy requires any natural skill and improvization. Become so practiced that you make it look simple.
4. the undefensive lover: These people are so open, easy, and accepting of others that they are very nearly irresistable. As we grow we eventually get hurt by others and most people close up and build defenses because of it. These people don't. They are graceful, relaxed, hard to offend, and may seem to age slower than others. The defensiveness found in so many is a death to seduction. Your defensiveness brings out the same reactions in others; the lack of it, relaxes everyone around you and they want to be near you. Then, the victims inhibitions are lowered because the undefensive lover bends, felxes, and is as open as they need to be at the time.
One of the best peoplea t this was Charlie Chaplin. No one in Hollywood would tell you that he was an extremely handsome leadin man. In fact, they may not really even know what the draw in him was. but he was funny, unpretentious, unafraid of making a fool of himself. He was a master at putting his audience at ease and making them enjoy his roles and personality. They fell in love with him before they even knew they were in danger of it.
DANGERS:
1. Childness is eventually annoying. You have to be able to tone it down or turn it off when you need to. Combine the childishness with adult experience and wisdom and the contradiction is more seductive than either alone.
2. The older you are, the harder it can become to pull off the Natural. Eventually those around you just want you to grow up. Be able to adapt and improvise to your environment and the needs of others.
To all you Naturals, enjoy yourself and thoes around you will nearly always be charmed and lose themselves in your carefree laughter, spontaneity, etc. This is seduction. Make it fun.
Adult life is full of boredom, compromise, and disillusionment. The Natural seems unaffected by all this, maintaining whatever traits they have protected sicne childhood. There are many different types and they can blur with one another, but here are some basic types:
1. the innocent: They seem weak because we all know that innocence can only really last for so long before it gets beaten into the ground. They also misunderstand many things in the world, seeming to be uncorrupted. The possible loss of innocence saddens us and we find the misunderstandings humorous.
2. the imp: They're brazen, fearless. They don't seem to see the consequences of their actions--they won't see if they offend someone or if what they do may cause injury to themselves. If they do, they do it anyway and don't worry about the consquences. These Naturals are always on full throttle, don't take anything seriously, and the only thought for offending others is that they will be forgiven eventually. =)
3. the wonder: These people were prodigies as children. They have some kind of skill that they make look easy to every one else. In truth they have to work at it like the rest of us (even if the aptitude is natural), they just hide it much better. The qualities they need to help them with the skill come naturally. It fascinates because so many wish that they could be like this, talented beyond their years and experience. Taking this strategy requires any natural skill and improvization. Become so practiced that you make it look simple.
4. the undefensive lover: These people are so open, easy, and accepting of others that they are very nearly irresistable. As we grow we eventually get hurt by others and most people close up and build defenses because of it. These people don't. They are graceful, relaxed, hard to offend, and may seem to age slower than others. The defensiveness found in so many is a death to seduction. Your defensiveness brings out the same reactions in others; the lack of it, relaxes everyone around you and they want to be near you. Then, the victims inhibitions are lowered because the undefensive lover bends, felxes, and is as open as they need to be at the time.
One of the best peoplea t this was Charlie Chaplin. No one in Hollywood would tell you that he was an extremely handsome leadin man. In fact, they may not really even know what the draw in him was. but he was funny, unpretentious, unafraid of making a fool of himself. He was a master at putting his audience at ease and making them enjoy his roles and personality. They fell in love with him before they even knew they were in danger of it.
DANGERS:
1. Childness is eventually annoying. You have to be able to tone it down or turn it off when you need to. Combine the childishness with adult experience and wisdom and the contradiction is more seductive than either alone.
2. The older you are, the harder it can become to pull off the Natural. Eventually those around you just want you to grow up. Be able to adapt and improvise to your environment and the needs of others.
To all you Naturals, enjoy yourself and thoes around you will nearly always be charmed and lose themselves in your carefree laughter, spontaneity, etc. This is seduction. Make it fun.
Saturday, March 7, 2009
A Key I Learned Recently
Ladies, Gentlemen, and Fellow Seducers,
In the course of the past few weeks, I have been ill. Some would see that as a set back--not me. There are lessons to be learned in the midst of it and here are a few of them:
1. Illness is not seductive-- Being ill, you will nearly always look your absolute worst. This is even worse than wking with terrible morning breath. You feel sick, look sick, and smell that way too. If the object of your affection has any chance of seeing you, try to do what you can to alleviate these setbacks. And try to be optimistic in you illness.
2. Needing people is seductive-- In any situation, people are flattered when you ask for their help. This increases when you are ill. You have appealed to their vanity and humbled yourself in asking for their help at all. And you're ill--even if the person did not seem especially attracted to you, you have (by asking for help) given them the opportunity to feel needed and look attractive for others. Congratulations, you have made them feel better.
3. Optimism is seductive-- No matter how terrible your situation (and I have been in a few terrible ones myself), remember to be optimistic about things. People will say what a good outlook and attitude you have on everything, how uplifting it is to see you, and they will want to visit you. Just think how depressing it is to spend time around negative people. You don't really ever want to be there. We all have negative moments, but the less we show them to others, the more seductive we become. **Also, remember to show that you do know what is happening, the situation you're in, the consequences or possible badnews that is looming over you--and still remain happy in spite of it.
Always find the silver lining and people will enjoy you more for it. You don't have to be incredibly perky, only confident in life and yourself. Once again, confidence is key.
Happy seductions.
In the course of the past few weeks, I have been ill. Some would see that as a set back--not me. There are lessons to be learned in the midst of it and here are a few of them:
1. Illness is not seductive-- Being ill, you will nearly always look your absolute worst. This is even worse than wking with terrible morning breath. You feel sick, look sick, and smell that way too. If the object of your affection has any chance of seeing you, try to do what you can to alleviate these setbacks. And try to be optimistic in you illness.
