Don't Make This Mistake...

Ladies and Gentlemen,

Hello again. Today, as part of the lesson, I would like to tell you one of the biggest mistakes you can ever make in a seduction: Saying too much too early.

Don't make this mistake.

As I know that I have mentioned, a bit of mystery is the heart of seduction. Your target should wonder about you. This gives the person something to think about in his/her spare time...the time when you are away, mainting the distance necessary for a good and successful seduction. This is why telling too much about yourself too early is a huge mistake.

Yes, people always say that they want to know everything about you. You are sooo fasinating, sooo interesting, and sooo mysterious--they wonder how your mind works. Don't tell them. If you tell them how your mind works, why you are the person that you are, etc. then you are no longer interesting.

This is not to say that you should not tell people anything about yourself. Most people enjoy talking about themselves, but they will eventually ask you about yourself--if only to know who they are divulging their secrets to. This is why talking about yourself is an art.

A few Keys:

1. Remember that your goal is to entice the other person. That doesn't mean that you only tell things about yourself that you know that they will like. This may make them suspicious--everyone has a flaw, so your victim with delve deep to find yours. They may find out things that you do not want them to know this way.

2. Allow yourself to have a few little quirks, foibles, even a character flaw. This makes you human and a bit more approachable in general. It also makes you lovable. No one really wants someone who is 100% perfect. It's daunting to comepete with. But 100% perfect for them, that is the key. You can have a few quirks, your victim will probably enjoy them. They make you memorable.

3. As a Rule: Say less than necessary. By doing this, you pique the person's interest. They will wonder or ask questions. You do not have to answer all, or (if you are Very good at the game) any, of the questions. Your victims will build your character in their minds and you will not contradict yourself...more than you want to.
****If you need an example of this, watch the movie Spy Game and watch Robert Redford's character. He says so little and people assume so much, and things tend to turn out the way he wants them to. Now, none of you are spies like Redford's character, but the concept is the same in seduction. Tell less, they imagine more, and you are all the more attractive to them.

4. Don't Lie: You do not always have to tell 100% of the truth, in fact many people would prefer that you didn't, but that doesn't mean that you should lie. Lying is a problem in seduction for the same reason that it is a problem in life--the webs get tangled. Eventually, you may have to make something you lied about true. Then what do you do.


Ladies and Gentlemen, always, always, always remember Key #3! As a rule, say less than necessary. If you are ever tempted to lie, don't. Just pick and choose what details you include in a story and the story will be interesting...really.

People are always more interested in what you Don't say than what you Do say. They like to read between the lines and figure you out. Try it and see. Say less, but be noticeable. People will ask you more questions and be more intrigued by you than the person who says so much more. They know what he is thinking. They wonder about you.

Aim well.