Burn like Ice...the Coquette

Welcome readers to the Coquette Crash Course. Coquettes are masters of causing the crash, and soothing away the pain to lull the Victim into crashing again.

“Coquettes know how to please; not how to love, which is why men love them.” –Pierre Marivaux

“She who would long to retain her power must use her lover ill.” –Ovid

The more obviously you pursue a person, the more you chase them away. Be subtle, insinuating, even inattentive. The Coquette knows this…and uses it.

Coquettes have the key to bringing their targets to their knees: the calculated step back. Most think that their constant presence helps in seduction. It doesn’t. Victims must be left to imagine you as they want you to be; don’t prove what you are. Coquettes know better. Withdrawing at the point when the Victim has become secure and dependent in your company causes insecurity. Why aren’t you there? Have they done something to send you away? Why don’t you call? Then, the Victim will seek them out.

Keys:

Narcissism: Coquettes tend toward independence and self-sufficiency. They don’t need a man to coddle them because they are fine in themselves. THIS is seductive. Confidence attracts others to you. Low self-esteem, poor self-image repel others from you.

The less you seem to need others, the more you attract others. We bow to the Coquettes on this.
Coquettes excite their Victims. Unspoken promises of Fame, Fortune, sexual magnetism…she has a million tricks. She excites her target, then plays with them.

Obvious flirting reveals your intentions. Insinuation, innuendo, a seemingly unconscious and innocent disruption of the status quo work better. These are the tools of the Coquette.

Keep the Victim off balance. Give them pleasure first, then withdraw and take it away. Don’t become mechanical with this—one week on, one off, two days on, two off. Mix it up. Keep the Victim happy for three days and leave for five. Return for two weeks, leave for three days. Whatever it takes is what you will do. What it takes depends on the target.

Special Notes: Coquettes don’t get jealous, ever. But they do make their targets jealous. They make triangles—social, romantic, political, whatever. And it makes others love them.

No matter your seduction type, learn to create triangles and gain the confidence of a Coquette.