2. Needing people is seductive-- In any situation, people are flattered when you ask for their help. This increases when you are ill. You have appealed to their vanity and humbled yourself in asking for their help at all. And you're ill--even if the person did not seem especially attracted to you, you have (by asking for help) given them the opportunity to feel needed and look attractive for others. Congratulations, you have made them feel better.
3. Optimism is seductive-- No matter how terrible your situation (and I have been in a few terrible ones myself), remember to be optimistic about things. People will say what a good outlook and attitude you have on everything, how uplifting it is to see you, and they will want to visit you. Just think how depressing it is to spend time around negative people. You don't really ever want to be there. We all have negative moments, but the less we show them to others, the more seductive we become. **Also, remember to show that you do know what is happening, the situation you're in, the consequences or possible badnews that is looming over you--and still remain happy in spite of it.
Always find the silver lining and people will enjoy you more for it. You don't have to be incredibly perky, only confident in life and yourself. Once again, confidence is key.
Happy seductions.
Friday, March 6, 2009
Apologies, dear Readers...
Dear Readers,
My deepest apologies for once again being forced to lapse from the usual M/W/F updating regimen. I was ill but am now back and better than ever. And seduction is on the menu for today.
Let's continue with our lessons.
My deepest apologies for once again being forced to lapse from the usual M/W/F updating regimen. I was ill but am now back and better than ever. And seduction is on the menu for today.
Let's continue with our lessons.
Saturday, January 31, 2009
Stars...bright, admired, and people always wonder about them
"The savage worships idols of wood and stone; the civilized man, idols of flesh and blood." -George Bernard Shaw
Stars glitter and scintillate, dazzling in the night sky. the same is with human Stars. We want to watch them because of their glittering presence, but they are vague enough that we never really know them...even if we think we do. They're elusive. They make us grasp at them to see if we can catch just a bit more. They fascintate us.
Stars can captivate doing nothing. No matter what they're doing, they're magnificent. Your eyes are attracted to them. Take Marlene Dietrich (a film star from the Golden Age of Hollywood). There was a line of beautiful women all trying out for parts. Many acted out in different ways to get attention, but the casting director couldn't take his eyes from Dietrich. She was simply dressed, didn't act out, but every movement engrossed him. She was fascinating. By the time it was her turn to read, he'd already cast her. During this, Dietrich kept her face blank, allowing the director to see what he wanted. And he did.
The point is that no matter who a Star really is, they allow you to see what you want to see in them. Like when JFK ran for the U.S. presidency. It was right after movies like Shane and Rebel without a Cause and the like. Then JFK come on proclaiming the greatness of this young country, with the heart of a young man, with young ideals, and so on. He alluded to what was going on in society and the lack of excitement some felt after World War II. And the people loved him for it. He was more of Hollywood than Washington--they loved him for that too.
Keys:
1. Mix the Real and Unreal:
You are the Star, the character from a person's dream in human form. You have Real qualities (playfulness, humor, even a hint of cruelty, idealism) and Unreal qualities (ethereal grace, blankness, presence)--the mix of them creates fascination and enticement to those around you. Most people's lives are boring, so they look to you and yours for excitement of any kind.
Just think of how many magazines in the checkout aisles in the local grocery store are covered with Hollywood stars, scandals, etc. People get involved because their lives are boring.
2. PRESENCE:
This has to be the most important for a Star. Without this, you aren't one. You have to stand out from the crowd to fill your target's mind with you. You need a style or presence to make you stand out from everyone else. Be dreamlike, but the target must focus on you. Your job is to make it impossible for them not to focus on you. They have to see you even when you aren't there.
3. Blank face:
Like Dietrich, you need to develop a face that radiates and still allows others to read whatever they want into you. They will do that on their own, you just need to provide the canvas. They will believe that they can see your soul, whether this is true or not doesn't matter. Instead of having great emotion, Stars have great interpretation. With a slight change in expression, people will see what they want.
4. Mix in a hint of something...
When cultivating yourself, make impact, then mix in a contradiction. A hint of spirituality, goodness, generosity, show a little of the things or people you love, the causes you care about, etc. These can all add to your seduction. People love contradiction and always want to know more about Stars. But Stars don't tell it all, that's why they're Stars.
5. Vicarious Thrills:
Since most people are bored in their lives, they like to know about people who aren't. People that do exciting things, go strange places, etc. are always intriguing to the public. That doesn't mean that you need to climb Mt. Everest, backpack through the Amazon, get into bar fights, or anything like that. It just means that you need to do those things in life that you want to do anyway. Go skydiving, if you want to. Then, let people know--quietly, methodically, through a third or fourth party--that you did it. They will ask you about it. They always do.
Just a quick note: Everyone has a mask they wear in public, a different mode of behavior. We're all actors. Some are better than others. But all of us are judged on how we portray ourselves, our appearance. No one really knows what others think and feel and, if they're honest, many people really don't care. Think of how many people ask you how you are doing in a day. Do they want the real answer? Usually not.
So perform. Be playful about yourself, Star, maintain an inner distance from life. And remember to remake yourself periodically. It keeps people interested. They grow and change, so must you. You can never be too familiar for too long.
A Danger to be aware of: You are creating an illusion that is pleasurable to others. When they tire of it, or it ceases to be pleasureable, people will turn to someone else. Adjust. Notoriety is not a problem for you, neither are slurs. They are forgivable and may even enhance you presence. But when people become obsessed wtih Stars there is a problem. Remember that this may happen. Prepare for it.
Stars glitter and scintillate, dazzling in the night sky. the same is with human Stars. We want to watch them because of their glittering presence, but they are vague enough that we never really know them...even if we think we do. They're elusive. They make us grasp at them to see if we can catch just a bit more. They fascintate us.
