Entering a Seduction

Ladies and Gentlemen,

I apologize once again for a...prolonged absence. Now, let's continue.

In considering how to re-enter our discussion, I was speaking with my friend, Madam Artemis. She has now found someone worthy to seduce who is obviously susceptible to her. Bravo, Artemis! And now to the case study.

Artemis has been wondering what move to make when--so even we practiced in the art of seduction still aren't exactly sure what to do all of the time. What do you say when? How much do you tell? How do you know what the other person is thinking? How do you know what to do? How do you make them want you?

In short, we're all just that much insecure when we see something (or someone) that we want. So here's a few tips to keep yourself in line.

1. At first, say less rather than more:
Why? Because the less you say, the more they will fill in the spaces for you. A few facts, delivered with a hint of emotion that is appropriate for the fact being delivered, and they will fill in all the blanks for you. In case you're squeamish, this is not deceit. Remember, you don't walk up to just anyone and tell them your life story when you meet them. The fact that you want to seduce THIS person doesn't make them any different--it makes you different. You want them to love you--as lover, friend, coworker, or whatever, but it's love. Love doesn't happen all at once.

2. Master your emotions:
Why? Being emotional makes you do stupid things at the wrong times. Being emotional and Having emotions are not the same thing. When you're emotional, your emotions control you. When you have emotions, you control them--you feel them, ride them out, tell your best friend, eat cookies and milk, go running, or whatever else you need to do to deal--but you NEVER let them rule you.
In Seduction, being emotional is selfish. You are letting what you think, feel, or want be more important than your target's. We all hate people that only use others to fulfill their own needs and then walk away; that is why we are not those people. We have relationships. They may be long or short, but they are relationships. Aside from this, remember that focusing on yourself so much takes your attention away from your target. This is counter-productive. If you want them to fill your needs, fill theirs first. Then, they will fall over themselves to fill yours. They will be dependent on you to fill theirs and do everything they can to keep you around.

3. Master the art of Silence:
Why? There are many kinds of silences. Some make you feel comforted, contented. Others make one feel insecure, uncomfortable. Still others are the simple relaxed silences that you get when you are with your best friend, relaxed and chilling out with no need to say anything.
Believe it or not, you can create the silence that you want. You can influence people's emotions. To do this, silence is at least as important as the words you use, more actually. Words can be taken badly, you may slip up and say something the wrong way or in the wrong tone. You can make this up but why even cause yourself the problem.
When you leave an appropriate silence, you give your target the opportunity to use their imagination, fill in the blanks in you. Don't worry if they assume something that was incorrect--you never told them that what they inferred was true--and don't worry if you end up contradicting whatever they have assumed later. It actually makes you more interesting to them.

Remember that in your seduction the needs of both you and your target are equal. You want both fulfilled but they need to fulfill yours of their own free will and believing that it was their own idea.

Never fully satisfy your target however. People that are fully content are intensely difficult to seduce, because they have no needs for you to fill. Remember also, that once you have seduced your target you must continue the seduction. They have to continue to have needs for you to fill and you must continue to fill the important ones (not all of them)--or they can leave you to go find someone else who will.


Ladies and Gentlemen, no matter what anyone tells you, Love doesn't happen by accident. It is something that can be cajoled, prompted, or whatever other word you prefer. Meeting the person that you wish to Seduce may be chance, but Love never is. It always represents a concerted effort on someone's part. If you want love, take control. It doesn't mean that everyone, or even everyone that you want to, will love you, but not doing anything means that you'll have much less than you would if you took action.


Every joy to your Seductions. And special luck to Artemis in this newest endeavor.