Anti-seducers: quick notes

Everyone,

Just a quick note today on Anti-seducers. Your goal is, of course, not to be one of these; however, all of us have a few qualities of the anti-seducer.

Greed, stinginess, windbaggery, clingy-ness, all of these are qualities of the anti-seducer. Greed points that nothing--including you--will satisfy the victim. Stinginess points to more than just the pocketbook but a lack of emotion necessary for a satisfying seduction. Windbaggery: being smart is a plus in many cases, but there are people who simply never know when to stop talking. Windbags talk until their audience loses interest, then think that by talking more they will recapture that interest--this is hardly ever the case. Clingy-ness points to a lack of confidence in yourself. Yes you want to be near the other person, need to be to seduce them. But overexposure can be worse than underexposure: with underexposure, the victim doesn't know enough to look your way, in overexposure, they know too much to keep looking.

Remember mystery. Victims, no matter what they say, do not always like open books. There are areas, like finance, where mystery is bad. But, in seduction, mystery is good.

The victim should wonder about you. You are the source of an intriguing game, and the victim doesn't really know what the prize in the middle of the maze is. You give them glimpses, peeks, etc. but only periodically. The less you show, the more they imagine, the faster they are yours for the taking.

Enjoy the game. And see you in the next installment.