Stars can captivate doing nothing. No matter what they're doing, they're magnificent. Your eyes are attracted to them. Take Marlene Dietrich (a film star from the Golden Age of Hollywood). There was a line of beautiful women all trying out for parts. Many acted out in different ways to get attention, but the casting director couldn't take his eyes from Dietrich. She was simply dressed, didn't act out, but every movement engrossed him. She was fascinating. By the time it was her turn to read, he'd already cast her. During this, Dietrich kept her face blank, allowing the director to see what he wanted. And he did.
The point is that no matter who a Star really is, they allow you to see what you want to see in them. Like when JFK ran for the U.S. presidency. It was right after movies like Shane and Rebel without a Cause and the like. Then JFK come on proclaiming the greatness of this young country, with the heart of a young man, with young ideals, and so on. He alluded to what was going on in society and the lack of excitement some felt after World War II. And the people loved him for it. He was more of Hollywood than Washington--they loved him for that too.
Keys:
1. Mix the Real and Unreal:
You are the Star, the character from a person's dream in human form. You have Real qualities (playfulness, humor, even a hint of cruelty, idealism) and Unreal qualities (ethereal grace, blankness, presence)--the mix of them creates fascination and enticement to those around you. Most people's lives are boring, so they look to you and yours for excitement of any kind.
Just think of how many magazines in the checkout aisles in the local grocery store are covered with Hollywood stars, scandals, etc. People get involved because their lives are boring.
2. PRESENCE:
This has to be the most important for a Star. Without this, you aren't one. You have to stand out from the crowd to fill your target's mind with you. You need a style or presence to make you stand out from everyone else. Be dreamlike, but the target must focus on you. Your job is to make it impossible for them not to focus on you. They have to see you even when you aren't there.
3. Blank face:
Like Dietrich, you need to develop a face that radiates and still allows others to read whatever they want into you. They will do that on their own, you just need to provide the canvas. They will believe that they can see your soul, whether this is true or not doesn't matter. Instead of having great emotion, Stars have great interpretation. With a slight change in expression, people will see what they want.
4. Mix in a hint of something...
When cultivating yourself, make impact, then mix in a contradiction. A hint of spirituality, goodness, generosity, show a little of the things or people you love, the causes you care about, etc. These can all add to your seduction. People love contradiction and always want to know more about Stars. But Stars don't tell it all, that's why they're Stars.
5. Vicarious Thrills:
Since most people are bored in their lives, they like to know about people who aren't. People that do exciting things, go strange places, etc. are always intriguing to the public. That doesn't mean that you need to climb Mt. Everest, backpack through the Amazon, get into bar fights, or anything like that. It just means that you need to do those things in life that you want to do anyway. Go skydiving, if you want to. Then, let people know--quietly, methodically, through a third or fourth party--that you did it. They will ask you about it. They always do.
Just a quick note: Everyone has a mask they wear in public, a different mode of behavior. We're all actors. Some are better than others. But all of us are judged on how we portray ourselves, our appearance. No one really knows what others think and feel and, if they're honest, many people really don't care. Think of how many people ask you how you are doing in a day. Do they want the real answer? Usually not.
So perform. Be playful about yourself, Star, maintain an inner distance from life. And remember to remake yourself periodically. It keeps people interested. They grow and change, so must you. You can never be too familiar for too long.
A Danger to be aware of: You are creating an illusion that is pleasurable to others. When they tire of it, or it ceases to be pleasureable, people will turn to someone else. Adjust. Notoriety is not a problem for you, neither are slurs. They are forgivable and may even enhance you presence. But when people become obsessed wtih Stars there is a problem. Remember that this may happen. Prepare for it.
Thursday, January 29, 2009
He's just Dandy...
"The seduction emanating from a person of uncertain or dissimulated sex is powerful." -Colette
We've all met at least one Dandy in our lifetime. Today, Male Dandies may be called slightly effeminate, metrosexual. He may spend hours in the bathroom getting ready for a date and be better dressed than anyone in the room, of either sex. But he still has the aura of maleness. One very famous Dandy was Rudolph Valentino.
Valentino was a movie star during the Golden age of hollywood. He mixed delicacy and masculinity, and seemed more attentive to women than other men. He also threw in a hint or two of menace--which drove women crazy. Remember this, because these men are not actually effeminate. They have qualities that seem delicate but remain men. That is the enticement of a Dandy.
Female Dandies tend to take on a few male traits but stay decidedly female. For instance, Lou Andreas-Salome was one. Taking on male traits doesn't mean that she smoke, drank swore, and in general acted completely butch. No, she didn't do any of that. She loved to read, especially about philosphy, religion, and the like. This was unusual in the 1800s; therefore, the men that she spoke with regarding her interests were taken with the contrast of a beautiful, intelligent, and intellectual woman who seemed to flirt with them even as they discussed the most sober intricacies of philosophy.
In short, Lou Andreas Salome confused, excited, and fascinated the men she was with. Rudolph Valentino relaxed, excited, and stimulated the women he was with. If you desire to pursue this route of seduction, read pages 41-52 in Robert Greene's "The Art of Seduction" to get a deeper picture of the story. Dandies go much deeper than a simple artificial mix of physical qualities--they mix emotions, psychological qualitites, and at times gender roles. They are the quintessential enigma. No one but them ever really understands why they mix all the things they do...no one really knows why it's so attractive.
Keys:
1. Never Conform:
Society is drowned in conforming people. The point about You is the you stand out. You are willing to be what you are, mix what you like of both genders, enjoy the best of both worlds. That is you. That is why people notice you. Sure, you will sometimes like things that others do (food, movies, entertainments, etc) but that doesn't mean that you do not stand out. You do not need to be anti everything to stand out. Men who are Dandies may like fashion, but they may also like football and fast cars. He may wear makeup or a corset to help his figure and looks, but he still loves camping and hiking. And the same goes for women: she may hate fashion, but love cars and jewelry. The contradiction is there, but they are still masculine or feminine people.
