The Charismatic

Charismatics are people that we want to be around, a "presence that excites us" (Robert Greene). They have some inner quality that radiates out and others lack. Some qualities include confidence, sexual energy, sensuality, purpose, commitment, contentment, vitality, vision, eloquence. It can be any of these or something else entirely.

"'Charisma' shall be understood to refer to an extraordinary quality of a person, regardless of whether this quality is actual, alleged or presumed." -Max Weber

Charisma is inherently mysterious. You may be attracted to this person without ever knowig why. When the Charismatic walks into the room, you turn and look because you feel their presence. They have confidence, they stand out.

Tricks to increase Charisma:
1. purpose: people will follow if you have a plan. Pick a goal and don't sway from it.
2. mystery: have contradictory qualities (emotionally intimate& distant, cruelty& kindness, etc.)
3. Saintliness: be uncompromising in your ideals
4. Eloquence: "Words are the quickest way to create emotional disturbance." (Robert Greene)
5. Theatricality: Be larger than life, attract attention without seeming to do anything, be self-aware, stay composed even in the worst situations
6. Uninhibitedness: be spontaneous, have no fear, radiate sensuality--most people repress themselves and their instincts, YOU can act on them.
7. Fervency: believe in something--make it light you up like a torch so everyone can see.
8. Vulnerability: you need to be loved by your audience, show them your love as well. The extreme confidence can frighten; show some needs, vulnerabilities to balance it.
9. Adventurousness: Be unconventional, courageous, brazen. Take risks with others there to see. You will attract the bored and be seen as fearless.
10. Magnetism: The eyes reveal emotion without speech. Develop a piercing gaze, never show fear, and practice with the look in your eyes. Know what you say to people when you are not speaking.

"Genuine charisma thus means the ability to internally generate and externally express extreme excitement, an ability which makes one the object of intense attention and unreflective imitation by others." -Liah Greenfield

These qualities can be combined in any number of ways to achieve your desired results. Practice them to see how they affect others. You want to know this. Then you know how to act to achieve certain reactions in others. They will follow you.