Falling in and out of Want:

To my dear Artemis:

Fallig in and out of want can be a problem--but it is also Normal. We can't be on the top of our games all of the time.
Just this past week, I saw one of the objections of my affection and wanted nothing to do with him. This lack of want had nothing to do with anything he did or with any real lack of affection on my part. I was ill. All I wanted to do was hurry home to get back into bed.

But when you have such trouble focusing on your targets, it is likely a lack of patience. Immediate gratification is not the name of the game in Seduction. Seduction takes time and effort to produce the desired results.

When you feel that you are losing your focus, take a day and pull back. Many times the withdrawal can produce a need or uncertainty in our target (why aren't you there today? why didn't you speak with them? did they say something?). You will not likely see this unless the other person seeks you out in some way.

If you cannot choose which target to seduce, seduce them all! Remember, you can conduct many seductions at the same time. We naturally do this with social seductions. Don't believe me? When was the last time that you had ONLY one friend, one acquaintance, one person that you joked with? We do this naturally--in school, at work, at church, in our neighborhoods--so why not in love?
This doesn't mean that you play these people off of one another, flaunt them at one another, or hide them from one another. You are a desireable person to be around, so why not have more than one person around you? Do not make excuses, but do not be too overt either. People enjoy your company. Let them. But making people feel as if they are compared to one another turns them off and makes them feel inadequate.
There is delicate balance between security, need, and insecurity.

Remember, this is a game. So enjoy it.