2. Be striking:
Groups will form around you because you are rare. You seduce both socially and sexually because of it. Therefore, be different in "striking and aesthetic ways, never vulgar." Go ahead and poke fun at trends, be uninterested in what everyone else is doing, go in a new direction that no one else is, etc. People are insecure, they'll wonder about you and what you're doing.
3. Impudence:
You just don't give a damn about what anyone else thingks, thinks is cool, etc. Never try to please other people. That is not for you.
4. Live:
Live for pleasure. You need to enjoy life more than almost anyone else. This is what you live for and like to do, etc. This is also why people love you, and love to be around you. Surround yourself with food, wines, objects, anything to bring pleasure.
The power of being a Dandy lies in ambiguity. You confuse roles, people, etc. This is seductive. Learn to do it well and people will love you.
We've all met at least one Dandy in our lifetime. Today, Male Dandies may be called slightly effeminate, metrosexual. He may spend hours in the bathroom getting ready for a date and be better dressed than anyone in the room, of either sex. But he still has the aura of maleness. One very famous Dandy was Rudolph Valentino.
Valentino was a movie star during the Golden age of hollywood. He mixed delicacy and masculinity, and seemed more attentive to women than other men. He also threw in a hint or two of menace--which drove women crazy. Remember this, because these men are not actually effeminate. They have qualities that seem delicate but remain men. That is the enticement of a Dandy.
Female Dandies tend to take on a few male traits but stay decidedly female. For instance, Lou Andreas-Salome was one. Taking on male traits doesn't mean that she smoke, drank swore, and in general acted completely butch. No, she didn't do any of that. She loved to read, especially about philosphy, religion, and the like. This was unusual in the 1800s; therefore, the men that she spoke with regarding her interests were taken with the contrast of a beautiful, intelligent, and intellectual woman who seemed to flirt with them even as they discussed the most sober intricacies of philosophy.
In short, Lou Andreas Salome confused, excited, and fascinated the men she was with. Rudolph Valentino relaxed, excited, and stimulated the women he was with. If you desire to pursue this route of seduction, read pages 41-52 in Robert Greene's "The Art of Seduction" to get a deeper picture of the story. Dandies go much deeper than a simple artificial mix of physical qualities--they mix emotions, psychological qualitites, and at times gender roles. They are the quintessential enigma. No one but them ever really understands why they mix all the things they do...no one really knows why it's so attractive.
Keys:
1. Never Conform:
Society is drowned in conforming people. The point about You is the you stand out. You are willing to be what you are, mix what you like of both genders, enjoy the best of both worlds. That is you. That is why people notice you. Sure, you will sometimes like things that others do (food, movies, entertainments, etc) but that doesn't mean that you do not stand out. You do not need to be anti everything to stand out. Men who are Dandies may like fashion, but they may also like football and fast cars. He may wear makeup or a corset to help his figure and looks, but he still loves camping and hiking. And the same goes for women: she may hate fashion, but love cars and jewelry. The contradiction is there, but they are still masculine or feminine people.
2. Be striking:
Groups will form around you because you are rare. You seduce both socially and sexually because of it. Therefore, be different in "striking and aesthetic ways, never vulgar." Go ahead and poke fun at trends, be uninterested in what everyone else is doing, go in a new direction that no one else is, etc. People are insecure, they'll wonder about you and what you're doing.
3. Impudence:
You just don't give a damn about what anyone else thingks, thinks is cool, etc. Never try to please other people. That is not for you.
4. Live:
Live for pleasure. You need to enjoy life more than almost anyone else. This is what you live for and like to do, etc. This is also why people love you, and love to be around you. Surround yourself with food, wines, objects, anything to bring pleasure.
The power of being a Dandy lies in ambiguity. You confuse roles, people, etc. This is seductive. Learn to do it well and people will love you.
Wednesday, January 28, 2009
Don't Make This Mistake...
Ladies and Gentlemen,
Hello again. Today, as part of the lesson, I would like to tell you one of the biggest mistakes you can ever make in a seduction: Saying too much too early.
Don't make this mistake.
As I know that I have mentioned, a bit of mystery is the heart of seduction. Your target should wonder about you. This gives the person something to think about in his/her spare time...the time when you are away, mainting the distance necessary for a good and successful seduction. This is why telling too much about yourself too early is a huge mistake.
Yes, people always say that they want to know everything about you. You are sooo fasinating, sooo interesting, and sooo mysterious--they wonder how your mind works. Don't tell them. If you tell them how your mind works, why you are the person that you are, etc. then you are no longer interesting.
This is not to say that you should not tell people anything about yourself. Most people enjoy talking about themselves, but they will eventually ask you about yourself--if only to know who they are divulging their secrets to. This is why talking about yourself is an art.
A few Keys:
1. Remember that your goal is to entice the other person. That doesn't mean that you only tell things about yourself that you know that they will like. This may make them suspicious--everyone has a flaw, so your victim with delve deep to find yours. They may find out things that you do not want them to know this way.
2. Allow yourself to have a few little quirks, foibles, even a character flaw. This makes you human and a bit more approachable in general. It also makes you lovable. No one really wants someone who is 100% perfect. It's daunting to comepete with. But 100% perfect for them, that is the key. You can have a few quirks, your victim will probably enjoy them. They make you memorable.
3. As a Rule: Say less than necessary. By doing this, you pique the person's interest. They will wonder or ask questions. You do not have to answer all, or (if you are Very good at the game) any, of the questions. Your victims will build your character in their minds and you will not contradict yourself...more than you want to.
****If you need an example of this, watch the movie Spy Game and watch Robert Redford's character. He says so little and people assume so much, and things tend to turn out the way he wants them to. Now, none of you are spies like Redford's character, but the concept is the same in seduction. Tell less, they imagine more, and you are all the more attractive to them.
