"Powerful people are not necessarily different from everyone else, but they are treated differently, and this has a big effect on their personalities." (The Art of Seduction, p. 159). Mr. Greene is right. People of this personality type are treated differently. This shapes some of their habits, thoughts, actions and breeds suspicion in their minds. They're used to people wanting things from them. This means that they will be harder to seduce...but not impossible.
Recognizing them:
-The people around them treat them differently, defer to them. This is not because of money, power, fame, prestige, or position, but because of the sheer force of their personalities.
-They may be introverted, extroverted, young, old, etc. but all those of this type like genuine people. They are constantly surrounded by those who are angling for something.
Seducing them:
Do:
1. Be honest, even blunt. You will seem genuine and they will appreciate the risk you took in being so honest. (It can be dangerous to be honest with those in power.)
2. Act as their equal or superior. There are many people who fawn around them, telling them how great they are. You need to be set apart from them. Acting your Victim's equal may well be a new experience for them.
3. Be patient and clever. This seduction will take time.
Don't:
1. Use the usual tactics of charm and flattery. They will see through it and disdain you for using them.
2. Don't idolize them. As said before, many fawn over these people, they do not want a lover who constantly does so as well.
Special Considerations:
-These people are so difficult to seduce because they have less mental space for seduction. Their minds are almost constantly laden with cares and responsibilities.
-They are suspicious. You must find a way to help them lay this aside.
-No matter how they appear, these people really do long to be seduced/swept off their feet by love. They long to forget their cares and have fun. Help them do this; they will love you for it.
Though this may be one of the hardest seductions, it will likely be one of the most rewarding. As you seduce them, they will come to depend on you. You will have to be ingenious and nimble of mind, but you will have a powerful ally who relies on you.
Remember that, in this game, the reward always equals the risk. Go after the one you want. Happy hunting.
You want to influence people, have romantic liaisons, or simply become a more likable person: this blog can help. There is an art to successful social interaction, but anyone can learn it. You only have to wish to, learn, and practice. I can teach you.
Friday, January 29, 2010
Monday, January 25, 2010
Dazzle their senses...The Sensualist
The most famous of these was Marc Antony. Cleopatra dazzled him with her theatricality; she considered every sense--sight, sound, touch, smell--and titillated them. That is what you must do to seduce this type.
Recognizing them:
This Victim type can be very shy and shrink away from standing out. But they all have "overactive senses." They may show this in clothing (fashion, color, style) or much more subtly. One that I knew loved good food and would moan with nearly every bite he took. No matter what it is, they are very responsive to their environment. Maybe they're depressed when it rains or excited by certain smells. In societies that de-emphasize sensual experiences, you have to look a little closer to find them, but they can be wonderful to seduce.
Keys:
Do:
1. Aim for their senses...ALL of them. Take them beautiful places, put on spectacles (Cleopatra), use physical lures, and PAY ATTENTION TO DETAIL.
2. Pay attention to detail: "the devil is in the details" and that is where you will win your victim. Take the time to plan your attack.
3. Stimulate as many senses as possible.
The great thing about Sensualists is that you can use the same tactics and they will fall for them again and again. That doesn't mean that you shouldn't vary your attacks. Use spectacle one moment and commune with nature the next (for instance, a parade may be a good spectacle, followed by a luscious picnic lunch by a quiet point in a river for your next encounter...whatever you can think of to involve their senses).
However you do it, keep it up, and they are yours. Happy Hunting.
Recognizing them:
This Victim type can be very shy and shrink away from standing out. But they all have "overactive senses." They may show this in clothing (fashion, color, style) or much more subtly. One that I knew loved good food and would moan with nearly every bite he took. No matter what it is, they are very responsive to their environment. Maybe they're depressed when it rains or excited by certain smells. In societies that de-emphasize sensual experiences, you have to look a little closer to find them, but they can be wonderful to seduce.
Keys:
Do:
1. Aim for their senses...ALL of them. Take them beautiful places, put on spectacles (Cleopatra), use physical lures, and PAY ATTENTION TO DETAIL.
2. Pay attention to detail: "the devil is in the details" and that is where you will win your victim. Take the time to plan your attack.
