Keynote: Keep your cool

Dear readers,

In two days I have had two interesting encounters that I thought I would mention to you to illustrate a couple of points in seduction.

Scenario #1:

I was at work and a fairly handsome man comes in with his brother (the brother was actually my customer). I joked back and forth with my customer as I usually do--it puts them at ease in a stressful environment. After a couple moments of this, the brother spoke up and said that he "liked my style." I replied that generally I liked my style too. A few more witty exchanges and a couple of Looks later, I found that my coworker actually knows the family.

key thought: It really doesn't matter if the flirtatious gentleman and I never see each other again because, I kept my cool in the situation. I was able to flirt in a relaxed manner that kept both of us at ease. Do I want to see him again? Sure. But if I don't, it was good practice.

Scenario #2:

Just this morning, I was driving my car and stopped to make a right turn. There was a cyclist in the bicycle lane and I stopped because he had the right of way. (Where I live, not many people actually pay attention to who has the right of way--though they should--and much less to bicyclists.) The man on the bicycle was shocked enough by this that he looked over at me in vague appreciation for obeying the laws before looking away again.
Then he looked back, smiling. I smiled back at him companionably. He looked away to check his bearings and looked back again. This time we held gazes for as long as we could. Then we both had to pay attention to what we were doing.

key note: Similar to the scenario above, this is a very useful situation. You can flirt with no words at all. No matter your gender, practice your own version of the "Come Hither" Look. Give it to people as you pass them. You'll be surprised how much both of you will enjoy it.


Entire conversations are possible without speaking a word...and not just for women.

Practice. Practice. Practice.