4. Don't Lie: You do not always have to tell 100% of the truth, in fact many people would prefer that you didn't, but that doesn't mean that you should lie. Lying is a problem in seduction for the same reason that it is a problem in life--the webs get tangled. Eventually, you may have to make something you lied about true. Then what do you do.
Ladies and Gentlemen, always, always, always remember Key #3! As a rule, say less than necessary. If you are ever tempted to lie, don't. Just pick and choose what details you include in a story and the story will be interesting...really.
People are always more interested in what you Don't say than what you Do say. They like to read between the lines and figure you out. Try it and see. Say less, but be noticeable. People will ask you more questions and be more intrigued by you than the person who says so much more. They know what he is thinking. They wonder about you.
Aim well.
Hello again. Today, as part of the lesson, I would like to tell you one of the biggest mistakes you can ever make in a seduction: Saying too much too early.
Don't make this mistake.
As I know that I have mentioned, a bit of mystery is the heart of seduction. Your target should wonder about you. This gives the person something to think about in his/her spare time...the time when you are away, mainting the distance necessary for a good and successful seduction. This is why telling too much about yourself too early is a huge mistake.
Yes, people always say that they want to know everything about you. You are sooo fasinating, sooo interesting, and sooo mysterious--they wonder how your mind works. Don't tell them. If you tell them how your mind works, why you are the person that you are, etc. then you are no longer interesting.
This is not to say that you should not tell people anything about yourself. Most people enjoy talking about themselves, but they will eventually ask you about yourself--if only to know who they are divulging their secrets to. This is why talking about yourself is an art.
A few Keys:
1. Remember that your goal is to entice the other person. That doesn't mean that you only tell things about yourself that you know that they will like. This may make them suspicious--everyone has a flaw, so your victim with delve deep to find yours. They may find out things that you do not want them to know this way.
2. Allow yourself to have a few little quirks, foibles, even a character flaw. This makes you human and a bit more approachable in general. It also makes you lovable. No one really wants someone who is 100% perfect. It's daunting to comepete with. But 100% perfect for them, that is the key. You can have a few quirks, your victim will probably enjoy them. They make you memorable.
3. As a Rule: Say less than necessary. By doing this, you pique the person's interest. They will wonder or ask questions. You do not have to answer all, or (if you are Very good at the game) any, of the questions. Your victims will build your character in their minds and you will not contradict yourself...more than you want to.
****If you need an example of this, watch the movie Spy Game and watch Robert Redford's character. He says so little and people assume so much, and things tend to turn out the way he wants them to. Now, none of you are spies like Redford's character, but the concept is the same in seduction. Tell less, they imagine more, and you are all the more attractive to them.
4. Don't Lie: You do not always have to tell 100% of the truth, in fact many people would prefer that you didn't, but that doesn't mean that you should lie. Lying is a problem in seduction for the same reason that it is a problem in life--the webs get tangled. Eventually, you may have to make something you lied about true. Then what do you do.
Ladies and Gentlemen, always, always, always remember Key #3! As a rule, say less than necessary. If you are ever tempted to lie, don't. Just pick and choose what details you include in a story and the story will be interesting...really.
People are always more interested in what you Don't say than what you Do say. They like to read between the lines and figure you out. Try it and see. Say less, but be noticeable. People will ask you more questions and be more intrigued by you than the person who says so much more. They know what he is thinking. They wonder about you.
Aim well.
Wednesday, January 21, 2009
The books about "The Rules of Dating"
A friend/reader recently brought to my attention a series of books that I'm loosely grouping into the Rules Books. These books tell the rules of dating, marriage, sex, and so on and so forth. There are some very good ideas nad some very good rules in them. Then, my friend asked me why I don't use them on this blog.
Well, I will use some things from them on this blog, but many of the rules in them are already in the principles I'll be going into soon. Therefore, I'll teach the principles to all of you and let you make up your own personal rules regarding them.
Remember that seduction is made to be a fluid game. You must be able to adapt, improvise, and grow with your chosen targets. They aren't made out of molds. Why should you be? In fact, you shouldn't be. That is a violation of seduction. If everyone is the same, there is absolutely nothing to entice someone TO you instead of someone else.
For myself, I say the following "Rules are made to be broken when needed; principles last forever." I change and adapt to any situation as needed, so I do not have the time to be so encumbered by rules.
Cheers to all.
Well, I will use some things from them on this blog, but many of the rules in them are already in the principles I'll be going into soon. Therefore, I'll teach the principles to all of you and let you make up your own personal rules regarding them.
Remember that seduction is made to be a fluid game. You must be able to adapt, improvise, and grow with your chosen targets. They aren't made out of molds. Why should you be? In fact, you shouldn't be. That is a violation of seduction. If everyone is the same, there is absolutely nothing to entice someone TO you instead of someone else.
For myself, I say the following "Rules are made to be broken when needed; principles last forever." I change and adapt to any situation as needed, so I do not have the time to be so encumbered by rules.
Cheers to all.
Tuesday, January 20, 2009
The Power of the Ideal Lover
The world we live in is full of harsh realitites, but who wants them! None of us really. There are some of us more susceptible to such fantasies than others, however.
Ideal Lovers thrive on broken and repressed dreams, dreams that we don't believe can come true anymore. Those harsh realities have smashed our hope that we could have our dreams. Therefore, a good lover uses that to his/her advantage--reflecting whatever your dream is back to you and making the illusion you need. For instance, most of us have to run back and forth to work, school, sports practice, rehearsals, cook dinner, do laundry, get some sleep, and more--all while trying to look nice for the opposite sex. So we rush from appointment to appointment, just trying to make the day go by twenty minutes faster so that we can get home a little earlier.
