Be a Person Worth Loving

Ladies and Gentlemen,

After a short sabatical, I am back with another piece of advice before returning to the Victim Types outlined by Robert Greene. Here is the advice:

If you want someone to fall in love with you, be a person worth loving.


This does NOT mean that you should change yourself for everyone (or even one person) to make them love you. Remember that you should only try to seduce those that are susceptible to you--otherwise, you are wasting your time and energy on someone who may never reciprocate (or worse, that you will both be intensely dissatisified in the seduction). I mean that you must believe that you are worthy of love and wooing, and you must love and woo back.

Case in point: I knew a girl that had had chronic self worth issues. She never believed that she was good enough, needed constant reassurance, and (because she never believed that she was good enough) would be very easily offended by innocent comments that others make.
Ladies and Gentlemen, this is NOT seductive by any means. Sure, it might be gratifying for a time that someone else needs your constant approval, but it wears thin quickly.
*****As always, Confidence is key.

Women are not the only ones prone to this. I knew and extremely attractive, intelligent, fun, and witty man with a good job that had trouble hanging on to his relationships. To this day, his longest relationship has been two months. That is how long it took the women he dated to see that he needed constant reassurance in his manhood, his job, his life choices, etc. The poor man had everything a woman could want and lacked confidence to believe it.

In fact, insecurity is amazingly anti-seductive. It turns people off quickly.

Every person I have ever met has at least one amazing quality to recommend him or her. It is up to the individual to see it. If you don't believe that you have one, look harder. I guarantee that you do. And when you find it, it will give you confidence. That will make you feel more worthy of someone else's love. Remember, if you don't think that you are good enough without another person, you will never be enough with them. You don't have to be completely independent of your lover in every way--in fact, don't be--but insecurity makes you clingy and unappealing.

Once you believe that you are worth loving, remember to let your lover believe that they are wooing you, even as you woo them. This is that careful game that has been played between men and women for centuries. In short, make your lover work for you and show your lover that you are working for them. The effort shows them (and you) that you care for eachother in the seduction.

Don't forget this one. It is key.

Enjoy your seductions.