A quick note for beginners

Ladies and Gentlemen,

I was having a conversation with a friend last night and realized that not everyone can tell when a man likes a woman, or when a woman likes a man. Therefore, I will give a very brief introduction to the first step of seduction:

Step #1: Choose the right victim!

You must choose someone who responds to you in some way. If they do not seem interested in you, then they will not react to you when you try to seduce them.

How to choose the right victim (short list):

1. They need to have a void that you can fill: this doesn't mean that you should find people that have to lean on "someone" emotionally, physically, or in any other way. Those people don't have a need, they are Needy--and it doesn't matter if it's you they cling to or someone else.

2. Your victim should be attractive to you in some way: he's handsome, she's witty, he's romantic, she's ambitious--whatever it is that attracts you to them. If you don't find someone at least a little attractive, it will be more work than play to seduce them. The Game of Seduction should always feel like play, even though a little work is mixed in.

"It is a stroke of good fortune to find one who is worth seducing.... Most people rush ahead, become engaged or do other stupid things, and in a turn of the hand everything is over, and they know neither what they have won nor what they have lost."

-Soren Kierkegaard

3. Study them: find out as much as you can about your victim before proceeding with the actual seduction. There is no need to let them know you are doing this. In fact, if you are not talking to them about themselves, DON'T mention this. People are by turns flattered, offended, or put off by the fact that you may be researching them. Don't tell them. If you talk to their family/ friends/ associates, let them find out about this indirectly and as the questions of those associates as indirectly as possible. Try to let the conversations happen in passing.
*****You must do this to find what their needs are.

4. The perfect victim for you, depends on you.
No one's perfect victim is the same as another's. Look at your friends and associates--not all of you date the same type of people (let alone the same people) because you do not want the same things. Also, everyone does not respond to you the same way. So the next time your friend has a date or a chosen victim and you don't, don't worry about it. You're just waiting for someone worth seducing.


Also, remember this: The person needs to react to you. They have to be interested in you in some way as well. If they aren't, you are wasting your time. Only seduce those who are reactive to you--these are the seduceable ones. If they never seek your presence, don't enjoy your presence, never smile or joke or ask you about how things are going for you (in a more personal way than just politeness), they are not interested.

You could probably get them that way, but it takes so much more work than seducing someone already susceptible. As a beginner, stay away from this. Learn to play the game before moving onto expert levels.

Enjoy your game.