What does the Ideal Lover do? While he/she probably has all the same things to do, they never rush through their time with you. They linger as much as possible, acting as though they can never have enough of you.
"A good lover will behave as elegantly at dawn as at any other time." (The Pillow Book of Sei Shonagon) In other words, after spending an enjoyable night together, the Ideal Lover does not hurriedly gather his things and rush off. No. He takes as long as he can, acting as though every movement bringing him closer to leaving you pains him. Then, when he must leave, he spends that extra moment pulling you in for a warm, langorous kiss before taking his leave.
Casanova was the most successful male Ideal Lover, and Madame de Pompadour the most successful female. Why?
Keys:
1. Observe. Observe. Observe:
Your job as the Ideal Lover is to find what people lack, what dreams have been shattered. Therefore, ignore the conscious things that they do and say, and focus on the involuntary things (a blush, a look, etc) and learn what they are not saying.
"Our ideal may be buried in disappointment, but it lurks underneath, waiting to be sparked. If another person seems to have that ideal quality, or to have the ability to bring it out in us, we fall in love....[Ideal Lovers do] not merely seduce their targets into a sexual affair, they make them fall in love." (The Art of Seduction, 36).
Now is the perfect time for the Ideal Lover. First, because we (as people in society) must always seem well-intentioned. Power is taboo. Speaking of Power is more taboo, because there is nothing noble or spiritually elevating about it. And Second, because few people see through the Ideal Lover--and that makes the seduction last longer.
2. Ambiguity:
Combine sensitivity with pleasure, an air of innocence with spiritual and sensibility. Mix high and low qualitites (sensuality with innocence, etc); the combination is enigmatic and seductive.
Remember, people are always vulnerable to insinuation, especially if it strokes their vanity. Hint that you see some untapped potential in them, some wonderful inspiring thing, and they will be yours. You are appealing to a person's "higher self" (their vanity, really). We always want to believe that we are better than we really are.
Politicians do this to an entire nation by pulling symbols from the country's past, bringing former ideals back to the surface. The reality behind the symbols doesn't matter, only the positive feelings that they stir in the people. Those feelings will undoubtedly be transferred to the politician.
Dangers:
1. Reality must be kept away. If it creeps in, then your own faults will burst your victim's bubble and you will bear the force of the explosion.
2.Also, reality and long, intimate exposure dull a person's perfection. Distance is often the solution to this.
3.Lastly, be prudent and keep people from seeing you imperfections as much as possible. Your reputation may or may not survive it.
One final thought, Ideal Lovers always bring out the nobler qualities in their victims, make them seem wonderful and godlike; and for this they are rewarded with great power. Their Victim has come to love them. Love, itself, is a source of power.
Ideal Lovers thrive on broken and repressed dreams, dreams that we don't believe can come true anymore. Those harsh realities have smashed our hope that we could have our dreams. Therefore, a good lover uses that to his/her advantage--reflecting whatever your dream is back to you and making the illusion you need. For instance, most of us have to run back and forth to work, school, sports practice, rehearsals, cook dinner, do laundry, get some sleep, and more--all while trying to look nice for the opposite sex. So we rush from appointment to appointment, just trying to make the day go by twenty minutes faster so that we can get home a little earlier.
What does the Ideal Lover do? While he/she probably has all the same things to do, they never rush through their time with you. They linger as much as possible, acting as though they can never have enough of you.
"A good lover will behave as elegantly at dawn as at any other time." (The Pillow Book of Sei Shonagon) In other words, after spending an enjoyable night together, the Ideal Lover does not hurriedly gather his things and rush off. No. He takes as long as he can, acting as though every movement bringing him closer to leaving you pains him. Then, when he must leave, he spends that extra moment pulling you in for a warm, langorous kiss before taking his leave.
Casanova was the most successful male Ideal Lover, and Madame de Pompadour the most successful female. Why?
Keys:
1. Observe. Observe. Observe:
Your job as the Ideal Lover is to find what people lack, what dreams have been shattered. Therefore, ignore the conscious things that they do and say, and focus on the involuntary things (a blush, a look, etc) and learn what they are not saying.
"Our ideal may be buried in disappointment, but it lurks underneath, waiting to be sparked. If another person seems to have that ideal quality, or to have the ability to bring it out in us, we fall in love....[Ideal Lovers do] not merely seduce their targets into a sexual affair, they make them fall in love." (The Art of Seduction, 36).
Now is the perfect time for the Ideal Lover. First, because we (as people in society) must always seem well-intentioned. Power is taboo. Speaking of Power is more taboo, because there is nothing noble or spiritually elevating about it. And Second, because few people see through the Ideal Lover--and that makes the seduction last longer.
2. Ambiguity:
Combine sensitivity with pleasure, an air of innocence with spiritual and sensibility. Mix high and low qualitites (sensuality with innocence, etc); the combination is enigmatic and seductive.
Remember, people are always vulnerable to insinuation, especially if it strokes their vanity. Hint that you see some untapped potential in them, some wonderful inspiring thing, and they will be yours. You are appealing to a person's "higher self" (their vanity, really). We always want to believe that we are better than we really are.
Politicians do this to an entire nation by pulling symbols from the country's past, bringing former ideals back to the surface. The reality behind the symbols doesn't matter, only the positive feelings that they stir in the people. Those feelings will undoubtedly be transferred to the politician.
Dangers:
1. Reality must be kept away. If it creeps in, then your own faults will burst your victim's bubble and you will bear the force of the explosion.
2.Also, reality and long, intimate exposure dull a person's perfection. Distance is often the solution to this.
3.Lastly, be prudent and keep people from seeing you imperfections as much as possible. Your reputation may or may not survive it.
One final thought, Ideal Lovers always bring out the nobler qualities in their victims, make them seem wonderful and godlike; and for this they are rewarded with great power. Their Victim has come to love them. Love, itself, is a source of power.