3. Stimulate as many senses as possible.
The great thing about Sensualists is that you can use the same tactics and they will fall for them again and again. That doesn't mean that you shouldn't vary your attacks. Use spectacle one moment and commune with nature the next (for instance, a parade may be a good spectacle, followed by a luscious picnic lunch by a quiet point in a river for your next encounter...whatever you can think of to involve their senses).
However you do it, keep it up, and they are yours. Happy Hunting.
Thursday, January 21, 2010
They need you to fill their lives...The Idol Worshippers
Never satisfied with themselves or their own lives, they seek others to fill it for them--something to worship. They're always looking for something else.
Recognizing them:
-These people are almost always pouring themselves into some cause or religion so deeply that it consumes their lives. Don't mistake this for being a work-aholic. Work-aholics like work, but they do have other interests, other things that they do or are interested in. And they tend to stick to the one or two kinds of work that they love.
-Idol Worshippers tend to shift around from one cause to another over the years. These causes may even be conflicting. That is not an issue for the Victim because they were never really looking for the cause, they were looking for something to fill their life.
Seducing them:
Do:
1. Let them worship you. You simply replace their cause/religion/etc.
2. At first, appear to share their spiritual interest, join them in worshipping it, or introduce them to a new cause. After a time, you replace them.
3. HIDE YOUR FLAWS (or cover them, make them seem not so much like flaws).
4. Be/ mirror the qualities that your victim aspires to or worships.
5. Let romance and religion seem to be the same.
Don't:
1. Burst your victim's bubble. If they wish to think that you are super human, let them think so. Do everything you can to keep them thinking that and they will overlook anything that may countermand their perception.
2. NEVER try to elevate them to your level. They want to be below you, worshipping you on the pedestal. Being on the pedestal themselves makes them intensely uncomfortable.
3. NEVER seem like you worship them, for any reason.
Keys to remember about this type:
1. They have overactive minds, making them suspicious on some levels. This is partly because they lack physical stimulation. Give them some, and it will distract them (hiking, boating, sex, anything with a large physical component will do).
2. This type often has low self-esteem, but DO NOT try to raise it. They are comfortable as they are and really wish to stay that way.
Also, this type can make wonderful short term victims, but the need to always find some new cause will eventually lead them away to something else.
Enjoy the game.
Recognizing them:
-These people are almost always pouring themselves into some cause or religion so deeply that it consumes their lives. Don't mistake this for being a work-aholic. Work-aholics like work, but they do have other interests, other things that they do or are interested in. And they tend to stick to the one or two kinds of work that they love.
-Idol Worshippers tend to shift around from one cause to another over the years. These causes may even be conflicting. That is not an issue for the Victim because they were never really looking for the cause, they were looking for something to fill their life.
Seducing them:
Do:
1. Let them worship you. You simply replace their cause/religion/etc.
2. At first, appear to share their spiritual interest, join them in worshipping it, or introduce them to a new cause. After a time, you replace them.
3. HIDE YOUR FLAWS (or cover them, make them seem not so much like flaws).
4. Be/ mirror the qualities that your victim aspires to or worships.
5. Let romance and religion seem to be the same.
Don't:
1. Burst your victim's bubble. If they wish to think that you are super human, let them think so. Do everything you can to keep them thinking that and they will overlook anything that may countermand their perception.
2. NEVER try to elevate them to your level. They want to be below you, worshipping you on the pedestal. Being on the pedestal themselves makes them intensely uncomfortable.
3. NEVER seem like you worship them, for any reason.
Keys to remember about this type:
1. They have overactive minds, making them suspicious on some levels. This is partly because they lack physical stimulation. Give them some, and it will distract them (hiking, boating, sex, anything with a large physical component will do).
2. This type often has low self-esteem, but DO NOT try to raise it. They are comfortable as they are and really wish to stay that way.
Also, this type can make wonderful short term victims, but the need to always find some new cause will eventually lead them away to something else.
Enjoy the game.
Wednesday, January 20, 2010
A Quick story
Ladies and Gentleman,
Appearances are how we are fist judged. Superficial and possibly completely wrong, it doesn't matter. Therefore, appearances are important. Remember this when reading the story:
I recently moved to a new area. It is near an area I had lived in some time before, but I did not know anyone in this area. Having lived nearby, however, I knew the type of people who lived there and the general type of clothing the people wore, how they spoke, how they interacted. I used all of this information to my distinct advantage at a gathering a few days ago.
