The Rake

Bond, James Bond. Why do women want him? Even the women that know who and what he is still want him. Why?

Welcome to the world of the Rake.

Rake’s are smooth, but not too smooth. (Women do like a rough edge or two.) They are alternately calm and collected, passionate and ardent in their desire. Sometimes, he seems to look at only you, to want only you. And, in that moment, he does.

“Intense desire has a distracting power on a woman.” –Robert Greene

1. Rakes let themselves go free, abandon into the moment. They take risks and enjoy them. Women love this—otherwise James Bond would never get as many women as he did.
2. Rakes know that men are drawn visually and women are drawn by words. They use this to their advantage. They choose words that hypnotize, suggest, and impact the Victims—the words are akin to drugging the Victim, distracting them. Many words may even seem un-provocative; this only enhances the one word that is provocative, the one that is different.
3. Rakes have no problems with resistance. If a woman resists, it’s only more satisfying in the end. If there is not resistance, he creates some. It’s more enjoyable.
4. He doesn’t give a single damn what anyone thinks, sometimes in the extreme. His wit may bite, his sarcasm may lay people at his feet, but he stays confident in himself. He enjoys his own company when he doesn’t want another’s and when he does, there is always someone willing.
5. He may be cruel, dangerous even, but it still attracts women. They want to reform him. They get sucked in thinking it’s possible.
6. He has a reputation. Danger, cruelty, adventure, a fetish for loose women—none of this matters. He never makes it less than it is. He did those things that gave him a reputation…and women want him more for it.

Personally, I love a good Rake. But when involved, I remember that this is just as much a game to them as it is to me. It is possible to turn the thrill of adventure into a relationship, but both parties must be ready and willing to do so.