Monday, January 19, 2009
Sirens...and the drowning men who love them.
Welcome again, Ladies and Gentlemen. Today, we study The Siren.
Sirens bewitch men. This is a simple fact of life. The Siren exudes an exciting, adventurous, and potently sexual presence that entices the men...and yet, the Siren herself remains ungraspable--unless she chooses to be grasped. She's dazzling, sexy, alluring, and her every movement is a source of pleasure.
This does NOT mean that she is easy. Sirens make themselves pleasurable company to men, but pleasure is not always about sex. And many times, the Sirens themselves do not exactly understand the effect they have on men.
One of the most famous Sirens was Marilyn Monroe. To this day, I have yet to meet a man (homosexual or straight) who does not know who she is and revere her as the sex symbol and goddess that she was. To quote her: "My admirers all said the same thing in different ways. It was my fault, their wanting to kiss me and hug me. Some said it was the way I looked at them--with eyes full of passion. Others said it was my voice that lured them on. Still others said that I gave off vibrations that floored them."
No matter how you do what you do as a Siren, men will be floored. They will be drawn in and drown happily.
Keys:
1. Voice:
Whatever tone you choose (sweet, delightful, langorous, exotic, child-like, suggestive), you simply must learn the art of insinuation. You must hint at eroticism, and do so as subliminally as possible. Never be overtly sexual with this. Much of communication is what your body and tone say, not the words that come out of your mouth. Use your tone to make your point. Also, remember that your voice is there to lull, to mezmerize your victim. NEVER speak too quickly, aggressively, high-pitched, or sound like a man's mother. That isn't your job.
2. Body:
Where your voice needs to lull and mezmerize, your body should captivate. Everything in your appearance must dazzle, be harmonious, with no single thing drawing attention. Everything needs to draw attention TO YOU, not to the item itself. You are a goddess, feel free to look like one. Be a charged, larger-than-life fantasy.
Also, remember that what youcover and what you leave selectively bare can be seductive in itself. Caution: wearing less and less does not make you sexier, it makes you look like a slut. Sensuality has very little to do with what you are or are not wearing. It is how you walk, talk, sit, stand, laugh, carry yourself, wear the clothes that you choose to.
Napolean's wife, Josephine, always left her arms bare. This was more selectively seductive than acres of decolletage to many men.
3. Movement/demeanor:
Make as many of your movements as gracefully and suggestive (i.e. learn to look like you're floating when walking, be graceful, unhurried, etc). Remember, the point is to not be overt with the suggestions. You hint, cajole, stir the victim without being obvious.
You may worry about confusing your victim. Don't. You want your victim confused--that's the point. The mix of innocence and sex are seductive. In general, anything not immediately understood is seductive. Let that seductive dicotomy consume you, and you become seductive as well.
Dangers:
The problem for Sirens generally comes from the same sex. She will always have a reputation--Rome thought Cleopatra a whore. Men are forgiving of the reputation, women envy and that turns them into enemies. The Siren can combat this somewhat by playing up their innocence and making herself seem a victim of male desire.
Also, the attention that Sirens get eventually irritates them. They may want no attention at all, or just a different type. Not all beautiful women are brainless, but some people tend to believe that they are.
Finally, physical beauty fades over the years. The Siren herself must learn to play on more than the physical desires of men--the psychological aspects of seduction are more seductive than sex. Sex is easy. Anyone can get it, even on short notice. So learn to seduce the psyche as well and you'll have more power after.
Anyone can take on a few of the qualities of the Siren, but in many ways you have to be born with it. So, if you aren't one, feel free to play with it a bit--make yourself as attractive as possible. If you are one, it's hard to make yourself unattractive. So the best of luck to everyone.
Sirens bewitch men. This is a simple fact of life. The Siren exudes an exciting, adventurous, and potently sexual presence that entices the men...and yet, the Siren herself remains ungraspable--unless she chooses to be grasped. She's dazzling, sexy, alluring, and her every movement is a source of pleasure.
This does NOT mean that she is easy. Sirens make themselves pleasurable company to men, but pleasure is not always about sex. And many times, the Sirens themselves do not exactly understand the effect they have on men.
One of the most famous Sirens was Marilyn Monroe. To this day, I have yet to meet a man (homosexual or straight) who does not know who she is and revere her as the sex symbol and goddess that she was. To quote her: "My admirers all said the same thing in different ways. It was my fault, their wanting to kiss me and hug me. Some said it was the way I looked at them--with eyes full of passion. Others said it was my voice that lured them on. Still others said that I gave off vibrations that floored them."
No matter how you do what you do as a Siren, men will be floored. They will be drawn in and drown happily.
Keys:
1. Voice:
Whatever tone you choose (sweet, delightful, langorous, exotic, child-like, suggestive), you simply must learn the art of insinuation. You must hint at eroticism, and do so as subliminally as possible. Never be overtly sexual with this. Much of communication is what your body and tone say, not the words that come out of your mouth. Use your tone to make your point. Also, remember that your voice is there to lull, to mezmerize your victim. NEVER speak too quickly, aggressively, high-pitched, or sound like a man's mother. That isn't your job.
2. Body:
Where your voice needs to lull and mezmerize, your body should captivate. Everything in your appearance must dazzle, be harmonious, with no single thing drawing attention. Everything needs to draw attention TO YOU, not to the item itself. You are a goddess, feel free to look like one. Be a charged, larger-than-life fantasy.
Also, remember that what youcover and what you leave selectively bare can be seductive in itself. Caution: wearing less and less does not make you sexier, it makes you look like a slut. Sensuality has very little to do with what you are or are not wearing. It is how you walk, talk, sit, stand, laugh, carry yourself, wear the clothes that you choose to.
Napolean's wife, Josephine, always left her arms bare. This was more selectively seductive than acres of decolletage to many men.
