A Quick story

Ladies and Gentleman,

Appearances are how we are fist judged. Superficial and possibly completely wrong, it doesn't matter. Therefore, appearances are important. Remember this when reading the story:

I recently moved to a new area. It is near an area I had lived in some time before, but I did not know anyone in this area. Having lived nearby, however, I knew the type of people who lived there and the general type of clothing the people wore, how they spoke, how they interacted. I used all of this information to my distinct advantage at a gathering a few days ago.

The gathering was a Casual after 6 affair (meaning that men wore suits or sport coats and women dresses or skirt ensembles--more on this later). Knowing that most of the women would be dressed in a shirt dress with an accessory belt or a nice wool skirt and blouse, I took a calculated risk.

I dressed in Goth attire.

Now, to be completely candid, it was not complete Goth attire. There were strappy black heels instead of the regular boots and a knee length black denim skirt. But the lacey black, mandarin collared shirt framed my neck as though I were a vampire. And the dice/handcuff earrings were standard. The makeup was a toned down version of standard Goth.
It was a startling contrast in the crowd.

Even though I had arrived somewhat early to the affair, those who walked through the door began staring not long after. And many people sought to make my acquaintance that evening.

What is the lesson to be learned from this?

1. The lesson of Pauline Bonaparte. She was an startling sight at many gatherings becuase she put the effort into her wardrobe to make sure that the pieces were striking on her and, still, harmonious hen placed together. Never was their one accessory, dress, shoe, or hairstyle that anyone could pick out to say "that object made that look." It all worked well together, and looked perfect on her.
NOTE: This is not only a lesson for women. MEN, women notice how you present yourselves as well. You can startle us as simply as we startle you. Even the manliest of men should take a little time and put some effort in here.

2. The other attendees sought me out. It was not the other way around. The look, combined with an air of confidence, was enough to attract them.

3. My calculated risk paid off because I appeared different. I'd done the research and knew what I was walking into, so I capitalized on the situation. This is what you must do in seduction. Use what you know, root out what you don't know, and use the calculated guess/risk to make up the difference.


Notes:
-They did not know me before this. I have met many of them now. Will I be walking around in Goth attire everyday? No, because it is not appropriate for everything I do. But it got their attention.
-Now that I have their attention, seduction is much easier. The people are already intrigued (proven by their seeking me out).


The next step is to keep their attention. Will I use such a tactic again? Not anytime soon. I do not need it yet. Save the surprise/shock moments for when you need them. Will I blend into the rest of them now? No. NEVER do this. You must be noticed by others--not constantly so, but remembered. Also, you do not want everyone thinking that you used a shock maneuver simply to get attention.

Public attention is fleeting, momentary. And you are easily forgotten afterward. No, this was a tactic to quickly enter the minds/spirits of the people, to make them be just enough intrigued with me to learn more. Now, I can slowly make other contradictions and give myself depth of character.

We will go more into all that, once the victim summaries are finished and we begin the real seduction process, soon.