The gathering was a Casual after 6 affair (meaning that men wore suits or sport coats and women dresses or skirt ensembles--more on this later). Knowing that most of the women would be dressed in a shirt dress with an accessory belt or a nice wool skirt and blouse, I took a calculated risk.
I dressed in Goth attire.
Now, to be completely candid, it was not complete Goth attire. There were strappy black heels instead of the regular boots and a knee length black denim skirt. But the lacey black, mandarin collared shirt framed my neck as though I were a vampire. And the dice/handcuff earrings were standard. The makeup was a toned down version of standard Goth.
It was a startling contrast in the crowd.
Even though I had arrived somewhat early to the affair, those who walked through the door began staring not long after. And many people sought to make my acquaintance that evening.
What is the lesson to be learned from this?
1. The lesson of Pauline Bonaparte. She was an startling sight at many gatherings becuase she put the effort into her wardrobe to make sure that the pieces were striking on her and, still, harmonious hen placed together. Never was their one accessory, dress, shoe, or hairstyle that anyone could pick out to say "that object made that look." It all worked well together, and looked perfect on her.
NOTE: This is not only a lesson for women. MEN, women notice how you present yourselves as well. You can startle us as simply as we startle you. Even the manliest of men should take a little time and put some effort in here.
2. The other attendees sought me out. It was not the other way around. The look, combined with an air of confidence, was enough to attract them.
3. My calculated risk paid off because I appeared different. I'd done the research and knew what I was walking into, so I capitalized on the situation. This is what you must do in seduction. Use what you know, root out what you don't know, and use the calculated guess/risk to make up the difference.
Notes:
-They did not know me before this. I have met many of them now. Will I be walking around in Goth attire everyday? No, because it is not appropriate for everything I do. But it got their attention.
-Now that I have their attention, seduction is much easier. The people are already intrigued (proven by their seeking me out).
The next step is to keep their attention. Will I use such a tactic again? Not anytime soon. I do not need it yet. Save the surprise/shock moments for when you need them. Will I blend into the rest of them now? No. NEVER do this. You must be noticed by others--not constantly so, but remembered. Also, you do not want everyone thinking that you used a shock maneuver simply to get attention.
Public attention is fleeting, momentary. And you are easily forgotten afterward. No, this was a tactic to quickly enter the minds/spirits of the people, to make them be just enough intrigued with me to learn more. Now, I can slowly make other contradictions and give myself depth of character.
We will go more into all that, once the victim summaries are finished and we begin the real seduction process, soon.
Appearances are how we are fist judged. Superficial and possibly completely wrong, it doesn't matter. Therefore, appearances are important. Remember this when reading the story:
I recently moved to a new area. It is near an area I had lived in some time before, but I did not know anyone in this area. Having lived nearby, however, I knew the type of people who lived there and the general type of clothing the people wore, how they spoke, how they interacted. I used all of this information to my distinct advantage at a gathering a few days ago.
The gathering was a Casual after 6 affair (meaning that men wore suits or sport coats and women dresses or skirt ensembles--more on this later). Knowing that most of the women would be dressed in a shirt dress with an accessory belt or a nice wool skirt and blouse, I took a calculated risk.
I dressed in Goth attire.
Now, to be completely candid, it was not complete Goth attire. There were strappy black heels instead of the regular boots and a knee length black denim skirt. But the lacey black, mandarin collared shirt framed my neck as though I were a vampire. And the dice/handcuff earrings were standard. The makeup was a toned down version of standard Goth.
It was a startling contrast in the crowd.
Even though I had arrived somewhat early to the affair, those who walked through the door began staring not long after. And many people sought to make my acquaintance that evening.
What is the lesson to be learned from this?
1. The lesson of Pauline Bonaparte. She was an startling sight at many gatherings becuase she put the effort into her wardrobe to make sure that the pieces were striking on her and, still, harmonious hen placed together. Never was their one accessory, dress, shoe, or hairstyle that anyone could pick out to say "that object made that look." It all worked well together, and looked perfect on her.
NOTE: This is not only a lesson for women. MEN, women notice how you present yourselves as well. You can startle us as simply as we startle you. Even the manliest of men should take a little time and put some effort in here.
2. The other attendees sought me out. It was not the other way around. The look, combined with an air of confidence, was enough to attract them.