3. Movement/demeanor:
Make as many of your movements as gracefully and suggestive (i.e. learn to look like you're floating when walking, be graceful, unhurried, etc). Remember, the point is to not be overt with the suggestions. You hint, cajole, stir the victim without being obvious.
You may worry about confusing your victim. Don't. You want your victim confused--that's the point. The mix of innocence and sex are seductive. In general, anything not immediately understood is seductive. Let that seductive dicotomy consume you, and you become seductive as well.
Dangers:
The problem for Sirens generally comes from the same sex. She will always have a reputation--Rome thought Cleopatra a whore. Men are forgiving of the reputation, women envy and that turns them into enemies. The Siren can combat this somewhat by playing up their innocence and making herself seem a victim of male desire.
Also, the attention that Sirens get eventually irritates them. They may want no attention at all, or just a different type. Not all beautiful women are brainless, but some people tend to believe that they are.
Finally, physical beauty fades over the years. The Siren herself must learn to play on more than the physical desires of men--the psychological aspects of seduction are more seductive than sex. Sex is easy. Anyone can get it, even on short notice. So learn to seduce the psyche as well and you'll have more power after.
Anyone can take on a few of the qualities of the Siren, but in many ways you have to be born with it. So, if you aren't one, feel free to play with it a bit--make yourself as attractive as possible. If you are one, it's hard to make yourself unattractive. So the best of luck to everyone.
Wednesday, January 14, 2009
Anti-seducers: quick notes
Everyone,
Just a quick note today on Anti-seducers. Your goal is, of course, not to be one of these; however, all of us have a few qualities of the anti-seducer.
Greed, stinginess, windbaggery, clingy-ness, all of these are qualities of the anti-seducer. Greed points that nothing--including you--will satisfy the victim. Stinginess points to more than just the pocketbook but a lack of emotion necessary for a satisfying seduction. Windbaggery: being smart is a plus in many cases, but there are people who simply never know when to stop talking. Windbags talk until their audience loses interest, then think that by talking more they will recapture that interest--this is hardly ever the case. Clingy-ness points to a lack of confidence in yourself. Yes you want to be near the other person, need to be to seduce them. But overexposure can be worse than underexposure: with underexposure, the victim doesn't know enough to look your way, in overexposure, they know too much to keep looking.
Remember mystery. Victims, no matter what they say, do not always like open books. There are areas, like finance, where mystery is bad. But, in seduction, mystery is good.
The victim should wonder about you. You are the source of an intriguing game, and the victim doesn't really know what the prize in the middle of the maze is. You give them glimpses, peeks, etc. but only periodically. The less you show, the more they imagine, the faster they are yours for the taking.
Enjoy the game. And see you in the next installment.
Just a quick note today on Anti-seducers. Your goal is, of course, not to be one of these; however, all of us have a few qualities of the anti-seducer.
Greed, stinginess, windbaggery, clingy-ness, all of these are qualities of the anti-seducer. Greed points that nothing--including you--will satisfy the victim. Stinginess points to more than just the pocketbook but a lack of emotion necessary for a satisfying seduction. Windbaggery: being smart is a plus in many cases, but there are people who simply never know when to stop talking. Windbags talk until their audience loses interest, then think that by talking more they will recapture that interest--this is hardly ever the case. Clingy-ness points to a lack of confidence in yourself. Yes you want to be near the other person, need to be to seduce them. But overexposure can be worse than underexposure: with underexposure, the victim doesn't know enough to look your way, in overexposure, they know too much to keep looking.
Remember mystery. Victims, no matter what they say, do not always like open books. There are areas, like finance, where mystery is bad. But, in seduction, mystery is good.
The victim should wonder about you. You are the source of an intriguing game, and the victim doesn't really know what the prize in the middle of the maze is. You give them glimpses, peeks, etc. but only periodically. The less you show, the more they imagine, the faster they are yours for the taking.
Enjoy the game. And see you in the next installment.
Monday, January 12, 2009
My apologies...
Ladies and Gentlemen,
I must apologize for taking so long to blog again. I was very ill during the last few months and hope that the holidays were full of seductive opportunities for all.
I am happy to report that I have found one worth seducing (romantically). We'll call him...Button-Nose. Obviously, this has only a little to do with his appearance. I must say that it is interesting being in the first phases of seduction once again. And when I say first phases, that is just what I mean.
Button-Nose is aware of my existence, but not as a romantic possibility. I must begin to convince him of his need for me, but--as I have so many times told others--he must feel as though it were his own idea. I will take a leaf from The Art of Seduction and approach indirectly. We know many of the same people; it will not take long to show myself as an object of desire (even just as friendly company) among them. From there...we will see.
Stay tuned for updates. There are other possible Victims as well but none quite so very intriguing at the moment.
And tomorrow, I will begin posting my regular updates on Seducers and Victim Types once again.
Until then...happy seducing. Remember, as friend or romantic interests, seduction is always enjoyable.
I must apologize for taking so long to blog again. I was very ill during the last few months and hope that the holidays were full of seductive opportunities for all.
I am happy to report that I have found one worth seducing (romantically). We'll call him...Button-Nose. Obviously, this has only a little to do with his appearance. I must say that it is interesting being in the first phases of seduction once again. And when I say first phases, that is just what I mean.
Button-Nose is aware of my existence, but not as a romantic possibility. I must begin to convince him of his need for me, but--as I have so many times told others--he must feel as though it were his own idea. I will take a leaf from The Art of Seduction and approach indirectly. We know many of the same people; it will not take long to show myself as an object of desire (even just as friendly company) among them. From there...we will see.
Stay tuned for updates. There are other possible Victims as well but none quite so very intriguing at the moment.
And tomorrow, I will begin posting my regular updates on Seducers and Victim Types once again.
Until then...happy seducing. Remember, as friend or romantic interests, seduction is always enjoyable.
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