3. My calculated risk paid off because I appeared different. I'd done the research and knew what I was walking into, so I capitalized on the situation. This is what you must do in seduction. Use what you know, root out what you don't know, and use the calculated guess/risk to make up the difference.
Notes:
-They did not know me before this. I have met many of them now. Will I be walking around in Goth attire everyday? No, because it is not appropriate for everything I do. But it got their attention.
-Now that I have their attention, seduction is much easier. The people are already intrigued (proven by their seeking me out).
The next step is to keep their attention. Will I use such a tactic again? Not anytime soon. I do not need it yet. Save the surprise/shock moments for when you need them. Will I blend into the rest of them now? No. NEVER do this. You must be noticed by others--not constantly so, but remembered. Also, you do not want everyone thinking that you used a shock maneuver simply to get attention.
Public attention is fleeting, momentary. And you are easily forgotten afterward. No, this was a tactic to quickly enter the minds/spirits of the people, to make them be just enough intrigued with me to learn more. Now, I can slowly make other contradictions and give myself depth of character.
We will go more into all that, once the victim summaries are finished and we begin the real seduction process, soon.
I am jaded; I am cynical; I am the Roue....
Hello, My Dear Readers. I have some wonderful stories for you. But business first.
The Roue is probably the most hedonistic of all the victim types. They love pleaure, seek pleasure, live for pleasure (or did at one time). Now, because of all that, they are jaded, cynical, and in general think that they have tasted everything that the world has to offer.
This is all a mask. Yes, they have experienced life, but they are really hiding a sentimenal side. These Victims tend to regret the loss of their own naivete on some level (conscious or not). Therefore, they are drawn to people who are innocent and young (or young seeming).
To Recognize them:
An easy way to find out what type of people they have been involved with in the past--their most cherished relationships will be with someone who was naive/ innocent/ younger than them/ etc. when they met. Perhaps the Roue had the joy of corrupting them. Perhaps the Roue kept them as innocent as possible, not wanting to tarnish what they love. This is probably the easiest way to tell a Roue.
There are many today who lead hedonistic lives, but they do not all long for what they lost.
To seduce them:
DO:
-Appear somewhat young (at least younger than your victim)
-Keep the appearance of innocence as much as possible (this can be played up by showing how you lack experience)
-Resist their advances. They like to chase you...and, by resisting, you control the dynamics of the relationship.
Don't:
-Give in too quickly or easily. Treat these like they are all Rake Seducer Types in the following way: if you give in too quickly or easily, then the game is over and they move one. You have become the conquested instead of them.
-Don't let your guard down. These types can be dangerously seductive (I know), and once you let your guard down, they have the upper hand and use it every time. You will lose the game.
Roue's can be some of the most fun to seduce. Remember to appear as innocent as possible. These people chase angels.
Happy hunting.
The Roue is probably the most hedonistic of all the victim types. They love pleaure, seek pleasure, live for pleasure (or did at one time). Now, because of all that, they are jaded, cynical, and in general think that they have tasted everything that the world has to offer.
This is all a mask. Yes, they have experienced life, but they are really hiding a sentimenal side. These Victims tend to regret the loss of their own naivete on some level (conscious or not). Therefore, they are drawn to people who are innocent and young (or young seeming).
To Recognize them:
An easy way to find out what type of people they have been involved with in the past--their most cherished relationships will be with someone who was naive/ innocent/ younger than them/ etc. when they met. Perhaps the Roue had the joy of corrupting them. Perhaps the Roue kept them as innocent as possible, not wanting to tarnish what they love. This is probably the easiest way to tell a Roue.
There are many today who lead hedonistic lives, but they do not all long for what they lost.
To seduce them:
DO:
-Appear somewhat young (at least younger than your victim)
-Keep the appearance of innocence as much as possible (this can be played up by showing how you lack experience)
-Resist their advances. They like to chase you...and, by resisting, you control the dynamics of the relationship.
Don't:
-Give in too quickly or easily. Treat these like they are all Rake Seducer Types in the following way: if you give in too quickly or easily, then the game is over and they move one. You have become the conquested instead of them.
-Don't let your guard down. These types can be dangerously seductive (I know), and once you let your guard down, they have the upper hand and use it every time. You will lose the game.
Roue's can be some of the most fun to seduce. Remember to appear as innocent as possible. These people chase angels.
Happy hunting.